PLEASE excuse me for being as blunt as my answer is. I really don't mean to hurt you or offend you. If Ido offend you, I am terribly sorry. It's not a question of your love fir both of them. It's his way of showing he doesn't love or care for both of you. I'm pretty sure if your daughter was over 18, your Q probably wouldn't even be posted. He would give you (and her) an ultimatum: Your daughter leaves and you stay. OR You both go. OR He goes. Your daughter is draining the household of money and valuable "private time" he would rather be spending with you - and only you. From his perspective, your daughter is "like a third thumb" - unwanted and un-needed. Thanks for asking your Q! I enjoyed answering it! VTY, Ron Berue Yes, that is my real last name! Sources: Because you asked. Some personal observations. "THE University of Hard Knocks" also known as ("a/k/a") "life's valuable lessons"

Having been the daughter in that position...have a talk with your daughter, and explain to her the situation you are in. Ask her to be polite and say hello, good-bye etc. She will need time to adjust, but in time, everyone will. Good luck! sharon

Based on the small amount of info provided and I'm assuming this daughter is a minor child. After 8 years you'd think the newness of the relationships would be over. Daughter comes first. Say good bye to the guy. There are people out there that will love both you and your daughter.

Yes, I agree with the comment relating to your daughter taking up 'couple' time. Now that you all are living together, he gets to see you doing things for your daughter and the amount of time you spend or talk to her. Because when you weren't living together, couple time was planned and probably without any children in the house. And your daughter not saying hello, is she ignoring his hello? or is he just expecting her to say it first? And if he is picking on her, she is probably just trying to avoid any contact. Men are so selfish and self centered, and I'm guessing he has no children or has no quality time with them. And is it your house or his house? If it's his house, he would be expecting all females (or visitors) to be bowing to his rules or his way of things. Talk to your daughter, get her opinion. Just because your partner wants you, doesn't mean he wants any children around. A little more time, look for small improvements, but try not to justify any negative behaviour on his part.

Well i would tell him that your dughtr was there first and that you were doing just fine before he came along

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If you two have been together for 8 yrs. he knows and should have accepted your daughter well before now. Moving in together always has bumps, and takes awhile for all to get settled in..but that is no excuse for his behavior toward your daughter..you need to address that with him. Your child definately comes first. and he needs to understand picking on her is unacceptable, period. He's the adult, she's a child, he needs to grow up!