I Cheated on my girlfriend of 2 years and she found a video of me kissing another girl on my phone.2 months latere she slept with her ex. She says she wants me not him and that she was upset and confused. Should I stay with her
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jay234
ANSWERS: 13
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First question to answer - why did you cheat on her? Second question - why did you leave evidence of your deceit? Third question - were you surprised that she acted as she did? If you love her and she loves you then there should be no need for such stupidity on either side. Rather than wondering if you should stay with her you need to ask why she has stayed with you. Stop being so selfish and either commit to a relationship with her or leave her to move on with her life. I'm sorry if this is blunt, but you sound sorry for yourself when you started the whole thing.
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you havn't got the right to be upset with her since it looks like she made an honest mistake and you did do it first. Ignore all the feelings you have about dishonesty and cheating and decide if you should stay with her purely on how you feel towards her. If you love her stick around and if you don't cheat again I reckon she won't either
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2 wrongs dont make a right, and who made the video? you will never have the same trust again
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I somehow find your question a bit confusing if not contradictory - you admit to cheating on her and keeping a video of it 8 months after the fact (why would you keep it for so long if the I'm assuming one time cheat meant nothing to you) - yet you ask if you should stay with her. So she slept with her ex (not an unknown person to her or you) yet you ask if you should stay with her which to me sounds like you are pointing the finger at her - perhaps the question is should she stay with you or should either of you stay with one another...
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Why did you save the video? Was it that you watched it alot or maybe wanted to get caught? It meant something to you, otherwise you would have deleted it. So she found the video, and cheated on you? I agree with the poster who stated two wrongs don't make a right. Seems monogamy is not a part of your relationship. Once there is betrayal, lies and cheating I dont see how either of you can continue this relationship. There are trust issues on both parts, and shame on both of you for cheating during a serious, committed relationship..
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Well either way you look at it...It's cheating and I don't believe in cheating. If I can't commit to a relationship, there will not be one. If I do commit to a relationship I am committed! If any one has thoughts of cheating, and you care at least a little bit about the person your with, I think you should explain to your partner, and as hard as it may be, you have be honest and up front with them. explain that things in the relationship are not what you want them to be. Tell your partner there is someone else your interested in. Yea, its going to do alot of emotional damage to your partner, but cheating does alot more damage than you know. and will always be remembered, but should you stay with her? is a question that needs to be answered deep within yourself. You both have done significant amounts damage to each other. I believe if someone cheats once, they will do it agin. Do yourselves a favor and move on with your lives.
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Break it off. Seriously, why drag out a relationship that will never go anywhere. Obviously, you're not happy if you're both looking somewhere else for "love".
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just one question,did she cheat because of the video...if she cheated once she will again ,she says she wants you... this is because she is feeling guilty...if you can forgive her,does not mean you will ever trust her again...i say let her go,a clean slate will be healthier for you....rb
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Why did you take the video?!? You must have been drunk. She slept with her X because she was perhaps jealous and wanted to make you feel the same way. She wanted to get even, which is never the right thing to do! Unfortunately getting even is human nature. I don't think you could have a lasting relationship with this kind of thing going on between you. Become more loyal yourself, and in the future your gf will be more loyal (hopefully)
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i'm not surprised she's upset and confused,who wouldn't be.Not saying what she did was right tho. The question you need to be asking yourself is why were you kissing the girl in the first place...
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I think the two of you should sit down and talk. I think that you should stay with her after talking with her. Both of you made mistakes, but if you really love one another then you can get past it.
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NO. She's right - you are both confused. After 2 years you should be out of the dating phase and moving forward in your relationship. You should break up and each of you should work on some self-respect. Break-ups happen! They are painful! But they usually lead to a better situation for both of you. Time to let it go.
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yes forgive her but if she does it again leave. and if you see her ex after words. beat his ass. oh and punch him once for me =) lol
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