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  • Doesn't he have a pension? What is the age gap ?
  • Yeah I have some advise, wait, now how did he talk you into this? I need to know exactly how he made this happen...exactly, word for word.
  • How is that unfair? He put his time in and now he's enjoying the twilight of his golden years. Does he contribute to paying bills at all? Does his retirement allow for him to be able to live the good life? If so, whats the problem? Let the man enjoy his retirement. You'll be there eventually.
  • jealousy shouldnt be in the mix of marriage. Maybe something else bothers you other than him being retired. Maybe he's not productive in other fields? Fields that he should be excelling like household chores.
  • He did his time.. and hopefully provided for you.. You are doing your time.. and contributing to your home.. he is a part of your home.. hopefully a very big and loved part of your home. I mean .. I can see getting frustrated at having to work but not at him. But.. if this makes things any better (I hope not) Chances are.. he will die before you says the statistics and you can sit back and relax on his SS. Feel better?
  • He was downsized in IT department and got pension package 1 years ago at 57. He did not bother back to the job market since then. Our age gap is 8 years. He is healthy but no motivation to work. He wants to enjoy his life since some of our friends passed away before age 60. (How can he tell that he will die before age 60? All his parents were 80+ before they passed away. ) I guess his attitude bothers me. We cannot communicate our difference and are not close any more.
  • I'm in the exact same boat. Husband voluntarily retired. He's 63 and I'm 60 and still work in a high pressure IT job. He sits at his computer all day playing a marble game, or watches TV. There is always a long list of things that need to be done, but he doesn't do them. Once in a while he'll change the sheets on the bed then thinks that's enough for the day. I come home tired and the house is a wreck. He does cook once in a while, but I find this so frustrating. I would LOVE to retire, but the economy changed after he retired and we need the money. I'm going crazy. What to do? 40 years of marriage seem to be going up in smoke.
  • I think you should be happy for him that he finally got to relax. How many more years you have to work ? He can run around doing some erand for you, cook for you may be. He can pick you up to have lunch together, drop you off at work and pick you up.

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