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by digger69 on November 26th, 2006

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Oral sex? I need advice on how to make my wife orgasm through oral sex. My girlfriends have always been able to achieve this and I believe I get how to do it as my last partner would orgasm 8-10 times per oral session.Intercourse seems to be the only way

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  • by Natterjax on November 26th, 2006

    Natterjax

    If you can talk to your wife about sex then it may be worth asking her what she likes or if there is a particular way she prefers you to do it. If you feel she would be a little embarassed then you can tell perhaps by her reaction (moans or movements!) what things she prefers and do more of the things she reacts better to.

    Do you have children? I know this seems like a silly question but if your wife has been stressed with the kids throughout the day she may be tired (and stressed out!) and prefer a kiss and a long cuddle. This can (not always..!) lead to more relaxed sex, possibly enabling her to reach orgasm through oral sex. Women need to feel relaxed and not rushed in the bedroom. Also, I wouldn't mention the fact that it's bothering you as this may make your wife feel more tense (and you wouldn't want her to fake it just to keep you happy)

    It also helps for the woman to feel attractive and loved outside the bedroom in order for them to enjoy themselves when it comes to sex. If your wife is underconfident with regards to her body this may be making her more inhibited. If you find your wife attractive, tell her - there are so many men that don't think it's important and I'm sure if they knew how much of a difference it makes they would say it more!

    Lastly, you mention that your wife can achieve orgasm through intercourse so she is obviously enjoying your lovemaking - so I wouldn't beat yourself up about it too much!
    Hope the above is of some help.

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  • by nunya on December 19th, 2007

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    Interesting that intercourse works better for you - that is very unusual and you are very lucky. All women are different in how they respond to stimulation. If you are trying to make her cum orally first things first - make her comfortable - if she is not comfortable she will not relax enough. One of the issues may be that she is self-conscious about how she may smell or taste down there. You need to reasure her that you are very turned on by her smell and taste. Once you overcome that barrier it's on to the technique.

    Careful of the clit it can be too sensitive - start with running your tongue up and down the sides of her labia then slowly working your way inward. Run the blade of your tongue (the sides) up and down her inner labia slowly to tease - this usually is a good starting point. Now for the clit - pay attention to her responses when you are licking her clit - if she is quiet she is either not relaxed or is too numb because of the sensitivity - take a break from this if it happens and go back to the sides of the inner and outer labia. Sometimes you can also move to the hood of her clitoris and lick it back and forth horizontally, occasionally going back to light brushes of her clit with your toungue. Some people say spell the ABC's on her clit - I usually only do this if a woman is responsive to direct toungue to clit contact - otherwise you are just wasting your time. After a few minutes of making her moan doing it the proper way - insert a finger into her vagina while you are performing oral - make sure you finger is lubed up (you can use your own saliva as the lubricant for this and most importantly - make sure your nails are trimmed and smooth - a scratch with a nail can pretty much ruin all your progress for that session if you do it wrong). Consentrate more on the outside and inner upper wall of the vagina as she will more than likely respond to this better.

    And finally - practice makes perfect...

    And I cannot stress this enough - MAKE SURE SHE IS RELAXED!

    Good Luck!

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  • by Anonymous on September 2nd, 2010

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    Sounds like she may be self-conscious about her body and may have picked up the idea that her vulval area is unattractive or dirty, so is hesitant to have you there and cannot understand your enjoyment of it. If so she needs to become comfortable with her body and learn how beautiful it is, which is not easy for some of us. It is also possible that she is not as multi-orgasmic as your previous women so wants to save her Os for intercourse when she has a much closer and more intimate experience of you.

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  • by Irisibis on July 12th, 2009

    Irisibis

    It may be that she prefers intercourse to oral. There are women who find it much easier to orgasm through intercourse. Personally, I'm not very keen on receiving oral so my boyfriend only does it rarely when I'm feeling generous. Yes, a lot of women LOVE oral sex. But there are a fair proportion of us who don't. Maybe she is too polite to say this or is doing it for you.

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  • by wthing8 on November 4th, 2008

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    Ask Martin Blake down the road he does not seem to be having any problems with her......

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  • by sexdrugsrocknroll on June 25th, 2007

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    I completely agree with natterjax,but I think I have a few things to add that should be helpful-----as you are going down on her,be sure to keep your hands busy---stick fingers in her,play with her nipples,and occasionally stick your fingers in her mouth to taste herself---most women love this(of course they are way more receptive when you are telling her how good she tastes)---look her in the eyes as you lick her clit,telling her how beautiful she is-------my favorite-well my wifes fav)is to stick 2 fingers in her,palm up andsearch for her G-SPOT-----my wife was 46 years old before she ever came that hard-she was squirting all over the place---she never knew that she could squirt----and beleive me if you make her squirt and have multiple orgasms back to back,she will be putty in your hands--and very grateful--it was 9 years ago that I met my wife and she still to this day talks about that night(our 2nd or 3rd night together)

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  • by merle234 on July 29th, 2009

    merle234

    All girls are different.
    The best advice I can give about a girl I don't know is:
    Communicate as much as possible; verbally as well as paying attention to her body language before and during.
    There are loads and loads of techniques, search the web for them there's too many for me to write, try everything and see what see likes.

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  • by Anonymous on September 1st, 2010

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    My wife also has MUCH more difficulty reaching an orgasm through oral sex than any of the women I've been with before ! Although I don't care HOW long it takes her to get off ( I enjoy the experience so much I don't EVER get TIRED of orally pleasuring her ! ) SHE gets impatient if she can't get off within what SHE considers a reasonable time ! Our "never fail" position is for her to get on TOP and "ride" my face - if she's having difficulty getting off either laying on her back or if we're "69 ing" each other she'll tell me she needs to "fuck my face" and is ALWAYS able to get off within a few minutes ! She's NEVER had any difficulty getting off during intercourse !

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  • by hdurae@aol.com on June 19th, 2011

    hdurae@aol.com

    ask her what she wants.

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  • by emo_lover on June 15th, 2010

    emo_lover

    well maybe shes just screwed up

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  • by Anonymous on August 3rd, 2009

    Anonymous

    If your wife doesn't enjoy oral sex have you ask her if she really wants it? Perhaps she feels it's not right? or it's "dirty"? Talk to her try to get an undersstanding between you. There is no reason why she can't enjoy it between husband and wife??? It sounds like you know what your doing if it worked so well with others. Warning!!! Don't tell her about others.

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