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by Nitroduck on August 6th, 2008
15 years old is too old for spankings to have any useful effect....
And everybody that knows me knows that I do believe in "whuppin' that ass" regular.
I've tried three or four different approaches on this one, with mixed success..
You can ground them, but then you are stuck living with a grouchy 15 year old, and will end up resisting the urge to strangle them with the dirty socks they have left on the living room floor. In the end, grounding just ended up making them realize they needed to spend the night with a friend so they wouldn't get caught next time.
I have created miserable, early morning projects that we had to get up and do at 6:00 am until 2:00 PM. 15 year olds don't like to work with a hangover. PRO: You get a dirty job done - dirt cheap Con: You have to get up at 6:00 with them to supervise. In the end, there really wasn't much lesson value.
The 3d thing, that has proven best in 4 out of 5 of my teenagers - is communication and tolerance of drinking at home. I allow my kids to drink beer at home with moderation, and under supervision. They know they can drink at home, and they know I'm going to have a "come apart" if I catch them drinking anywhere else.
In giving them the "respect" of not forbidding them alcohol at all, they really have nothing to rebel against, and a good alcohol education has reinforced their moderation.
We teach our kids how to drive cars, but we expect them to learn all about responsible alcohol use on their own - and only after they turn 21. -- Pretty dangerous if you ask me --
by Waiting for Illumination on January 19th, 2009
Spank? a 15 y/o? Don't think so. I would send them to bed and be sure to wake them up really early and give them lots of chores to do. Sometimes a wicked hangover is the best punishment of all.
by Disturbed in a Jr COAT is so confused on August 6th, 2008
My parents didn't punish me when they found out I am a recovering alcoholic. I was 12 when I started drinking, and now I'm 14. But they never punished me. They were just dissapointed in me (which is punishment enough.)
by mikemega on August 6th, 2008
All kids experiment. I'd be glad they came home and that they were safe. We'd have a talk about it and we'd figure something out. I couldn't have my child riding in a car with someone drunk, or stumbling down the street wasted, or anything like that. It's irresponsible. I'd let my child know that drinking is dangerous at that age. I know they may decide to do it anyway, so I will let them know what is absolutely unacceptable. The Harm Reduction Model. He could drink at home with me someday, but not at 15. I'd have to punish him with extra chores and taking away privileges. Spanking them wouldn't do much good, in my opinion. If you're going to break the law, do it safely and responsibly.
by lonelydragon on February 5th, 2009
No. Spanking an older teen is a much more delicate issue because they're sexually developed. There are more effective punishments for teens, such as making them do manual labor, taking away the car, or grounding them from seeing friends.
by Ec-nal Licensed Bootie Inspector on August 6th, 2008
No, a good heart to heart would suffice yo...
by dr james on August 6th, 2008
spank???
try shoot
by john pennington on January 19th, 2009
Caught my 15 year old daughter drinking a wine cooler at a party.
No spanking here, she was too old for that.
What did i do? i embarrased her in front of her friends.
I threatened to arrest everyone in the house, including the owner.
I gave everyone to the count of ten to leave on foot.
My daughter did not hate me for this. instead, she later thanked me and said she was wrong.
It happens.
Its how you handle the situation that really counts.
Each case is different.
by angel_face on August 6th, 2008
I think 15 is a little too old to be spanked.
by bubbles on August 6th, 2008
I believe in a spanking. It isn't about the physical pain...more about the psychological aspect. I was spanked a handful of times as a kid...it didn't hurt at all...just my ego, and I turned out just fine.
However spanking can only be affective up to a certain age. 15 is too old to use this method. This only thing it will do is humiliate and anger them. Take away privileges and talk to them. Make them realize that they are making poor decisions and they need to start thinking like an adult.
by Jen-Jen on August 6th, 2008
No, because being drunk don't = abuse.
by Carrot and Stick on August 6th, 2008
Isn't a 15 year old a bit old for a spanking?
by thatsJustme on February 5th, 2009
the next day,not while drunk.....thinking they are too old to spank at 15 sounds like u are pretty much done with parenting, discipline, raising...and as most now a days this is when they need it more than ever...people don't know where their kids are, who they are are with, and most haven't a clue what they are doing..Columbine ..parents give em car at 16..and they are on their own so the parents don't have to raise em...selfishness...if u don't want to raise them don't have them...
