Are you affraid to love again?

I'm not afraid to love, but I'm afraid to let someone know that I'm in love with them.

I am petrified to love again.

You should never be afraid to love someone, just dont expect them to love you in return. Maybe they will but there are no guarantees, so have no expectations.
Try to differentiate between loving someone and being in love with someone. Loving someone is unconditonal but being in love with someone can carry with it all kinds of monsters.
Below is a quote about being in love.
"Have you ever been in love? Horrible isn't it? It makes you so vulnerable. It opens your chest and it opens up your heart and it means that someone can get inside you and mess you up. You build up all these defences, you build up a whole suit of armour, so that nothing can hurt you, then one stupid person, no different from any other stupid person, wanders into your stupid life...You give them a piece of you. They didn't ask for it. They did something dumb one day, like smile at you, and then your life isn't your own anymore. Love takes hostages. It gets inside you. It eats you out and leaves you crying in the darkness, so simple a phrase like 'maybe we should be just friends' turns into a glass splinter working its way into your heart. It hurts. Not just in the imagination. Not just in the mind. It's a soul-hurt, a real gets-inside-you-and-rips-you-apart pain. I hate love". Neil Gaiman

Dont hate love but the wrong kind of love can and doeshurt. long winded answer i know but hope it helps.

Im afaid to love again.

im only 15 and after what happened with my first love...yeah i am. When someone gets that close to you and knows everything about you they can hurt you so easily...its a bad feeling


and i say my age becuase many adults foregt what its like to be 15...we are not incapable of love we know what it is, how it feels, and how it hurts. Ours may not be as mature as yours, but then again it can be. Just thought i might say that

No. But i Am affraid of the time when the person you love does not feel the same anymore. Although i would be happier to know this than be in a one way relationship. I have been on both sides of this and it is never easy, either way.

Yes and no.
Because I know how good it can be... and know how shitty it can be.

No...but I am extraordinarily reluctant to do the stupid jump-through-these-hoops dance that it seems to require to even get a shot at it....;-D..
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No, I am taking another stab at it now. :)

Yelp!

I was always afraid to love, but I let myself fall in love once and I got so scared that I ran away. Now I am sure that I would never fall in love again, I don’t like to give pieces of myself to people; it is so scary to lose control. I did it once and it wonderful but I would never forget that first month after I broke up, it was the worst of my life.

Yes I am totally 100% afraid to love again.

I was - but then someone special pursued me and I gave in and fell in love.

Yes because i either get used,cheated on,or hit by the guy.

Not at all, looking forward to it. You learn from life and mistakes and what is past is done. You can't redo the past but you can learn.

There is a saying that I don't totally agree with but "if you made a mistake and learn from it you never made a mistake"..Well true from one aspect but that type of attitude can lead to a perfectionist attitude.

We all make mistakes, we just have to loook deeply and see how the situation happened and the areas that we handled wrong.

From there move on - no reason to sit idle and complain. We can create our own misery if thats what we choose and our own happiness, we have limited control (if any) except in our decisions.

Also we have to be able to forgive ourselves, if not that can lead to anger or internal anger and another roadblock.

Yes and No. Not to long ago I thought i was in the greatest relationship in my life everything was going good untill one evening i was sitting at home after football pratice when my Girl Friend called me to tell me she was pregnant my first thought was oh my god it can't be mine and it wasn't my whole world crashed at that moment. I never thought i would get over her and to be honest it toke a year and im still not fully over her but my friends help me to get outta my depressed state of mind. So in the end it took good friends and alot of courage on my part to try and find someone, plus it a chance to find someone who could be better i hope this helps (sorry its so long of an answer)

I was never afraid to love again , it was the trust part that was the hardest.

Ive actually been wondering that myself...

Never stopped loving ever!

I'm not afraid. But falling in love is too exhausting, exciting, time-consuming, fruitless and silly. Better avoid it.

No I would not be afraid.

