I know some people like rough sex, but my boyfriend tied a belt made out of fabric like from a bath robe around my neck during sex, is that going too extreme and should I be concerned?
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missy25
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It depends. If you liked it and he didn't push you to your limits or was aggressively trying to do so, then yeah. It's ok. But I am getting the feeling it was something you were not comfortable with, or you would not be asking. So it would not be ok. I would simply tell him, we tried it, I didn't like it, so let's not do it anymore. NEVER let someone do something to you that makes you uncomfortable, scares you, or hurts you in anyway. That makes it definitely NOT ok!! OK?? :)
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If you are asking the question, you're concerned. Rough sex should have code words, since "no" isn't normally accepted. If it gets TOO rough, if either say the word, the roughness stops immediately. There are also those who get off on what you described. It's dangerous, and people have died while doing it. Have you talked to your BF about your concerns? If not, do so. If you have, and he still continues this practice, you have a decision to make... Stay in this dangerous relationship, or leave and find someone who will accept your limitations. Personally, pretending is fine. But if it's too rough for either, it's too much. Yes... I would be concerned, at the LEAST.
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Yes that is too rough, and you are concerned since you asked this question.
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