My experience with women, especially young women, is that they don't really know what they want. However, they definitely know what they don't want. Unfortunately, "what they don't want" is too small to make "what they want" clear to them or us.

She might be waiting to see if someone else comes along and just stringing you along in case he doesn't come along. Give someone else attention and see if she tries to pull you back in!

I think there are 2 primary reasons for us not knowing what we want (I put myself in this category!). 1. By nature, women are very up and down. Blame it on hormones causing moods - one day we're totally happy with our lives (and the men in them) and the next day we're not so sure. I know it's irrational as much as my boyfriend does, but I literally can't stop feeling that way; I can only control how I handle those feelings. 2. Womens' 'roles' seem to be changing much more rapidly than mens. Not only do we want to get married, have a family, etc...but we also now have so much more educational and career opportunity. Therefore, debating where we want to put our focus day-to-day also creates some self confusion. I'm sure it's very difficult for men to be patient with women's 'knowing what they want'....but my experience has been, that a man who stays by my side even on my bad, doubtful days - is such a catch that I always end up wanting to stay with him and overcompensate with love since I feel bad for hurting his feelings on my bad days!

Girls don't know what they want, but they definitely know what they DON'T want. And it's a dude that is willing to wait around for them like a goddamn Christmas ornament. You need to sound off like you have a pair and show this chick you're not going to take her shit. Telling you she "doesn't know what she wants" is a nice way of saying she doesn't want YOU. And it's not anything personal, it's just that she has you figured out and knows you're under her total control. Girls don't want you to be under their total control, it's a major turn off. They want YOU to be in total control of you. So you need to take control of YOURSELF, and without being a total dick send the signal that you're not waiting around for her anymore and at least APPEAR as if you're moving on. Her ambivalence and indecision should not be getting in the way of you living your life.

CD, I am guessing that you're young, because as guys get older they learn that women don't decide what they want like men. Men tend to look at their options and choose an answer or a course of action once the options have been weighed. Women are much more likely to want to explore all options, and go through much more of a process of making decisions. This girl doesn't know what she wants because she doesn't want to commit to a decision that she may regret. If you care for her, give her the time to go through this process of finding out what she wants. Don't make the mistake of thinking she knows what she wants and she is just playing games. She does not know what she wants, other than she knows she doesn't want to make a decision right now. Most women need a lot of patientce. This is often difficult for men, who tend to see decisions in terms of 'this or that.' Women ask themselves many, many more 'what if,' questions, and go through much more of a thought process when making even simple decisions. My wife can very rarely give me a simple answer when I ask her questions like "where do you want to go to dinner tonite?" She will often say 'no,' to every suggestion I make, but she will not provide any suggestions of her own. This can be immensely frustrating if you're thinking like a guy, but it's just part of the very thoughtful and even emotional decision-making process women go through for things that might seem simple and straightforward for men. Hang in there and give her time. And you should know that your patience with her will be more likely to have you be what she wants!

She may be a bit confused baout the whole situation (doesnt know what she should do? doesnt know if youre the rigth one?). Be there for her and tell her that youre here for her...but if she keeps you waiting theres no reason to stick around unless she gives you a sloid answer. The thing is, and this is coming from a girl, waiting for someone is ok...but you need to be careful, because if her feelings are drifting and yours are stagnant, you may be left alone. This is somethign you two will probably need to trade dialouge about if this stays the same.