Rape fantasies are actually quite common. As long as it stays a fantasy or used in safe role play, then it is quite normal. Most psychologists actually relate this bondage, where one partner is submissive and the other as the aggressor. So yes, it's ok...

I had a real problem with your question. First of all, no it is not normal to fantacize about such a violent, invasive, horrifying act. Secondly, I read some of your other questions. You asked if you were "mental" for fantacizing about having sex with corpses. In another post you said your b/f had sex with you when you were asleep. You also said you were 13. In another question you were married and another had a b/f for 8 years. I understand that you have problem so PLEASE get some help right away, before you accuse someone of rape or get into trouble. I dont want anything bad to happen to you. There is help out there, and medication as well. You had said you were depressed but I think it goes deeper than that and you have to take care of your mind and body.

Hey JustNormal! What do you think Im a liar, or Im just some kind of sicko? And what are you a shrink ? Did you ever stop to think that I may be asking a question about someone else? No, you just jugded me and you don't even know me.

I am no doctor, but fantasizing about raping someone, screams for psychological help. i do not do this and i am sure 90% of the population does not do this. that puts you in the 10% category. Your only salvation is that you know the difference between right and wrong, in this situation. and, thats good.

I am concerned about Freaky, here are just a few of her previous questions. You be the judge!! Is it okay to fantasize about rape but then think that when someone is really raped it wrong? Does it make you a bad person if you go on the Internet pretending to be someone else Are you mental if you have fantasies about having sex with corpses? My daughter is 13 and is about to start the 8th grade, and she keeps thinking about all the kids who were mean to her in the past. How do I help her forget about it and move on? I'm 13 and I think I might be suffering from depression. I'm always crying and I've thought about suicide. I told my mom about it but she said there's nothing wrong with me. I've asked her to take me to a doctor but she said no. My 13 year old daughter has a crush on her science teacher, who is 15 years older, and said she hopes to be his wife one day and have kids with him. Is this normal? My boyfriend told me that sometimes when I'm asleep he has sex with me. Is this rape? My husband of 7 years told me that he kissed another woman on the lips. Is this considered cheating? My boyfriend wants me to say his name while having sex, is that normal? What is manic or hypomanic? I have been with my boyfriend for about 8 years and for the last couple of months I been having dreams of him making love to a close friend of mine and I also have had dreams of them getting married and having kids. What does this mean? Is it unusual for a 13 year old girl to have a crush on a 27 year old man? Is it normal to forget what classes you took in college last year? My 13 years old daugther had a crush on her science from her last school year. And she keeps telling me that she can't stop thinking about him, that she wants to be with him,be his girlfriend,and to be his friend. My daughter doesn't even know What does it mean when a mood cycles? FreakyChick Beginner 2 Posted: Sep 2, 2006 by FreakyChick Beginner 2 Posted: Sep 2, 2006 by FreakyChick

HERE WE GO AGAIN: A fantasy is just that - A FANTASY. As long as it stays within the confines of consenting partners. As with other sexual role playing like bondage or S&M, partners will use saftey words that keep the act from going past either's comfort zone. Many men and women have these fantasies and will include them as part of their regular sexual practices. Rape fantasies are about sex. People who have rape fantasies lead normal everyday lives. Think about people that use handcuffs, silk scarves, and ropes during sex. Actual rape, on the other hand, isn't about sex. Even though it is forced intercourse, the act itself is about violence. The rapist forces themselve on an unwilling victim because of unbridled aggression. Often, rapists have other mental problems such as schizophrenia, bipolar disorder, psychotic disorder, and dilusional disorder. Similar to those who can't control anger and end up in fights, assaults, and battery - the aggression is displaced into the act of rape. ***I am a professional musicial that double-majored in Musical Theatre and English with minors in Psychology and Philosophy. This doesn't make me an expert in this subject, but this does give me some insight.***

By the way, it really isn't fair to rate down a question that "disturbs" you. This question has generated a lot of heated and meaningful conversation. How does that make it a non-helpful question? Sometimes this site is really irritating: when bubbly questions like "what's your favorite song" get top ratings, but something that actually makes people think gets rated down. Good luck to you, questioner. I rated you up: for getting this much discussion rolling, even if you made up the question and even you are playing a role instead of being a real person with a real problem. Sometimes a woman will have fantasies of being raped or taken. It does not make one "sick." It may make you want to think about why. If you or the person who is having these thoughts is voicing concerns about it, perhaps her own mind is telling her something is wrong, otherwise she would continue to fantasize in the peace of her own home. So if she thinks there might be a problem then perhaps she should talk with somebody professional about it. If she is enjoying it guiltlessly, continue to enjoy it. I have had the fantasy of being forcefully taken. I enjoyed it. I had no reason to share it with anyone. I think because I am a powerful woman, it sometimes feels good to not be "in charge." That is the "answer" for me, as much...as sexuality needs an answer. I think that there are people who grew up with very stilted backgrounds who probably think that lots of sexual stuff is CRAZY. They may not allow themselves to fantasize at all. If they did, they'd understand that the brain has an awfully dark side and that parts of our brain are entirely outside of our controls. Perhaps the people here should all tell us what they fantasize about. *Wink. Honestly, to me that is a litmus test for this question. If they don't even fantasize themselves, they need to see their ways out of the conversation. The question of whether you are mentally ill, in large part, depends on how you are functioning in the world. If ya go to work, people perceive of you as "normal," you probably are. Only you (or this person) knows how internally tortured you/ they are at the end of the day. And if tortured they are, see someone other than this site, pretty please. We only play "experts" on t.v. My brief summary: if the fantasizer thinks it is a problem, perhaps it is symbolic of something problematic. If the fantasy just makes her feel hot and gooey, no worries. Continue to have your fun and disregard the santimonious b.s. you've read here.

Absolutely. Rape fantasies are one of the oldest most common fantasies in the book. If you read Nancy Friday's collection of female fantasies "The Secret Garden" you will see the vast majority have a rape element to them. It is completely normal and perfectly OK. I would go so far as to say most women (and probably a fair few men) fantasize about rape-type scenarios at some point. Its sexy to be dominated, to let go of responsibility for your actions. But in a fantasy you are in control of the situation. You get to choose exactly what your "attacker" looks like, what he does and doesn't do- although it may take the form of a "rape" scenario, it has little if anything in common with real rape I think the answer I wrote here addresses some of the concerns: http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/31156

Yes, it's ok to fantasise about it and even share your fantasies with a partner. The fantasy isnt the same as the reality. Most women want to be the submissive one at some stage and it's the thrill of that!

Thinking about it is not illegal, acting on the fantasy is. Wether it is wrong or not depends on the upbringing of each individual, example, a religious person would think it is wrong, and thinking it, is the same as doing it, so this is a loaded question lol!

Please do keep in mind, with the debates here, that all serial killers fantasized about killing before they actually did it, so that is why I stated that fantasizing is not illegal, but acting on that fantasy is. I am not, I repeat, not taking sides, nor will I on a honest debate.

Actually it's VERY common for women. that doesn't mean they want to be raped IRL. It's no different that people who fantasize about or practice BDSM. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rape_fantasy

Of course! Dominance/submission sort of fantasies and relationship is very different from actual rape.