Often when I'm talking to a woman she will suddenly bend to brush something off her shoe or smack her upper thigh in mid sentence. Why? Does the clit become annoying if it is caught behind the labia as it becomes erect? The suddeness is startling at times

Why would you assume she was adjusting her clit? I know that men have to adjust their package as they become aroused but I can assure you that is not usually an issue for women unless she has an unusually large clit. Any way it is usually the labia that swells when a women becomes aroused, not the clit. But the labia also do not need to be adjusted. Smacking the upper thigh would not make anything move as things are pretty loosely packed and well lubricated in a females genital area and are able to move freely without their owner making room for them. Probably it is much more likely, if you really are so hot that you think women become aroused just talking to you, that she is shy and looking for a distraction. Either she actually has something on her shoe, or is showing you her bum to indicate attraction. The thigh slapping thing, hmm never seen it but maybe she is showing off how firm her thighs are..inviting you to touch her, could be a few things but really probably not an adjustment to accommodate a swollen clit. Hope this is helpful.

Thanks. I'm still a bit confused it's not one woman who does this. If so I would chalk it up to turrets or something. It happens about once a week and with a few diff people. I also notice the weird sudden tippy toes move. Which I have no idea if thats the same thing. My guess was this was on way to shift things around just because I could relate to that. Maybe women don't need to do that I'm just a guy who is once again realizing I don't have any idea what's up with women. I can tell when people are flirting with me and this really doesn't seem like that. Its so sudden it seems like something they have to do like an itch they need to scratch...