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by leeshi on November 29th, 2006

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Has anyone here been in a relationship with someone 6 months out of recovery?(alcohol, weed, coke, pills, crack, anything) I'm wondering how much to trust the person I'm talking to now. I feel like I can trust him, but I've been known to be naive...

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  • by ChandaDiane - est. 1975 on December 5th, 2007

    ChandaDiane - est. 1975

    I am not sure by your question whether this person is still 'on the wagon' or has newly fallen off, but... here is my $0.02:
    My ex-husband was not a year into his now 7 year sobriety. They tell you in AA to not get into a relationship for *at least* a year into your recovery. This is EXCELLENT advice. He did end up changing quite a bit after he became more comfortable with his lifestyle change.

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  • by Katie on December 5th, 2007

    Katie

    From what I know, they are supposd to wait 1 year until they get into a relationship. There are a lot of things still sorting out in them. Be patient. Don't let the person lie or "explain" their way out of things.

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  • by Anonymous on December 5th, 2007

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    Slow as you go is the advice here.

    Out of at least 50 people i have sent to rehab., only one successfully beat the habit and became an honorable adult again.

    As you can see, the percentage rate is very low for a person addicted to drugs or alcohol, to become and stay clean.

    It can be accomplished, only if the addicted person really wants it to happen.

    If this person comes into a size of cash, watch them very closely. the temptation for drugs will again surface and most give into the addiction, again.

    Watch you friend very closely for changes in nervousness, mood swings and irritability.

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  • by JUSTNORMAL on November 29th, 2006

    JUSTNORMAL

    When someone is newly recovering, it would be difficult to put all your trust in him. It is said that anyone in recovery should wait at least one year before jumping into a relationship. A broken heart, or even an argument can cause them to relapse. I suggest you take it very slow and see where it goes? But remember, he has to go to meetings or whatever, and that is all part of his getting well. If you feel he is relapsing, let him go, he is not ready yet.

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  • by brian646 on September 9th, 2009

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    as long as you are not using and not being an enabler to their past ghost's, you may have a chance.......i was a drug addict for almost ten yrs.....after the user is clean, they can not be around people who use..........i hope that you both are clean.......take care......Brian.....

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  • by April on November 17th, 2009

    April

    I am in a relationship with someone who is off and on pills & weed all the time he stays sober for about 6-8months and then seems to go back to his old habits and it's not easy. But, keep in mind he has to want to change and he may be on a different road. But, it will always be a struggle for them. If they are determined to change they can. So, if you feel you can trust them and your gut tells you that you can then do so.

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  • by Anonymous on June 17th, 2009

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    if he's smoking weed i wouldn't worry. if he's taking pills thats a mabey. i take pills ocasionally and smoke weed everyday. i'm perfectly healthy and my grades actually have improved. don't worry about it.

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