If your gay, do you know it ? as i dont find men attractive but sumtimes find myself fantasising over men, so like if your gay do you want to be, or can u be gay and not wnat to be attracted to men.
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carlsmith
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no nothing wrong with fantasising i can say we all do it and those who say they dont are lying
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it is completely normal to have gay fantasies.
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Many straight men have something gay pop into their heads every once in a while. It doesn't necessarily mean you actually want to have gay sex.
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Human beings do not fit neatly into sexual modes. Sexuality is like an elastic band. A man can be heterosexual but fantasize about other men. He can also have homosexual ideas once in awhile while remaining heterosexual to the core. It doesn't mean anything. It doesn't even necessarily mean he's bisexual. Human beings are creative, complex creatures--to play with other interests is completely normal and okay.
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Most guys are resistant to being attracted to another guy from upbringing and culture. No guy is completely hetero. Best way to decide where you are is go ahead and give some gay sex a try. Have a guy give you oral only and see if you enjoy it. Plenty of guys do. And receiving oral from a guy and enjoying it might make you bi. You might even find yourself preferring it. Still, you would likely be bi. Now, if you try giving oral, getting fuc*ed or kissing and find yourself enjoying it. Call it as it is and consider yourself gay. One thing unforgivable though is for a guy to present himself as straight to a girlfriend or wife, whether bi or gay. It is unfair to all concerned. So admit it and be honest.
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I most certainly KNOW that I'm lesbian. Growing up, I always heard people say how "bad" or "sinful" LGBT people were supposed to be, so I lived in denial for a long time. But no, there is nothing bad or sinful about it. I didn't want to be for a long time, but I finally came to accept it. Yes, it is normal to fantasize about the same gender, but that doesn't always mean you're gay. You could just be a bit curious...or bi.
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Plenty of gay people do indeed go through their lives hating this part of themselves. It's a shame. Speaking personally, I'm 31, and in my time, I've found perhaps five men attractive, as opposed to being able to see the daily standard of at least one woman I consider physically attractive. As I understand it, I'm actually less homosexually-inclined than most men; I admit to it, but it's extremely rare that it's an issue for me.
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As I've said MANY times; I dispise using "labels" to describe sexual orientations ... I believe that we are all just Human Sexual Beings having sex with whomever that we find sexually attractive ... see: NO Labels or judgements. Many so called str-8 males will have same sex fantasies. IF they act upon those fantasies ; then they would be labeled "Bi-Sexual" or "Gay" .... Of course; we do have MANY guys who live a male-female lifestyle in the open ; B U T they have a same sex rrelationship(s) on the downlow ....
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You cannot change whom you are attracted to, nor is it a "choice." This is the determining factor for orientation - the attraction. You always have a choice about with whom you have sex. This is NOT the determining factor for orientation.
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dude you can't choice to be gay it's just something that happens i'm bi and i didn't want to pick that but hey right now ur in denial just ascept the fact that ur probably gay or bi
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im gay..growing up i thought i was str8 dating many females, i dont act or talk feminine and it grosses me out. whn i was 19 i met sme friends and soon i seen myself very fond of 1. after 2 years i began feeling the wierdest feelings and figured out i was in love am 22 now, i feel like i wasted 3 years but really ive been lying to myself since my 1st date in the 6th grade
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