Am I crazy? I find I'm always looking at womens clevage when they are wearing low cut tops, or blouses, even if I don't find them attractive. Help! I'm making my female co-workers uncomfortable. I don't know why i do this. I need to stop.
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let me tell you something from a womens point of view. when a women wears a shirt showing cleavage trust me she wants men to look and if you look and their feeling uncomfortable maybe they want women to look or like the fact that your looking and is getting all hot and bothered and know they cant pursue anything as co-workers. HA HA HA!!!!! You Feel Me.
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I think regardless of how a woman dresses they do not like to be ogled by any male. It is normal to look but if you are making the women uncomfortable then just STOP. Certainly you must have self restraint, if you are an adult. If they are dressing too provocatively then maybe they need to clean up their act as well. That would not be appropriate for the workplace, unless its a bar.
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After reading all of your clarifications now, which were totally unclear from your question, I think a professional opinion would be very helpful and for you and everyone else concerned. Feeling badly or guilty about it is not the way to get help with it. Go talk to someone about it. I would suggest a male counselor-therapist. You could have much more serious problems than this. So be gratful for that, and just take some action to get the help and input from a professional. At age 40 you can overcome this I am sure, if you get help and work on it.
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Just get some breast implants and hold a mirror around. That way, you'll have your own breasts to ogle at and no-one else will have to feel your eyes on them.
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I am wondering most of all where you work -- and how it can be acceptable for a woman to wear low cut tops!?
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I only want to do my work. I don't go there with the intent of ogling. I'm not a pervert, and I don't just stare at their breasts as we are talking. It just happens that I get caught looking, which I'm trying really hard to control. I think I need a therapist.
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First off, I must get this out: LOL! And second, you could say that they are partially to blame. Why else would a female wear a low-cut top other than to show their boobs off? Do they need to air their tits out or something? Come on! They want the attention, but when you "give" it to them, they find it offensive--somewhat hypocritical, if you ask me.
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You keep on saying you need a therapist - so why don't you go get one. It's good that you've realised you have a problem (and apreciate it could make others uncomfortable) and know where to get help, however, i would suggest you get a male doc to make things less uncomfortable. On the other hand you could just wear a post it on your head saying 'sorry i'm not a pervert I just have really lazy eyes'
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You look because women dress to get looks or they wouldn't dress that way. They want attention. Good natured attention, of course, but really, the tight clothes and cleavage are meant to produce a response if only a look.
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Women breasts are mostly fat. If they were transplanted to their rears would you then find them so enticing -- okay maybe you would. How about thinking I'm making her uncomfortable doing this; maybe I should knock it off. When you speak to others {women & men} look at the face / into the eyes. Many women have eyes you can drown in and most will feel you care instead of you want.
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I suspect you are suffering from pcitis - an affliction which seems to be spreading among more of the population daily. If women didn't want their breasts looked at they wouldn't publicly display them. Low-cut clothing has one purpose and one purpose only - nothing to do with comfort, but everything to do with display.
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It is the POWER of nature!!! because I look at ass all day long which if not controlled can result in a smack in the face or a "WTF" look!
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Yeah! You gotta watch what you are looking at! Just look at everyone's face. No glancing! Concentrate! Stop perving you prick!
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you dont need a therapist hun, im a girl and if i see a cleavage (being short im sort of level with them anyway!) i cant help but look, my lil sis came to stay, shes 21 and i had to tell her to cover up as i was transfixed by them, she loved it though!!! I think many girls when they show skin, they want people to look! I sometimes wear low cut tops and wouldnt dream of having a go at someone for looking, now if they are perving thats different (ie dribbling over them or only talking to my boobs and not my face) but the occasional glance doesnt hurt. If your making them feel uncomfortable my guess is you are blatantly staring at them, a few seconds are ok but anything more can be unnerving. have a word with the women, tell them you are sorry if you have made them feel uncomfortable in any way, but their assets are a little distracting!
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Wear shades until you can figure out how not to look at womens boobs. or wear shades so nobody knows you are looking LOL i will admit that i kind of had the same type of problem years ago, and checked out the size of the guys bulge if i was interested in dating him. i wasnt always that discreet, either. Funny, the guys never seemed to mind. MUCH DIFFERENT WITH WOMEN! seriously, keep an imaginary wall just under their chin and train yourself not to look below it. good luck!
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MAN, I do it all the time. It's normal "guy" behaviour. It's impossible to help it.
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Dude, it's in our DNA. Just don't be an A-Hole about it.
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Just wait about 30 years. This problem self-resolves! ;-)
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We are programmed to look from birth. Both male and female are interested in female breasts as a source of food. Later, of course, we men and some women see them as a source of pleasure. Why do women entice others to look at their breasts? Those with attractive breasts and those with enhanced breasts want attention from prospective mates, either for sexual satisfaction or just to titillate and attract the observers. It is genetic, I believe.
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It's a genetic male condition. The male eye is designed differently and attracted to round objects half exposed
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no, just a pervert
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Your not making them uncomfortable. If they were, they wouldn't be wearing low cut tops or blouses. Perhaps you should send an annonymous letter to the HR Department complaining about them
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trust me its not just you looking, I think its a normal reaction to look at someones clevage for a quick second, but I think you can keep yourself from staring.
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Im a woman and even I find myself doing it sometimes XD I think its cause you're 'not supposed' to look there so automatically it becomes like a big red button that says 'do not push' course you're gonna fucking push it! Its big red and says dont! Same with boobs, on display but not to be stared at... If you really dont want the odd dude or chick staring at em then stop wearing low cut tops. Simple as. Did they ever think of the emotional turmoil they cause you with their unsuitable skimpy workwear? Lol
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I find myself looking as well! I don't walk around with half my dick hanging out and if I did I would expect people to look! If women don't want there breasts starred at they should cover them up!
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Well if you think you're crazy, i think that i take can the biscuit! I'm a woman and i can also find myself looking down at women's chests if they're wearing a low cut top or a very tight one. I try and not to look but that doesn't work for long, and i just feel uncomfortable in those situations and i feel and worse if i can tell that they are feeling uncomfortable too. Ahh... What i find even more embarrassing is that i've found myself on occassions doing the same thing with my birth- mum, can you imagine how that feels, although thank fully i don't think she's uncomfortable as i am - thank god. Plus i guess it doesn't help with me being bi-sexual as well. I guess it's about trying to feel comfortable in our own skin with whatever life throws at us for to deal with.. But you've gotta laugh, life can be cruel and testing..I deal with it by trying to have a spiritual out look on this thing we call life.
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its their fault for wearing that kind of stuff. if they didnt want their boobs to be stared at then they shouldnt worn something else. Its a natural reaction because they are revealing their boobs so ppl can look at them. Their fault for being sluts
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It's not you with the problem it's them, women know that men look at there tits and if they didn't want that then they would cover up, simple as.
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STOP IT!!!
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you need to be more discrete when you look. i look to, i mean how can a man not look when a lady is wearing a low cut blouse or a bra that pushes up her breasts. women know how they look in the mirror and i think they want and should expect admiring glances. just be discrete, don't oggle or stair too long and make sure to keep your tongue in your mouth.
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