I've been told I can choose to be gay. However, I chose to be gay and am still not attracted to my same sex. What am I doing wrong?
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AntigoneRising
ANSWERS: 23
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I choose to be gay too. Unfortunately, I just can't get enough of the old man!! LOL!
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You're so CRACKING ME UP AGAIN! Maybe you should look at naked girl kitties for a while. Pick up a copy of Playcat.
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The only people who can CHOOSE to be gay or straight are bisexuals... and even then it would still be a case of preferring one gender and denying that you like the other.
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hmmm I think I choose to be gay to ... No not working maybe we should try lobotomy ... there has to be something wrong with us.
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I don't think you can choose, but i kinda don't think it's someting you'r born with eighter. i think it's a feeling. and lighning strikes where it strikes.
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Maybe because whoever told you that is talking out of their bum! Its not something you can choose, you could choose to try it, its like choosing something to eat at the supermarket purely because you have never tried it, nothing wrong with that, but if thats not what you are into then the next time you are shopping you will be back buying the stuff you always did before, if you know what I mean.
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I'm still unable to succeed with this. I even try to watch women's butts as they go by, but I quickly lose interest and forget. Anyone with any more suggestions?
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Try just going for it and having sex with a woman, apparently (I have no personal experience) you get far more sexual gratification from a woman, so maybe that will make you gay?
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You can try to be gay but if its not you sooner or later you will confront yourself and start being you...mayb ur bi-sexual but only you can decide. As long as your happy then your being true to yourself.
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Antigone, in all probability you are straight. You cant CHOOSE. And I shall restate what I just said earlier 'More 'straight' people are bisexual than they care to admit :)
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umm... you're not gay!
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You CAN CHOOSE to be OUT, OPEN, HONEST about who you love. But you can NOT choose to BE GAY....unless you ARE GAY. Being Gay is about 75% emotional draw/attraction TO the same sex. The other 25% is about choosing to ACT on the feelings and attractions that we feel.
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Being gay is not a choice. The American Psychological Association says: "No, human beings can not choose to be either gay or straight. Sexual orientation emerges for most people in early adolescence without any prior sexual experience. Although we can choose whether to act on our feelings, psychologists do not consider sexual orientation to be a conscious choice that can be voluntarily changed." http://www.apa.org/topics/orientation.html#choice
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Here is a hint: you are not gay after all.
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You cannot choose to be gay, but you can choose to be honest with yourself about who you are sexually attracted to. As long as you are honest with yourself about your attractions, you are not doing anything wrong whether your attractions be gay, straight, or bisexual.
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Your not trying hard enough!! There are therapy groups and hormone treatments and special camps you can go to. That'll take the straight out of you !!!
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You tried to choose to be gay? Why?
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sorry but you can't and don't choose to be gay ... you are or your not
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I guess we're just going to have to send you to gay camp. Don't worry. For gays, "roughing it" means staying at a Holiday Inn instead of a Hilton. While you're there, you'll listen to Barbra Streisand and Broadway showtunes all day long. You'll learn about fashion and accessorizing. And the advanced students will practice walking with a swish. If you work hard and pray to the gay god -- currently it's either Angelina or Jake Gyllenhaal -- then maybe you too can be a lucky LGBT person.
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You can choose to have gay sex and not feel the emotional attachment. I experimented with gay sex and had a tremendous amount of fun for four years. I would enjoy having sex with a man again, but would not feel the emotional attachment. I chose to change back to a heterosexual lifestyle in 1987, because I needed the emotional attachment. If you're not emotionally attached to men, but have fun with the sex... then by all means, keep having sex with men. You will know when it is time to change your lifestyle, if that day comes. You have to decide for yourself what you want the most... emotional attachment to a woman, or the pleasure of enjoying another man's stiff penis. Both have a value. Which do you value more, today?
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You can't chose to be gay. You either are or you aren't.
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Forgive me for saying, but this sounds like a rather odd situation. If you're not attracted to your own sex, then you're simply not attracted to your own sex, which is to say, you're not gay. Why would someone be trying to make you think you should be? Follow your instincts.
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if i choose to be a bird will i be one? if i then jump off a bridge will i fly?
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