I've received plenty of these scam-mails. These are usually easy to identify and are often sent to you if you have an account with a certain website, and then suspend it, cancel it, or do not have any activity on it for a while. In fact, I have one right here. This particular scam mail is from Americansingles.com. Here is what it says: hello there Im not sure if my previous email had reached you, has as it? I saw your ad on American Singles.com,I liked what you said, so I thought I would write. I am new to this area and looking for new friends in faith. I just moved near Ronkonkoma from Evanston about a month ago andI must say I really like it here. I haven't met anyone yet, except for my roomate who moved here a while back. She's made some friends through the internet and she says there's a lot of nice and interesting people I might find here. I don't have an email connection yet so I am using my friends. Well, a little about me, Im generally a happy and friendly person. I put other people needs first before mine, i like to make a person smile and laugh, i'm a very outgoing person you have to get to know me. My roomate Christine thought I should email you and she showed me how to send it but nowI can't figure out how to attach my picture here. Christine attached my picture on meetatfriendlymatch.com. You can locate my number 2986262. If you'll think you are interested, you can call me on my cell phone tomorrow at 65252974I like to participate in life and am not a spectator..., so it is good ones in a while to take action I enjoy life and all that it has to give me.I am a energetic woman who places Christ first in my life. Any way we can talk and see what we have in common and possibly get together if it feels comfortable. Bye, Janie P.S. Well, I have to go now, I don't know how long I can use this address till I get my connection so call me and let's see where it goes. How do I know this is fake? I have received 3 identical e-mails like this before. In the previous 3 e-mails, I have had a different name appear in the headline twice, but the number for 'meetatfriendlymatch.com' led me to the same exact profile and picture. Notice how the phone number given is one too many numbers, plus a letter, and there is no area code. Also notice how the 'person' says that she doesn't know how to send a picture, and that she will probably not be using this e-mail for much longer, resulting in an 'unknown recipient' return if you try to e-mail the person. Often times these e-mails are VERY convincing. Whether or not this is a partner site using stored e-mails from the parent site to send scam advertisements, or if its just a pathetic method of trying to scam a person into paying for the service, you should be aware that if there is no subject header stating that 'You have mail on *dating site*!' then this is a scam mail. Sometimes, rather than getting scam-mails, you will receive a profile hit. On Date.com for example, I have tested this and came up with a rather irritating result. New users who sign up for the site IMMEDIATELY receive a 'wink' or some sort of interest signal from two fake profiles. these profiles usually have very generic, basic information. Do not be fooled...these are scams intended to trick the person into paying for the site. If you try to e-mail these profiles you will not get a response. And if you create other profiles you will get those same exact "people" sending you interest notifications within 24 hours! As an experiment, I created 5 seperate profiles with 5 different e-mails...from an 18 year old to a 98 year old man, with no information in the profile at all, and within 24 hours every profile had received those same fake profiles sending them interest notifications! Look for the following signs of a fake profile/e-mail: -Poor grammar in the e-mail/profile (lacking punctuation, periods, etc) -Strange and unfamiliar area codes/phone numbers -"I will not be using this e-mail for much longer" statements -Links to other sites where the 'person' has a picture -Receiving e-mails or 'winks' within 24 hours of posting profile (when it would not even be viewable on the site yet) -Receiving such e-mails shortly after cancelling/suspending accounts -Receiving such e-mails after long periods of inactivity This is why Online Dating is dangerous to your wallet...sites like this will often try to scam you into paying for membership by playing you for a sucker. Here is a list of websites that are well-known to be scammers: Date.com Americansingles.com imatchup.com one2onematch.com interracialmatch.com The following sites are trustworthy and have no ever been known to scam: Match.com Lavalife.com Yahoo! Personals Be careful and don't be suckered. Its amazing how someone can get scammed with the ease of the internet.

One way to find out if the site is fake or attempting to fraud you. Join as an elderly person. Say fifty-five or above. If you get an email later saying that such and such is interested in you. You go to the site and there is some young chick wants your body and it cost you(19.95) to join the site to read her message. It's most likely a scam to get that twenty dollars.

Another one to be wary of is "Geek 2 Geek," the hipster/geek oriented website. I found out about it through a link to an IMDB article. Seemed a good idea, a place where you could find down-to-earth girls into stuff like movies, music, comics, that kind of thing, right? Well, after receiving 3-4 "Winks" from people who were SUPPOSEDLY interested in me, but who'd nonetheless NEVER respond when I wrote them back to follow up (and bear in mind, I had to PAY to renew a monthly membership to do so), I knew that something was up... especially, when I noticed that the "Winks" were coincidently coming about exactly 1-year after the last one did. So essentially, the website was using someone's profile--which might not have even BEEN a real profile--to send (or make it look like this person had sent) a Wink, to keep me paying to reply. What sucks is I spent some time being confused and mad by the girls themselves, wondering why they'd wink me and not respond. Oh well, just save your own time and money, and don't fall into the same trap (for that, or ANY other dating website...).

Hello! Such a pity to hear that most popular dating sites are involved in such miserable stuffs. Myself, I am an owner of new free dating site. Doing all my best to attract but not to lose members on my site. I try to cath on dating scammers and delete their profiles. I wonder why these sites do such things. Early or later it's known and their scam is revealed. Their reputation is going down. Only honest buisiness is stable. Once you register there just be careful and listen to your intuiton. Nataliya, owner of free dating site www.lovedivers.com

also look at the profile of the person "winking" at you. if you are a 34 year old black man and the profile says they are looking for a 21 to 25 year old white man, it might be a scam site. i have received winks from "user" who where listed as lesbians, looking for a specific age range or race to which i don't belong or even identical emails with different names.

I think you can check if the site has the related agreement and policy. ---Suny