my son came in at 15, said "Daddy said I was too big to whip.." I said not a word to him, just walked out, found his Dad, and told him "how dare you tell him that", he may be too old for a spankin, but not man to man then..u will teach him to take it like a man then!" and he did...and my son turned out the better...and talks about this today...
nowadays 13 on is when they need more discipline and supervision more than any other time this world has ever seen....why? there is much, much ,more terrible things today and children are given too much responsibility than ever before ..and they aren't ready...kids don''t ruin their lives today, parents do!!! their jobs are to love, protect, prep, and send them out as responsible 18 yrs...ps they should be mowing yards,takin out garbage, foldin laundry, doin dishes, ANYWAY,,girls and boys, not because they are bein punished, because being responsible...this Dr. Spock crap and stupid books are whats wrong with the kids today...young parents think they know more than theirs did...they don't...IF they had even half way decent , loving, responsible ,unselfish, parents that is...! I love my only grandchild with all my heart, but I will spank that butt and he knows it. he is 11 and a great kid...
by Amduscious on January 19th, 2009
make em drink till they throw up and never wanna drink again lol
by jackpipe30 on January 19th, 2009
No, you make them mow the lawn. If it is winter time, you make them paint the inside of the garage, and when they get done, make them paint it back the same color it was when they started. You then make them wash your car as long as it's not too cold, if it's too cold, then they must clean the entire house. Once they are done with the house, they need to go around the yard picking up any trash that is on or near the property, and whatever busy work you can think of to make their day shitty.
by zemra_422 on January 19th, 2009
YES YES AND YES oh and i would also spank you for asking that question. But also, talk to your child. Be involve in his/her life. Maybe ther's something going on. And if he'she doesn't talk well still be there for them and get involve. know where they're going, what they're doing, who they're friends are but also trust them. Oh and you better ground them (aside from the advice his/her actions need to be corrected) don't let your child manipulate you. good luck
by Eilleennnn(: on January 18th, 2009
no. at 15 spanking doesnt do anything. i'd punish him/her.
by Anonymous on January 14th, 2009
No. I picked my 16 yr old son up at the police station because he was drunk. When I got there I didn't say anything, we got in the car and then I said to him "I'm so dissapointed in you and we'll talk about this in the morning" He's 20 now and sometimes we talk about the past. He told me he will never forget how he felt when I said that. He said it was worse than any punishment he could have gotten.
by Ec-nal Licensed Bootie Inspector on November 12th, 2008
Naa, not unless I wanted a 'repeat performance' yo...
by doubtful007 on November 12th, 2008
Brute force is not the answer. Get your kid involved in something constructive. Give them goals they can reach so they are encourage to continue.
by SloaneRanger on October 19th, 2008
Literally, no. Figuratively, yes. For days, weeks, possibly months, on end.
by ICU says April is Autism Awareness Mo. on October 19th, 2008
No way. Take away their privileges. It will hurt more.
by WoOZackWoO on October 19th, 2008
Yeah so I'm 15 and gunna throw this out there, 15 is too old to spank.
Cause y'know...they can hit back... >.<
At this point your best bet it so put them on lock down?
by Anonymous on October 19th, 2008
I would not spank a 15 year old under any circumstances. By the time they are old enough to attend school - and I don't mean high school - there are better, more effective ways of discipline.
by Pixie - jeg er elsket on August 28th, 2008
I sure would, my momma beat me for coming in late at 17 years old so why not 15? x3
by TAPriceCTR s son is wearing his COAT on August 28th, 2008
no. at 15 spanking is probably as effective as logic is at 2. I would find something better. hopefully the next day would be really sunny make him mow the lawn. other things forcing him to function in the agony of a hangover. aside from that he would be severly punished through groundings and the like.
by Krystan on August 6th, 2008
Absolutely not. Spanking should be replaced with other non physical punishments well before the child is a teenager. I would probably have a long talk, after they are sober of course and then do some grounding and restrictions.
by Anonymous on August 6th, 2008
No. I can't see how spanking them would make them or me feel any better about it. I would ensure they are okay, keep an eye on them, and when they are thinking more clearly I would discuss my concerns with them and do my best to discourage any future episodes of the same.
by suzycue on August 6th, 2008
No. Why?
