The bird is about to fly from the coup and will never return. if after four years, she does not know how she feels about you, this may be the best for both of you. she wants to spread her wings and see other people. Yeah, it hurts. there is not much you can do to keep her with you.

You gotta let her go. Maybe she'll come back, maybe not. But anything you do to try to make her stay will be a mistake, because it will be based in your own clinging, anxiety, and pain. There's a corny old saying that you can probably still find on posters: "If you love something, let it go. If it comes back to you, its yours -- if not, it never was". Corny, but applicable in this case. You can't trap love in a jar and hold it close to your heart. It has to breathe to live.

Sometimes women and men need space. I know my ex was pretty hurt when I told him I needed space, but he gave me that space and found a whole new side of himself. Take the time to find yourself and you never know what could happen. if she is only saying this to go sleep with others you really don't need that anyway. You can't tell her No she can't have this break though, it will only make things worse in the long run. Sorry you're going through this. GOod Luck

Im going thru the same thing as you are with my girlfriend..although we were only together for 16 months but knew each other for 4 years..and she told me the exact same thing..needs time to find out who she is and how she feels...sadly, theres nothing you can do but let her go..give her some time, but do NOT call her..wait for her to call you..any chance you have of getting back with her will fade away if you do that..don't pressure her for anything..and when she calls you then you can go from there, but don't pressure her then either..maybe start out as friends and slowly build it back up..my advice after she calls you is to see if you can see her. Or maybe during the break she'll realize she misses you and she'll want to see you. I saw my girl yesterday for the first time in 3 weeks and alot of feelings were rehashed and now I have a feeling we will get back together. But don't push anything..If she really loves you, she'll come around..every woman goes thru this where they feel they need to be independent... and yes it's sucked at times but you can also use that time to find things out about yourself..look out for YOURSELF and don't worry about her or what she's doing..that'll just lead to hurt and sadness..i know it sucks believe me cuz im going thru it too, but keep your chin up and remember that everything happens for a reason. If it's meant to be it's meant to be and who knows..maybe you'll meet someone else and realize that this wasn't what you were lookin for after all... Good luck and keep me posted..my email addy is DMil24@yahoo.com

Since you are not married to her, taking vows before God and legally bound, she can leave if she wants. If you cling to her, you really will lose her. Let her go and if she comes back, it will probably be for good. If she doesn't, at least you know. You shouldn't want to be with a person who doesn't want to be with you.

Sometimes you just need one, i hate to say it but in rare cases time just doesn't change into the right way you want it to. People change, ideals change. After 4 years in a relationship, don't you both think you deserve a chance to make sure that this isn't dragging on without any purpose? I know inside you would want to be with a person that loved you, just as much as you'd love them in return. Abide by the break, give her time to think. But make sure that when she comes back, if she does, that she has an answer to what she wants and expects from the relationship. And if that doesn't suit what you want, then maybe you need a break, and needn't come back.

If after four years together, she "requires" a break, she will do the same after you are married. What is she really trying to tell you?

give her some space sweetie.. maybe she will come back, maybe she wont.. if the love is true she will.. dont smother her or make her stay, that will just make things harder.. i wish you the best of luck...

don't forget the saying "if you truly love someone, let them go. If they don't come back, they were never yours to begin with." or something like that. The point is, you don't really have a choice. You can't force her to stay. If you're lucky, she'll come back to you.

Let her go if it's love she will be back if not move on a one sided love affair never works. Don't force her to stay it will only push her away. Show her all the support you can give. If you love and honor her let her go and tell her you will wait.

Man come on there is a lot of women out there for you dont be idot life is to short to be sufering for a woman move on ayou too.