ANSWERS: 69
  • I do not see anything wrong with it. Age differences are much more noticable at younger ages, because the individuals are going through rapid developmental changes and are at different stages. Still, I remember many good, long relationships from when I was in school. Many of them had age differences such as the one you describe. Ask her out and see what she says.
  • That depends on who you talk to. For my part, I have no problems with it. In reality, all that really matters is that you two like eachother.
  • i agree with the first answer
  • As long as you don't do anything physical then it's ok. But Statutory rape is real and you could go to prison. In Texas at least, I know, if your 18 then she needs to be also. But if you’re both younger than that, then you have 3 years of difference then it’s ok.
  • just be smart, don't get any physical
  • In alot of states if you get physical, it can lead to trouble. This actually includes kissing, groping, laying in bed naked (with no intercourse). It does not always boil down to statutory rape, so please be careful. If the parents think they don't want you around, they can obtain a restraining order against you (if they can show you would interfere with thier parenting), that would stay on your record until you are 18, at least, so please listen to the above answers. Date her, there is no law against that, just don't touch her in any way that could be considered sexual. If you want state statutes, I could provide it, if you let me know your state (each one is different).
  • i don't think there is anything wrong with it as long as u like her
  • not really. i was raised with a 2 year limit. i could only date guys 2 years olkder than me or younger. it depends on what her parents think...
  • No, if you like her, that's all that matters!!
  • If your parents and her parents do not object, and you are educated about safe sex, but more importantly the laws and also the potential "dangers" of sex with her at your ages, then go for it. It might be abit easier to try and find someone closer to your own age, but as long as you are sure the 13 year old's parents know your correct age and you act "responsibly," go ahead and see how it works out.
  • Whats 2 years between friends?!
  • Well, as long as you don't get too physical with the relationship, it's alright. For instance, a 16 yr old is dating a 14 yr old. It gets complicated when you have an 18 year old, dating a 14 year old. But still, Seniors in HIgh School, do date freshmen.
  • Why not, if you like her then go out with her. If either of your parents dont like the idea, stay away from her, because that will only cause drama, and having the slogan for TBS isnt a good thing.
  • Well, I am curious about what you mean by "go out". My kids were/are not allowed to "date" until they are 16 years old. However, they have had friends at school and they use "going out" as a term for going steady. However, they didn't go out anywhere. They hung around at school and school functions and have invited these friends over for dinner with our family... If that's what you mean, then I don't think it's wrong.
  • No, why would that be wrong. when i was 13, i wen't out with a guy who was almost 17. =)
  • What are you going to do if you "go out" with this girl and you are 18 (legal) and she's 16 (not legal) after dating for that long a time hormones are bound to kick in. What if her parents find out. Jail time. I personally dated a guy who was 16 when I was 14. I ended up marrying him at 18. But my parents had ALOT to say about it.
  • I think that age is acceptable, but check with her parents for objectings since they will be the ones making your life miserable about your age.
  • thats not that bad but when u turn 18 and shes 16 thats when all ties should b cut i should kno my daughters dad is in jail beacuse i was 16 and he was 19 its illegal.
  • pff, when your 60 and shes 58 who's gonna care, just go slow till your both older ( I myself actually plan to go out w/someone who is 8, im 13, just not yet)
  • I see absolutely nothing at all wrong with it . I had My first serious boyfriend at 13 he was 15 too. he was my first love and even though things didn't work out I wouldn't trade the expierience for the world ..i taught me what i did and didn't want from a relationship. and often times there is an age gap in a relationship and statistically the guy is usually 2 years or more older than his girlfriend...my fiance of 4 year is 2 years older than me and we have been together since highschool nothing wrong with it at all. And if your friends are talking crap about her being younger than you tell them to piss off they are more than likely just jealous ...hope this helps !! best of luck !
  • No, my friend was 12 and he went out with a 10 year old. It's not wrong but certainly not a good sight if you have like 3 feet difference.
  • maybe now at your age it might be wrong but when youre older it wouldn't be. wait another year
  • No, I personally do not see anything wrong with it, but a couple of things you need to be aware of. You must always get the parents permission to date thier daughter, it is just respectful, and they are more likely to let you guys do things together, and trust you more, if you act like a mature man, and ask them first. Second, if by chance you stay with this person for 3+ years, keep sex out of it, because once you turn 18, trouble can happen if you don't. I promise I am not assuming you will! :)~ UPDATE: I MUST SAY THAT IT ALL DEPENDS ON WHAT STATE, ALL STATES DIFFER ON SEXUAL CHARGES.
  • i don't see anything wrong with it but don't push her to do anything that she don't want to thats all i got to say
  • I think it is okay, but it is really up to her parents
  • nope not unless your more experienced than her
  • no i was 15 when i met my bf and he was 17 so there was 2yrs difference. we are still together now and its done us no harm (at least i think it hasnt) only joking :0) no i dont see any problem with it at all age is just a number
  • Not at all - just watch out for the legality issue as you get older. Enjoy yourselves!
