I've answered this Q before...basically, not all women who date a MM are in love with him...so i guess i'm not qualified toanswer this....specific Q...sorry

Even if there was, ABer's don't like it, and frowns upon anyone who would be with a MM, so have fun finding one.

I believe, from experience, that many women who have relationships with men who are not continuously available (married, prisoner, etc.), do so because sometime in their formative years they came to associate love with "yearning." If he was consistently available, there could not be this "yearning" to be with him. When he was consistently available, I felt suffocated and needed more space than the "normal" couple needs. Or I would become completely disenchanted. I believe there are statistics that show men who leave their wives for the OW are indulgeing in a relationship that seldom lasts.

I am also speaking from past experience. A decade ago, I met a man who told me he was separating from his wife he was so unhappy. Three months in to it, when I had fallen madly in love with him, he told me he was still married and living with his wife and kids. That explained why he never stayed the night, why his phone calls were sparse. I was dumbstruck, but already in love. He said he was going to eventually leave his wife. The lovesick fool I was, I believed him. To make a long story short, after 2 years of us breaking up and getting back together, I finally ended it for good. He tried to leave his wife and kids, but he moved back in 3 days later. That was the final straw for me. Dating a married man is an extreme emotional rollercoaster. She never knows when she will see him again, she constantly waits for his calls, hates him, loves him, wants him with her, gets suffocated when he's around too much. It's horrible. It's exciting. It's heartbreaking. It's wonderful. Emotional rollercoaster...yah....to say the least. I will never ever do it again. Never. I am taking a huge chance here on AB answering this question, knowing how so many people like to judge. My past is what it is: the past. I have learned from it.