Do you think its appropriate for a parent to touch a child's personal items? Opening all boxes and taking them out? Throwing them away in the trash can?
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Depends on the age of the child and what kind of personal items you are talking about.
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No, its not appropriate. Parents shouldn't punish children this way and should not throw items away. Parents should have better sense than to hurt a person this way.
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What kind of personal things??? I know children need to be monitored and their bedroom is not off limits as long as they are living in your home under your roof.
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This depends on the age of the child. At 12, yes the parent has not only the right but the obligation to KNOW AND CONTROL what is going on in his/her children's lives. But children will not suddenly grow a brain on their 18th birthday. If they have not been allowed growing amounts of decision making and been allowed to experience their own consequences they will have a hard time of it. Parents still need to exercise their right to KNOW even when it involves "snooping" in locked drawers and reading private emails. The control needs to be increasingly co-operative but if it's illegal or if it's immoral the only acceptable answer is "NO EXCUSE, SIR!" West Point has that part right.
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It is a sign of disrespect against the child. There should be a discussion first giving the child different alternatives, such as boxing them up and storing them properly, or some other way to handle it. It the parent simply got mad one day and threw everything away without any prior discussion, this is wrong.
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No! Especially not throwing them out. It seems a lot of parents think it's their "duty" to look into their childrens' personal things, but that's just going to stop their children from ever really trusting them.
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sometimes, yes!!! the child's age, the reason for touching the personal items, what the items are ... basically, i'm imagining that what i'm talking about doesn't matter - the child wasn't 2 and dad wasn't opening a box to throw away a diaper. my guess is that what you're getting at is that a parent threw away some things that were important to the child, resulting in sadness to the child. almost all the time, parents need to be respectful of a child's property. dangerous things, not necessarily. if my daughter has, and she has, accumulated 50,000 pictures of beauty and the beast and she no longer has a place to walk, then i need to sit down and talk with her about what to do to get the firepile cut back. a child's property can be taken away when the child understands, when it's for a good reason, and when the parent does it for a good reason. being mean is just mean, if you know what i mean...
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Absolutely not... Unless of course they are afraid that you are using drugs. Then, Just like the Police, if they have "probable cause." you are screwed! But every child deserves the respect of privacy if they earn it and respect it themselves.
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I sympathise with you and do not feel throwing out your personal mementos was right. When my son got to be about 15 we built a cupboard with shelves so he could store all his old toys and collections he wanted to keep so they were safe but they were not all over the floor. Worked for us all. Now he is 21 and living away from home and yes you guessed it his cupboard full of mementos is still here at home and still full.
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Depends on the circumstances. I do believe that affording a child privacy is important as a life lesson. It's respectful. To have the child respect you, you must respect the child, esp. as they reach adolescence. However, if there is reason to believe that there is a serious problem, ie, drugs, suicidal ideation, weapons, etc., that right to privacy is voided. Throwing items away, I'm not sure why anyone would do that. I can't think of a good reason. I only had to invade one of my five children's privacy one time. I did not throw anything away. Well, other than garbage which I did throw away, candy wrappers and the like. I still did not read notes or her diary. I was right to look.
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