You lovingly put her to bed. In the morning you sit on the end of the bed with an Asprin or two and a cup of tea. You say "That was really, really stupid. I know it is normal to experiment, but any fool can get drunk. Smart people know when to stop and can change to soft drinks in between the alcoholic beverage.
Do you have any idea how vulnerable you are to someone raping you when you are that drunk?
Next time you choose to experiment, you call me and I will come and get you. This is NOT me condoning your stupid childish behaviour...this is me loving and caring about you. My job is NOT to spoil your fun, but to protect you against further dumb behaviour".
Then you kiss her...and let her sleep it off.
by needtoknow on August 6th, 2008
No, I would not touch my child, spanking is usually done by slapping the backside. A 15 year old is much too old for anyone to be slapping their butts, not appropriate. I would however be furious and try to ground the child and take everything fun away, I would also see if you could get some infoon alchohol and it's affects on the body and make the child read it.
by ruthless613 on August 6th, 2008
No I do not think spanking a 15 year old would be Appropriate and it probably wouldnt affect them anyways. Theres mush better ways to handle teenagers. ;)
by TAPriceCTR s son is wearing his COAT on August 6th, 2008
I can not imagine ANY 15 year old on whom spanking would work. pain infliction is only effective when the yare too young for negotiation or for reinforcing obedience... at 15 they are beyond the obedience stage and trying to make them such will likely cause them to pull away harder.
I would ground them and hope they got a hang over so all the noise we were going to be making would make them miserable. and hope they learned that drinking is the stupidest "adult" activity there is... it is however unlikely that my children will do such because they will be taught from childhood how moronic consumption of alcohol is... all their immediate and most of their extended family neer touch alcohol.
by Sosueme on August 6th, 2008
No, but they would get a stern talking to and lose some privileges. Then I would sit them down the next morning when they were all hung over, crack a bottle of Jack and make them drink till they puked.
by Stillme FBB on August 6th, 2008
To late for that!
All privelages revoked!!!!!!!!Till they show they deserve them!!!!!!! The End!
by dingobully on July 8th, 2009
A spanking at 15 doesn't really hurt unless you are using a whip or something which would be abuse.
by sousakuryoku on July 8th, 2009
Don't spank.It has no use. The child is drunk, remember?
Let him/her sober up. The next morning you just remark him/her being pretty drunk last night. Be cool about it.
Most kids will learn their limits this way. Give them advice, tell them it's damaging, but don't preach.
Most important: Don't argue,or put hem under pressure. You'll only make matters worse and increase the chance he/she will stay away when he/she drinks.
You'll even increase the chances he/she'll lie about things like these.
by alwayscurious on June 24th, 2009
No. Age 15 is too old for a spanking. Something else would be done, but I'm not sure what. I'm glad I have never had that problem.
by SuperBug3000 on April 1st, 2009
NO WAY because that's sometimes what teens do and also that would be so embarrassing for both of us.
by Nursey loves the Sox on February 5th, 2009
One of my best friends from High school stumbled in to her house one night. Her dad didn't say a word, but had her up at 6 am doing yard work all day. At the end of the day he told her that he expected that she would never do that again. She didn't
by loves.CSI.vegas on January 16th, 2009
At the age of 15, they want to be treated like an adult. So, do that. Let them know how dissapointed you are in them, and how they have lost all of your trust.
Take everything out of their room, save bed and clothes, and let them know they are now grounded. They go to school, they come home and do chores and homework.
No TV, No Stero, NO ANYTHING.
They may hate you, but they will have a lot of time on their hands to think about what they did.
by Snow Bunny on January 14th, 2009
No because I think 15 is way too old. But I would sit him/her down and have a serious talk with them about drinking and its harmful effects.
by DreAnna on January 14th, 2009
No..I don't see how hitting the kid is going to do any good.
by UneFille on November 12th, 2008
That's kind of dumb. Do something more appropriate for the age.
by R U Sirius on November 12th, 2008
No........I'm hoping the hangover would be sufficient punishment enough...........and then a good lecture while she's battling her headache in between hugging the toilet..........
