Hi again, I see you are pondering adoption, that is wonderful. There are no licenses, no qualifications when it comes to being a Mom. With us, it is all maternal instincts. I remember being preg with my first and I said to the doctor "I dont know anything about babies." He said "you will learn as you go along." He was correct. You seem to love children, want a baby or child, and have LOTS of love to give. In my opinion you are qualified and make a wonderful Mother..

Love.

I haven't seen your other posts to know about the adoption thing but I am adopted and can tell you that whomever loves you and raises you will be your mom. Briefly, most of the adopted people I know, went through a teenage rebellion period (I hate you - you're not even my mother....) but that is a phase for mostly all teenagers. The way I look at it my mom (adopted not birth) is my mom. The fact that I don't come from her womb doesn't take away from that. One thing I would recommend is not waiting until they are older to tell the child they are adopted. My parents were telling me before I was old enough to understand so, when I finally did get what it meant - it just seemed normal to me. I had a friend whose parents told him after his 18th birthday and he hated them for making him live a lie for that many years. As for what to look for in a mother; love, understanding, respect....at the same time - don't try to be a friend - children need rules - in time they will respect you for drawing boundaries.

- Someone who wants to do their best - Someone who cares about the child - Someone who is willing to let the process teach them what they need to know. You're not going to have it all worked out in advance -- that's the nature of all the really important things in life. It's like learning to play the violin in public -- you gotta keep moving forward and making mistakes, then trying to correct.

This is a toughie. Although I love my mom very much she wasn't always the best mom. But here goes. 1. Discipline your child - this may seem like a no brainer but not disciplining your child or inconsistent discipline is just as harmful to a child as discipline that is too strict. 2. Don't try to be your child's friend. 3. No mother is perfect. They all learn as they go along. (hopefully) Don't be afraid to ask for help whether it be from friends, a counselor, or a minister/rabbi. 4. Take care of yourself. Anyone who has flown knows that they tell you in an emergency if the oxygen masks pop down put yours on first. If you pass out who will help your children. 5. Develop a support system. Family, friends, other moms in your area whatever. 6. Sometimes it's okay to let the house go messy. Prioritize what needs to be done. 7. Trust your instincts. If you think that something is wrong with your child insist on getting help even if you have to go to more than one doctor. 8. Learn. Whether you like to read books, surf the net, or watch videos. But again trust your instincts. 9. Let your child do as much as possible for himself. Yes it takes longer but kids learn by doing. 10. Give yourself a break. There isn't any mom out there that hasn't yelled at a child or lost their temper. Or otherwise hurt their feelings. As long as it isn't on a consistent basis they'll live. This is NOT a complete list. I tried to put things that aren't obvious ie. love your child. This is what I sometimes see when I am working w/ children.

Understanding

I want her to be first a Christian, as was my mother, dedicated to her spouse as was my mother, loves her children unconditionaly, as did my mother. Understanding, loving, compassionate, diciplinarian, giving, sensible, equal in her love to the other siblings, and a great cook, as was my mother.

Well the first requirement would be the ability to stick around and not let other people take over.

Unconditional love. HOnesty. Integrity. A good moral compass. And the ability not to embarass you in front of all your friends!

I wish my mother would just sit down and talk to me, make me feel like I matter. I wish she forget about her problems and just listen to me the way I listen to her. Sometimes I wish that she wouldn't expect be anywhich way. I wish she wouldn't fight with me in the 5 minutes I have with her every night. I wish she would hug me when I cry and kiss me goodnight. I wish I could let myself scream instead of letting things build up. I wish my could win my trust. I wish I had a mom that showed the love she speaks of.

Understanding and unconditional love

No matter how many qualities u try to list out,a mother always wins because she has more than that.

somone who will understand so i can tell her everything. and who will help me get through it. like my mom. Also, abilitly not to embarass me and instead to be just a normal mom.

A good friend who offers me guidance.

Hi there, Listen, don't judge, & disapprove of the action, not the child. I have two lovely teemage boys, who are so polite & nice to people that I get lovely comments by people about them. There is no secret to it, just be there when they come home, listen to their troubles & woes & a good, proper dinner. Regards

I always wanted my mother to be like my best friend always understanding, someone I know I could tell anything to without being afraid

One that didnt get drunk would of been a start.

Hi there, I have a terrible Mother & she is an even worse Granny to my 2 boys. But I have a good relationship with my children, & I know that parents & their children cannot be friends (until later in life). But my boys have their own way which I respect, but Mother wants to bend them into her way, which is not the business of a Granny. I dunno???? Regards.

a mother must have a heart like Jesus...she must be a real/matured Christian so as her children will follow her footsteps.."what u sow is what u reap"...I am a mother of 4 young ladies and 1 adopted son. I sow LOVE,CARE and good spiritual values unto them..God bless all mothers in the world!