  • I am a mother of a 13 year old and we are dealing with this issue right now. I personally do not want her going out with a boy that is 15. She is only in 7th grade and he is in 10th. If she were in a group and he was there that is different, but she is not going on an "alone" date with anyone, no matter the age until she is 16. They hang out at church functions where there are lots of adults. Later I realize the age difference will not matter so much, but right now it does. She is still to young to have to deal with a "relationship". They talk on the phone and that's fine and as far as it should go right now. My daughter looks 15 and that's the problem, but at times she still does act her age of 13. As far as maturity, there is a big difference in the ages. If her parents say it's ok, then that's fine and between the girl and her parents. Just make sure she has talked to her parents about you and they know exactly how old you are. But for our household rules, I think it's wrong. But every parent has different rules on what they think is right and wrong. Talk to her and make sure she talks to her parents and gets their permission.
  • Nope...When you are younger...age differences seem so much more when they arn't....Just take it slow...
  • I assume it's okay if its okay with her parents. However when you are 16 or 17 and she is only 14 or 15, then it could be a legal and moral issue.
  • I don't see anything wrong with that. It's only 2 years. Girls in my school who are 15 go out with 25 year olds (that's bad..) but 13 and 15, I think that's quite cute ^^
  • As long as you are a gentleman with her, I dont see anything wrong with that!!
  • I don't think theres a problem with that. As long as you like her, I see nothing wrong. The age difference isn't that much. You just might want to consider the maturity level of the both of you. Hope everything works out :)
  • If you are a mature and moral young man, with an understanding and appreciation of sex and the laws regarding it, I see no problem. I would just urge you not to rush into anything too quickly and don't be pressured into doing something you don't want to do. There is plenty of time for dating and romance.
  • not at all, besides younger guys always fall for guys older than them.......i know i do....the guys my age are immature....im 14,good luck with you girl....
  • its not wrong. i'm 15 and i'm dating a 18 year old boy. age is nothing but a number.
  • I don't think anything is wrong with that. I think its cute that an older guy can fall for a younger girl. In a few years age difference won't matter anyway so I don't see why people make such a big deal about it now. Just make sure you don't take advantage of her and respect her because she is younger and she is new to the whole "teenage scene" and what comes with it.
  • personally, id never date somebody more than 2 yrs younger or older. but it seems ok. and ofcourse, girls are naturally attracted to older guys coz girls tend to develop faster. so its ok!
  • The only person that will give you any problems with it is your friends...your not going to be talking about it with your family...so if your ready to put up with the hard times the boys will give you (and they'll stop once they see she's there to stay) then yeah date her if you like her...there is nothing wrong with it...I dated a 15 year old when I was 17 so.
  • ther's nothing wrong with that I'm thirteen and one of my best friends' is a seventeen year old guy I want to date him he wants to date me but I don't want to wreck our relationship by going out what should I do? Personally I think u should go for it if u like her thats all that matters.
  • No I dont think this is wrong at all. Thats a preety small age gap. You might catch some crap from youre frinds, but I dont think its a big deal at 2 years. Now,...If you were 18 there would be a big problem there.
  • Normally, when I have friends who are 13 years old and asked out by guys you're age, I get on the defensive a bit. But, the fact that you're concerned about it lol, I think that means you're ok for the job. All I can say is just try to be mature about things, keep a good head on.
  • People cannot control who they are attracted to, theres nothing wrong with her being a 13 year old girl or a 31 year old woman, hormones cause changes to the thinking of men so they become moree attracted to girls, its fine to like her as long as its not an obbsession!
  • If you think that she's ready to deal with a relationship, if you really think so, then it seems fine.
  • well no, but it might be hard if you go to different schools, but if you go to the same one, it fine. I've seen people get married over 10 years apart, of course that's different though
  • If you're nice enough to worry about that, it doesn't seem like it could ever be a problem. Hope it all goes well.
  • No, it is not wrong but I am a Dad and would not let you go out with my 13 year old daughter. I think dating at her age is too soon. However, her parents would be the ones to answer your question. The real problem is age liability. When you are 16, she is 14 and you become vulnerable to sexual allegations (even if there is nothing going on). When you are 18, she is 16 and you are still liable for more serious prosecution (even if nothing is going on). For you, it is safer to date girls your age or older. Breaking up can bring many bad things on your head just by her saying something happened (even though nothing did happen). You would meet certain doom!
