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by Anonymous on December 3rd, 2006

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I am having feelings for my boyfriends best friend and i know i shouldnt but i cant help the way i feel. and im a nice girl and could never cheat on anybody and i like my boyfriend so much but i cant help to notice his best friend. i dont know what to do

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  • by ...... on November 18th, 2007

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    keep your boyfriend and forget his friend a good sound relationship is worth more than a passing fantasy.

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  • by Anonymous on December 3rd, 2006

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    I think this is a very normal thing to be experiencing. How long have you been with your boyfriend? Perhaps this could be evidence of some boredom with the relationship. In any case, it's perfectly normal and okay to think about other guys; have you ever thought that maybe your boyfriend has been attracted to your best friend at some point? It is normal for boyfriends and girlfriends to think about other people occasionally, as long as they do not act on those feelings, or tell their partners. This can lead to jealousy, insecurity, and heartbreak.

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  • by Amber757 on December 3rd, 2006

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    Never leave the one you love for the one you like, because in the end, the you like will leave you for the one they love.

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  • by jenniferx on December 3rd, 2006

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    don't do it girl. she's your best friend. it would be a huge mistake. get it out of your head. who's more important? her boyfriend or her?

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  • by Anonymous on October 29th, 2009

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    I have the exact same problem, i love my boyfriend and i have been with him for a year and a half. i would never cheat on anybody, but i've fallen for his best friend.
    me and the best friend spoke about it and he says he feels exactly the same way but nothing could ever happen because he wouldn't do that to my boyfriend.
    i don't know what to do and i told my boyfriend i have a small crush on the bestfriend and he was amazing about it; he said he never wants us to spilt up so we'll work through it together and get over it because he loves me, but i can't get the best friend out my head, what should i do?

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  • by TWA on December 3rd, 2008

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    Have you considered not cheating on your boyfriend? Seems like a good choice.

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  • by AnonymousGirl on December 3rd, 2008

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    Think about why you like his best friend. Is it because the grass looks greener? Remember that your boyfriend is your boyfriend for a reason. It may be a wise idea to refrain from talking to his best friend for awhile or at least try to find something out about him that will cause you not to like him.

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  • by Lukezor on February 12th, 2008

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    Screw both of them

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  • by southernbelle2808 on May 3rd, 2010

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    wow, so perfect. so heres my situation.... i have been talking/ dating my boyfriend for 4 months. at first it was really fun and i enjoyed every minute, but lately i have just kind of lost attraction but i still like him. for example lastnight we had a pretty "fun" night, except for the fact that i didnt have fun. i was kind of bored to tell you the truth. So, his bestfreinds older brother is also in our little group and i have noticed him since before day one! in addition, yesturday he told my best friends that he wished that she had set me up with him instead of my boyfriend! the brother is cuter, has a better job, and has a car where as my friend has nothin goin for him! please help!!!!!

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  • by Anonymous on June 22nd, 2008

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    You are young, you should sleep with him. This is your time to experiment so don't let feelings of committment let you be confused with your desires.

    This is one of the only times you will have so persue it

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  • by RossManChild on December 3rd, 2006

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    Follow your heart

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  • by MovieCritic19 on November 18th, 2007

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    Go with what you feel is right, follow your heart....

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  • by xbloodyxcupcakex on December 15th, 2009

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    Babe, haha...I have I had the same issue, except it was his brother. I didn't know why, I just couldnt help it. I felt so confused and began thinking maybe...maybe..maybe. I broke my finger badly and had to have pins put through it (metal rods through the marrow), so I was on druggs that made me high and out of it. My friend invited me over and i was still on the meds and i saw my boyfriend and his brother.
    That night I emailed the brother how much i loved him and broke up with my baby.
    It was the worse thing i ever did.
    That night i sobered up and began crying over my finger ,but worse what i did. I had gotten my wish to tell him. My boyfriend at the moment was who i wanted though. I got the email typed back to him saying how i didnt mean any of that. One of the worst things was my "bestfriend" encouraged me to do this becuz she had a crush on my boyfriend at the time.
    Jay (my boyfriend i had broken up with) began dating another girl and that killed me. he has lost a lot of trust in me. We got back together...and i rmember him saying "I just wish you would have told me, we could have talked it out love." and from there out some of the worst fights started.
    We're just really building back up to what we began with. It takes work, and the bestfriend or for my case, brother, is not worth it. If your boyfriend loves you and treats you right, then keep him if you like him back.
    DOnt let friends effect your decision sit alone. Thinking about it. What would life be without him?

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