ANSWERS: 8
  • I have a bad feeling about this...
  • This doesn't sound like a real winner here. Why do you want to marry him? Is it because of the baby? Another thought: don't marry someone who isn't willing to talk to you about anything and everything.
  • Take the time to reevaluate your priorities. What is the reason you would want to be married? Do you own Property together? Do you have joint accounts on anything? Do you share morality, opinions, ideals? Or just a baby? You don't have to get married sweetheart. That is an outdated ideal that has simply lost its purpose in this society. Marriage... is for the homosexuals. It is a fairy tale ideal that little girls raised on Disney grow up believing is expected of them, without being provided the means by which one should know how to attain it and make it work. Wait and see, live with him for as long as you can and you'll just have to grow up fast if it doesn't work out. Most important of all... Don't try and be psychic. You simply don't know what will happen so don't lead him around by the nose on preconcieved notions.
  • Start a secret savings account. That way when the arguments really start (when you are both exhausted) you won't feel trapped and you won't escalate the row to breaking point. Don't do stuff to 'get him to want' things, he'll just feel trapped and resent you.
  • It sounds like you got pregnant in order to "force his hand" to make some type of move. This is probably not the greatest idea. My two bosses were dating for 8 years and got engaged last June. The female boss got pregnant and her fiance willingly married her last month. The baby moved things along quicker than anticipated but their intention was to get married when they got engaged. Do not try to force things. It will only be a great source of misery if you do.
  • I think your focus right now should be on getting ready for your baby.
  • I may have worded this wrong. He says he moved in with me not because of the baby & I told him not to move in with me out of obligation. I did not want that. I want him to be with me because he loves me. I like to openly discuss things with him but he has a hard time opening up about how he feels. He kisses & caresses me a lot & acts like he wants to take part in my pregancy. It's hard being pregnant on your own so I am glad he is here. I just want to make sure it is not for the wrong reasons. I had discussed him moving in with me before I got pregnant & he suggested getting his own place for a short bit to sort some things out for himself. I got pregnant & all of a sudden he wanted to move in with me. I asked him on several occasions to not do it out of obligation because I did not want that.
  • I'd be more worried about giving birth to a full-grown man! OW! Dats gotta hoit! "I am pregnant with my boyfriend of almost 2 years" ;-)

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