by IndianaJesusfreak on October 19th, 2008
A 15 year old is too old for spanking. And a drunk 15 year old just might kick your butt if you tried. I would ground them for a month and do whatever it took to find out who got the alcohol for them. I would find out who they were with and call the parents of the other kids. If the situation warrented extreme measures I would not hesitate to get the police involved. It may sound harsh, but you may be saving your kid's life.
by Done. never again. on October 19th, 2008
No...spanking a child at 15 is too old and would be humiliating for the teen. I would never want my kids to feel like that.
by Occams Electric Razor on October 19th, 2008
no..HOUSE ARREST! no cell, no computer, no friends over, no going out..hard labor at the house!
by Anonymous on October 19th, 2008
spanking is not very useful so ya but i have a 17yrs old sis and drank when she was 15 and so my dad spanked her on her back with a metal belt and still she does drink im telling you parents SPANKING DOESN'T HELP (NEITHER DOES GROUNDING)
by BitterSweet on October 19th, 2008
Spanking a 15 y/o won't do much for disciple.
by Mountain Momma on October 12th, 2008
15 is far to old to be spanking your children. They are young adults. I think its important to not loose it in situations like these. Most people experience this sometime or another as teenagers. A calm discussion about it can help alot and grounding them might be he wisest punishment.
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good answer,though I think I have to try waking my daughter at 6:00 am with a hangover and make her clean the dogshit up out of the back yard,It may not work but would be fun to try anyway.
by Kiss A Fat Babys Ass on August 6th, 2008
Oh yes.... You should still try... Just for the fun. You have to yell at them drill instructor style to get them moving, and stand over them at every scoop. Come to think of it.. I kind of miss those days.
by Nitroduck on August 6th, 2008
i could send my two over for you to practice on nitro??? you need to wait another 10years though!
by Mentalmum is back on August 6th, 2008
fantastic! i cant wait to have kids :) im going to get 10 dogs to hehehe
by jemroid on August 7th, 2008
Send them babies over!
by Nitroduck on August 7th, 2008
coming your way..first class :)
by Mentalmum is back on August 7th, 2008
Nitro, you are the shit. You need to coem over & straighten out my son. I don't care if he drinks either. We all did it @ that age. His deal is that he's on house arrest & & ihad to send him to live w/ my bro in Ohio to get him away from the morons he hung out with. I know once he's off house arrest, he'll be back to smoking pot again. :(
by snakelover on August 7th, 2008
did you get him that xmas pressie when he came out of prison? maybe you should have swallowed your anger and pride,and taken him out somewhere
by strange1 still in pb on January 19th, 2009
In a way, yes. He didn't get out on Xmas but on jan 14. He went to live w/ his dad (which is what he wanted) & I just let it happen. I hope hee does better this time around.
by snakelover on February 21st, 2009
I wish him well!
by Nitroduck on February 23rd, 2009
Right on - I know how you feel and have handled my son's drinking in much the same way. He's got over the wanting to get wasted and doing some awful mixtures by himself as it wasn't a big rebellion thing.
I have occasionally allowed parties at the house with his mates as he knows they're 'supervised' and are stopped from doing anything stupid - as well as having an appointed guardian for anyone that has drunk too much so they don't vomit on their own.
You gotta teach them about things in life, even stuff you'd prefer them not to have anything to do with - my philosophy being that if anyone's gonna teach them, I'd prefer to get in there first.
by sweetheart on October 21st, 2009
That warms my heart, Sweetheart. We do have to educate them. It is especially useful to put them in charge when you let them bring mates. Make them responsible for the cleanup (especially of the vomit :) ), and they tend to get a little less carried away, and set a nice tone and pace for their friends. I always confiscate all keys as well.
by Nitroduck on October 23rd, 2009
by Nitroduck on October 23rd, 2009
especially the vomit! I refuse to touch it if it's not mine! Good one for the keys - I had an hysterical girl lock herself in a bedroom whilst her boyfriend wanted to climb out the window up to the next floor - god they're so stupid at times. I calmed them all down and had to shout pretty hard to get her to open up. Told her that this was my house, my rules, no locked doors - if she didn't want to talk to her boyfriend she tell him to take a hike instead of making a scene. They don't like being treated like little kids when they behave like them -
by sweetheart on October 25th, 2009