I did in my younger years (20's). I NEVER (honestly) had sex with any of the women. I had nude massages (she and I were nude) and I had massages where only I was nude. It was usually my choice, but not always. The escorts I had dinner with, talked with, watched TV with, and treated like dates (expensive dates!). I was curious at the time, not dating anyone, and afraid to do so. Not into rejection or committment. I learned alot about women, the differences in how women act and look, etc.
I was respectful of them and they treated me with respect as well. If they did not, I called their employer and asked for my money back. I only used the same 2-3 places, so they came to know and like me. They were used to truck drivers, drunk married men, and other men who expected or wanted only sex, or to men who did not treat them as anything but a whore, which in my experience with them, none of them were. When they could make $1000-2000. tax free CASH a week NOT "hooking," why would they want to?
Interestingly, some were college grads, and after awhile I asked for the same few women only. The women I "clicked" with, and with whom I had an intelligent and fun time. They also appreciated being treated as they would be if they were on a real date.
People have stereotyped and made fun of massage parlors and escorts for a long time. Alot of "value judgments" made by people who know nothing about them. Not unlike people who think many or all exotic dancers or strippers are "trash" or much beneath them in their morals and values. You'd be surprised to know how many strippers are putting kids through school or paying to raise their single parent families. And after their shift is over, they go home and are just like any other woman as far as housework, fixing food for their kids, etc.
Unless you have known these people, and been with the with the types of people I used, I guess that is natural. We are a very judgmental society. I never regretted any of it and was just lucky I could afford it at the time. It was $100-150. an hour, and in the 1970's that was alot. I usually had them stay with me for 2-3 hours, but a few of them who worked on their own, became friends with me and stayed much longer at no additional fee.
The only drawback to the nude massages was that the Baby Oil they used made my skin itch and break out over time, so eventually I got some organic type massage oil at a "head shop" (what they called them then) and it worked fine.
Wish I had kept a journal back then to be able to read now in my senior years...
I am an adult massage provider. I am always amazed at the stereotypes and judgements of others.
If you like to learn more about massage providers check out http://www.sensualzen.com/ You'll find a lot of different massage providers there and perhaps learn something. I wish the world was not so judgemental!
I love going to adult massage parlors, or "rub and tugs". It is great having a woman be nude with me and then give me a great release, as I touch their bodies. It's nicer than a hooker in many ways, except you don't get the vaginal penatration. They spend almost an hour rubbing you while you are naked, then give you what you need. Some are really good with their hands, better than some professional vagina's that I have used.
I worked with a man who was a regular customer of "spas" where he would go for massages. This guy is in his late 40's and I am in my early 40's and female and he thought nothing of telling me about his "release" while were walking together during our lunchbreaks. In a way, I only listened because I felt sorry for him. He is a bachelor with 3 cats and he is very selfish. It is no surprise that he conducts himself the way he does, what woman could tolerate him in a normal man and woman relationship?
Sadly, these Russian and Asian women that service him are probably just doing it for the money until they pay off the people that smuggled them over into the United States. He uses his credit card at these so called "spas" and he had dispute with his credit card company for airline tickets to some Asian locale.
Each spa and each parlor, and each personal service company is different, obviously. Some are much more reputable than others, and some are strictly a cover for illegal sexual pursuits, while many others are not.
Just reading your post you are cut from a totally different carpet than "Jimmy". Some men treat women like they are "things" and intimate activities like something you could buy at the store. All men are not the same, I don't paint with a broad brush. :-)
There used to be a lot more services like this available in my home town than there are today. There were a couple police stings that discouraged them. The first time I went to get what was called an "Asian Massage" in the ad I wasn't sure what would happen. The girl performed the massage with me draped, then at the end she asked me if I was "finished"...when I asked what she meant, she didn't say anything but removed the towel covering me. We talked more money for the tip, then she jacked me off. It didn't take but about 30 seconds for me to cum because it was relatively unexpected but I was definitely hoping for it. Other places around here the girls will get naked and let you suck their tits while they jack you off at the end. I got a massage from a girl in a hotel room once too....she was clothed and I was naked. She rubbed me down for a while then asked if I wanted a hand job or blow job, but I asked if I could fuck her instead and she went and got undressed and let me fuck her. I went back to her one more time after that....it was a thrill.
I did, and it is alot cheaper here in Indonesia about $30 an for 1.5 hour, including tub baths and hand job, as much as you want,
but you need to give extra tip to the girl about 5-20 dollars to get them ti strip and luckyly you can grope aroung their naked bodies.
The girls are mostly pretty (typical asian girls). and the $30 price include facilities in the parlor such as Swiming pool, steam room, oxygen room, fitness equipments
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