  • No, I think you should date a girl who's 13 years and 241 days old exactly... Hmmm... let's get serious here, shall we? Well, YES, to me it seems you're too young- and she's too young as well- at least by conventional standards and asuming that you (and she...) have to be BOTH psychologically AND physiologically "mature" to fully get into this. But there's no obvious "threshold" to this, right? So, I think you should take some time time and put the problem into a broader context: I think that asking about "right" and "wrong" puts the conversation into a sort of "moralistic" context. I do not know you, but I do not think that this is the real problem for you here... It is rather a matter of maturity (which you do NOT prove simply by having a shave once in a while, son!... ;-) I do not think that you should stick to numbers (age, in this case). You are pretty "young" by conventional standards, but character and responsibility matter most- there are people out there who are much older than you who act immature and show low responsibility towards others. I personaly think that exploring your sexuality is ok. But I also believe that "forcing" yourself (and even more so, forcing the other person...) towards this is not a wise thing to do. Maybe you should start by asking yourself what is exactly that you're looking for in general AND what you're looking for from her. I mean, what does she have to offer more than her looks? (frankly, I suppose this is why you want to date her, right?...) Also, take some time and ask yourself what YOU are going to offer (I do not man taking her to the movies and buying her flowers, I am talking about character here...) So, if the answer to these questions above is something close to "having a good time together" and ASSUMING SHE CONSENTS TO THIS then, I think you should 1. confess your intentions loudly and openly to yourself (do it in front of the mirror!...) so that you protect yourself from illusions and keep your feet firm on the ground 2. do not focus on sex with her BUT make sure you get some responsible advice on safe sex 3. make sure she is also adequately informed and responsible on safe sex isues 4. do not hesitate to get to know her parents and introduce her to yours (relax!... nobody will talk about marriage!... ;-) 5. invest some time to get to know her as a person AND test her character traits. Be severe and fair. 6. do not expect much 7. ENJOY THE TRIP togrther with her (I am talking about the "romantic experience" here) 8. BE RESPONSIBLE and AVOID MANIPULATION. RESPECT YOURSELF AND HER 101% 9. AND... be prepared to make mistakes, like we all did! Oh... and forget about my introduction line here... character matters more, son...
  • well,you guys too young.and what should know about love. that only puppy love,right.don't be rush.i admit it!
  • I have a 13 year old daughter,i dont think id be keen on it,as 13 is very young and a 15 year old is more mature,id be worried about what sort of relationship theyd be having. Im not saying theres any think wrong in it but i wouldnt feel comfortable
  • no. your not going to be the same exact age as your girlfriend. someone has to be older :)
  • no i am a 13 year old girl and dating a 17 year old male we r doing fine
  • TO THE GOOD PARENTS HERE. I APPRECEATE YOUR CONCERN FOR YOUR KIDS. MORE KIDS SHOULD HAVE PARENTS LIKE YOU! I MUST BE HONEST THOUGH. THE ISSUE IS NOT THAT YOUR KIDS ARE NOT READY TO DATE, BUT THEIR PARENTS ARE NOT READY FOR THEM TO DATE, NOR ARE GOOD PARENTS REALLY EVER READY FOR THEIR KIDS TO DATE BUT ONE DAY THEY WILL. I SEE 14 YEAR OLDS ALL THE TIME GETTING IN TO ADULT CLUBS WITH BORROWED AND FAKE IDS ALL THE TIME. THESE ARE THE SAME KIDS THAT THEIR PARENTS SAY ARE NOT READY TO DATE. PARENTS PLEASE - TRUST YOUR KIDS AND LET THEM TRUST YOU. - INSTILL VALUES. THIS IS THE ONLY WAY YOU WILL NOT FIND YOURSELF IN THE SAME SITUATION!
  • No it isn't wrong if you really like this girl then you should go for it just dont touch her were you shouldn't or tell if she wants to get into bed with you because then she'll find you something you dont wanna know trust anyway hope it all works out for you!
  • It should be fine. As long as the girl has her wits about her
  • It is not necessarily wrong but it is not good since you are going through puberty and she is just learning how to deal with periods,boobs, pubic hair and stuff like this. She is not ready to raise a child yet. She is still one herself. Sorry my friend you will not be doing her a favor if this happens. It's ok to go get Ice cream it's another to be alone at a house.
  • nope. Im 13 and going out with a 16 year old :) prepare for comments at school but that happens to everyone
  • Nahh it's not, aslong as you like each other enough.. And beat up other kids that say it's wierd. Then they'd stfu.
  • no its not wrong at all ... go for it...
  • there is absolutely nothing wrong with that I'm 15 and want to go out with a 19 year old guy, two years is nothing
  • Yes, as I feel people should only date when they are ready to establish a longterm relationship with someone else. If you just want friendship then be friends with many people. But there is no need to be exclusive when you aren't even out of school or in a position to be everything to each other.
  • no but i have been there are there will definitly be some gossip about that... kids are immature and they will talk about it behind your back. Just make sure it is worth it
  • Thats no big deal. Go for it.
  • ...it MIGHT be in three more years. Until then, have fun. (Safe, SEXLESS, fun--that is!)
  • If she has a large older brother, you might want to think twice. But two years will be nothing when you are 22, and she's 20.
  • im 13 and a 15 yr old boy likes me. but i dont like him. you should have respect for her, dont put her on the spot like this guy does me. sometimes it makes me hate him. dont do that to her. but u should go for it. :)
  • nothing wrong with this. you are both under 18!! 2 years isnt that much. whats the age difference between adults you know?

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