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  • Why bother? Let him have his moment of happiness.
  • Wow, we are more similar than I thought. My 38 year old brother who lives with my folks is all messed up from his drugs. He was learning disabled, emotionally disturbed and then put all sorts of drugs into his system. He might not be brain damaged but he never worked or filed an income tax in his entire life. Let your brother dream, at least he is motivated. Mine just likes to smoke loose tobacco from a pot pipe over the stove in my parents kitchen.
  • I agree with Blessed, dont discourage him - that is the wrong thing to do! When he says that, just say 'I bet you'd make a good one' or Something like that, he doesnt understand he cant do that, and he'll probably never try. Those occupations will change with whatever he is watching. I have a down syndrome cousin who has lived with us for a long time, she wants a baby, but is too incompetent to handle sex or a baby, she is 27. She plays with baby dolls and such, she likes to take care of dolls, and we let her.
  • I would suggest speaking with a psychologist before discouraging any of his behaviors. You never know what could damage his self confidence or hinder any accomplishments he may be making in his condition. Good luck!
  • I honestly couldn't let myself care about him. My little sister is a jerry springer quality crackwhore... my wish finially came true when my older sister was given custody of her daughter. if my little sister dies from her stupid choices then I do not care. I do not care how it happens, but I want her to be starilized. but I am a heartless bastard.
  • try to make up for all of thouse years he lost.
  • tell him the job is taken
  • The question is, should you discourage him at all? Let him have his happiness, it sounds in short supply enough.
  • Why discourage? It sounds like he is trying to find ways to reason and grow mentally. It may bother you having to watch him do this, but it may be the only way he can find a way back to his true mental state if it's at all possible.
  • Just let him go - he isn't really hurting anyone is he?
  • If he is functioning at a 13 year old level then I am assuming someone has to be with him all the time, why are they allowing him to use the phone to make these calls? I don't think he should be discouraged from dreaming though. Give him a pad and pen and tell him to write down all the things he would like to be and tell him you will contact the people for him, later on tell him the job was taken or let it fade into the back ground as he finds other things to be hooked on.
  • I'm sorry for your brother, who has his entire life ahead of him and the brain damage happened. You should try to tell him that the occupations isn't real or that he can't do the job. Let him down and tell him the truth. If he gets upset, then try to calm him down.

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