Yes. It was so painful when my ex bf left me be because he didn't feel as strongly for me as I did for him. And that was the only reason why he left. Our relationship was the best we've ever experienced.

I just don't get it.

Not in the least. Fearing dissapointment in a new relationship based on your experiences in a past one is unreasonable (to me). It's a whole new ball of wax.

i am soo afarid cuz like i just got my heart broken and once is more than enough for me cuz i just cant take the pain

Terrified! How can you know that the next person you decide to trust won't do the same as the last? I mean come on they promised you everything, and you beleived all their lies cause you just didn't know better...how could you want that again? You never know when someone is telling the truth anymore. It seems like today almost everyone cheats or lies. I don't see why they can't just break up with the person, yeah that hurts but I would much rather that than be lead on and used. People make people look like idiots today. I don't understand any of this love stuff. I never want it again and it used to be all I wanted.

I don't think I'm afraid to love, but I do fear it might not happen.

YES!!! YES!!!YES!!!! I am so afraid because of the hurt that I have had with my kids father and it will not let me have a stable relationship with another person. I keep my guards up too much. Once you have been hurt you can not really be hurt again .Once you have found the 1 true love you can not love again like that .Keep your head up and pray!!!

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terrified.
I don't want to get myself involved with something that may hurt my heart. I want to take my time in order to find that one person that i want to hold a long term relationship with. Although I am taking my time, I find it really hard to actually trust others.

The positive thing about being afraid to love- is that the more you are alone, the more you think about the qualities your want in the other person. Although one shouldn't be picky if a genuine person pursues them,
it helps to know what you want out of a relationship.

I am afraid to love because im afraid im going to do everything wrong. I am afraid to trust, I am afraid of getting hurt and I am afraid that I will be too jealous. I don't want to be controlling...and I feel like I have so many things about myself that I would want to change. I hope I find that one person that will accept me for who I am and help me try to get over all of worries and concerns...they will help me work through the relationship instead of getting mad at me for things that I am trying to fix.

im terrified.

Yes, but loving people is a part of who I am. I love deeply and give myself completely, which makes it hurt all the more when someone doesn't return the feelings... or takes you for granted... or or or.

I've only been really taken advantage of once. I've been married and divorced 3 times, but it was more like we'd grown appart, and not really any one's fault. However, the last guy was my best friend, and a commitment phobic. We enjoyed each others compmany, but he had to keep bringing another woman he'd been trying to dump for years into the mixter to keep me from getting too close.

We finally ended it, because I just couldn't take it any more. The whole yo yo thing. Having to live through the nightmare of him going on vacation with HER because he was afraid going with me would make us an official couple, and he wasn't ready... then having him come back to me telling me how horrible it was and how he wouldn't date her even if she didn't live 3000 miles away!

I thought I could deal with it, since he only saw her once a year. I thought I could wait until he felt more secure and was ready for a commitment. But this last May he went on an 11 day vacation that I had asked to go on.... you got it... with the woman he had told me for the past 2 yrs he wouldn't date if she lived in the same town!

AND WHY? Because she meant NOTHING to him, so she wasn't a threat to his desire to stay single for a few more years... because he wasn't even attracted to her because she was ugly... because none of his friends or family even LIKED HER, so no one would try to play matchmaker... BECAUSE I was too close, too tempting, his family liked me, I was desireable and if we had gone on vacation with him this year, the whole long term PLAN would be ruined, and we would officially be a COUPLE.

I know a lot of women are really happy when they find out their EX-GUY is dating some one uglier then them... but it hurt me all the more. To know that the ONLY reason he kept her around was to keep me from getting too close. To know that he would rather spend 11 days on the road trapped with a lady he found repulsive, so he didn't have to be with me.

