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by Done. never again. on August 14th, 2008

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Because of my mental health issues, sometimes I feel like no guy will ever want me because they think I'll make an unfit mother. Is this a weird thought?

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  • by Firebrand on August 14th, 2008

    Firebrand

    Having mental health issues covers a very wide range. That can mean anything from a phobia to mild depression or something much more serious,

    You do not sound as if you are severely mentally crippled .
    I am sure you will one day find somebody who cares about you .

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  • by GuitarPlayer92 on August 14th, 2008

    GuitarPlayer92

    I wouldn't call this valid or crazy, because it's neither. It's a false assumption. You can't assume that EVERY guy you meet will think you're an unfit mother. Just try to go into a relationship without assuming or expecting anything and you will be much better off.

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  • by Pandora on August 14th, 2008

    Pandora

    I don't think that it is valid or or crazy. I can understand the concern but my advice would be to try to focus on you and your health so WHEN someone comes aleong you can be your best you :) Otherwise you my end up with some loser who sees your concerns and tries to take advantage of you. I wish the best for you :)

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  • by TAPriceCTR s son is wearing his COAT on August 14th, 2008

    TAPriceCTR s son is wearing his COAT

    what are the issues, and are you refering to potentialy passing on genetic flaws or being a bad mommy?

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  • by Anonymous on August 14th, 2008

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    I have the same problem, only from the other side.

    There must be something in our pheremones that drive away the opposite sex...

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  • by LuckyLefty on September 11th, 2008

    LuckyLefty

    ohhhh that's a lieeee your mind keeps telling you :P

    ...you're an amazing girl freedom

    gorgeous, smart, caring :)

    A guy would be lucky to have someone like you...

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  • by starrrgazer on August 21st, 2008

    starrrgazer

    It's not a weird thought. You have reason to have concern if this is what your life experience has brought you to date. Also, it's a reality that your child would have a higher chance of having a mental illness. Perhaps, it would be a good idea to consider whether this concern is about another guy never wanting you or whether this concern is about your ability to be a fit mother. Just something to think about.

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  • by val gal on August 21st, 2008

    val gal

    If he wants you bad enough he will help you deal with the illness that you have. If he's too ignorant to know that it's an illness then you could teach him. I don't think people think about what type of parent their spouse would be. Love will prevail.

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  • by Mendtos on August 14th, 2008

    Mendtos

    You'll be a great mom! I have no reason to doubt you
    :)

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  • by Zack on August 14th, 2008

    Zack

    My ex did it to me and killed the rest of my life and I can certainly understand your fear. The thing is that you just can't play it safe. Life is about taking chances. Just take it slow and really pay attention to what is going on around you when it comes to a prospective partner.

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  • by Yarnlady is happy every day on August 14th, 2008

    Yarnlady is happy every day

    I think you place too much emphasis on it being mental health issues. There is a time when most of us think that we are not fit to be parents. I hated myself, and even tried to commit suicide when I was 18. Then, when my son was born, my whole life turned around, because when I saw what a perfect baby I had, I resolved to be the Mom he deserved.

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  • by CaRbOnPrOdUcK is Baccuss on February 13th, 2009

    CaRbOnPrOdUcK is Baccuss

    Not a weird thought, not a good idea to advertise it to a guy though. Save the concerns about your mental health for your mental health care professional, I do, and it works for me.

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  • by Midnite1869 on February 13th, 2009

    Midnite1869

    There was a movie that came out with a tag line stupid is as stupid does. Because someone is labeled as having a mental illness doesn't make them unfit. Look at all the people who are labeled normal that beat on even kill their children. It is all in the actions you choose to use. and being up front about it allows guys to make the choice to be with you. The one that chooses yes will find himself better for saying yes.

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  • by Anonymous on February 13th, 2009

    Anonymous

    I am severly Bi polar among other issues and after 19 yrs on my own I found a wonderful guy who understands my illness and loves me for who i am so i am sure someone as nice as yourself will one day also find that special someone

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