Well, let's just say, it's been almost 6 months, and I still wake up crying, and I still cry when I drive past the airport that she flew into MY TOWN at. I still once in a while ask him why, because I have to work with him every day, and he still doesn't have a decent answer, just the garbage about needing to be free for a couple more years, like I was going to put a ball and chain on him or something! I still get drunk, and feel like a total reject that someone UGLY and CRUDE was more appealing then someone who was desireable, and loving.

And YES, I am dating... and he caught me on the rebound... and I think I love him, but I really have no idea if I'm still on the rebound or if my feelings are real. There's just too much baggage to know what is real and what isn't... so YES it scares the cr@p out of me.

I spent a year and a half patiently being there for someone I thought was my best friend as well as my lover, and when he hung up on the phone with me as she got off the plain 5 minutes from MY HOME... it was the most tramatic experience of my life. I lost trust of ALL people, not just love that day. I currently have NO ONE I even consider my friend any more... just people I am friendly with, and who are friendly to me... but I really trust NO ONE.

It's hard to believe in love and not be afraid, when you don't believe in people, and don't trust them.

I'm scared to hell to love again ,but i haven't got out
of loveing this 1 girl ,not so sure if she likes me
but everyday i dont ask her i go through a living hell
like I am now ,and u cant just go up to a girl
and ask her out so everyday you love some1 but dont
tell them you go through hell.so ye im scared to.

Very much afraid,like a deer in headlites,so afraid,that im afraid to date..LOL but so true

very much so, but what will be, will be

If I love once > I am happy to be with one.

If I can love more > I am happy to be with another one ... again.

With each love passed gains a stronger love ... and so it goes until we find one ... who is all of those passed.


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Yes. cause I don't want to admit I was wrong. Again.

Absolutely Yes, once or twice you failed in love, trust, respect, believe, honest or other things. You don't feel like to fall in love with anybody. Feel like to be just friends.

Of course not. If I was afraid to love again, I would not be with my girlfriend at the moment. I DO love her :)
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I am afaid to love again. I have been hurt so badly that I am afaid to put myself out there. I want to love again, I am afraid of the pain that comes with it. Love is the greatest high and the greatest pain.

Yes and no. When your in love your so up you forget to that you can fall down, and when it does happen it feels like your world is crashing around you. That part is was scares me. Not so much being in love again because being in love is wonderful its losing that person that scares me to death.

I am not afraid to love,i just think i will not give anyone the chance to love me....

I have never loved and never will. Safer that way. +2

There is less happiness and more sadness in falling in love with wrong person.

Sometimes I don't even think its worth it for me to fall in love beacause im the controlling one in the relashonship I wear the pants I like being alone I don't feel smothered

it is not a good game to play every now and they and it is painful and depressing at the end if love breaks.

nope, my whole heart is into it now :)

yes i was rejected by a boy named...
He was my best friend but he doesnt talk to me much.
I am afraid to love again because of rejection.
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I am very afraid to love again. My heart was ripped out of my chest 6 wks ago. I have never in my life felt this kind of pain and dispair. I gave my all and I still didn't measure up. He said he loves me but I need to change some things about myself...and one of them is 'get happy and feel peace inside.' Yeah, this is real easy now that we've been apart for 6 wks.

I will not say I will never fall in love again but I will never allow an individual to have the ability to finacially ruin me, destroy my emotions, cause me to fill the emptiness that I am now experiencing. I am happier by myself knowing that nobody is going to stab me in the back again.

i was before but not anyone the person that im with right now just makes me wanna love again.

Yes I am since I feel like I do not meet any womans standards , I feel so unwanted then when i see couples together all happy I feel worse about myself and just try to cope with it and accept the fact that my ex girlfriend is long gone and I will never have someone to love,care for now just be alone in this crazy world I hate dealing with rejection, and my Insecurities get the best of me. I have tried to believe that expresson "There is someone for everyone" but i lost faith years ago.

nope. . . . through previous break-ups, i learned my mistakes, get over with what happened in the past, and ensure next relationship be as close to perfect as possible...


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