Um, if you have reason to think he may want to, of course. However, if you have no reason to think he's trans, then it might not be a good idea to do it, it could really screw the kid up.

what the hell is wrong with you?!

If you are serious than you should quickly get to a therapist. Do not put your sonny boy through this.

if your son played a girl and a boy picked him up his own age for a relationship would you be OK with that sex etc.

if you can get your son to do that then go for it. i think it would be funny. I'd do it.

What makes you think he would love this? Why would you love this so much? Why would you want your son to act like someone he is not?

I know I already gave you an answer, but I just wanted to say that I really commend you. No matter what anyone says, if this is what your child wants, you are doing the right thing. I wish my mother could have been as supportive with me. +3

I think it is a good thing.

just think what his frieds would do to him when he came home and told them that you said he could dress like a girl. Most people don't think that way so I would prolly be really hard on the kid.

Considering you've said in your comments that he WANTS to be a girl -- I think it's a great idea and I'm glad you're supportive of him -- I'm sure he'll have lots of fun.

No, keep it to yourself and go away with one of your female friends instead.

It sounds to be like you are forcing your wants on him. If he would have asked, I would say it was fine, but he didnt!!! You said you "think" he might like it, try asking him. Why do you have to take him away to do, he can put the clothes on at home when he feels like it.

This is one reason why there are Homosexuals... . Where is the FATHER in all this?? What does he think???

After reading the comments here it seems that your son wants to do this either because he is a transsexual or trans gender, either way it sounds to me like you are being a very supportive mother and I commend your open mindedness and willingness to accept your son for who he/she is.

The boy is 13, far too young to have made, or to make, any kind of serious sexual choices. . While the mother "thinks" that her son would like it. She "knows" that she would "love" it. Can't you see that she is pushing him, not supporting him. It's her dream, not necessarily his. - We must make these decisions ourselves without any pushing by mothers who have little idea of adolescent psychology. And this boy might be pre-adolescent. - No, a sensitive therapist is the right path at this time.

lmao do it! go have some fun.. but only if he wants to do it

It's not a matter of "allowing." The mother wants to guide her son into cross-dressing. A mistake at the age 13. 13 is way too young. Therapy for both is indicated. - Take note: the mother is calling people names who don't agree with her point of view. Sadly, she can't even see that there might be another side to this very controversial issue. She "doesn't need therapy." People who suggest it are "idiots." - Mom, if you have real love for your son, take heed, get professional advice. - Being a tranny, or a cross-dresser isn't easy. If it's going to be then let it come out naturally. Don't force it. Don't make it your little project. He's your son -- not your toy doll.

Some of you have been very helpful. I have talked at length with my son about all this. Im so glad I did, and so is he. He has thick, straight hair to the middle of his back because HE wants to. Now I understand. Going away makes much more sense than being spotted by someone he knows here.- Until final decisions are made. I have agreed to buy him clothes of his choosing, but also said that all of MY clothes are now OUR clothes and that I would help in any way I could. I got a big hug. I should start saying "herself". Her/his name is Terry, so that makes things easy. Last night we tried on lots of things. My fav was jeans, uggs, and a t-top. She stayed in along wool skirt (just below knee), nicer boots and a long sleeve blouse, for a few hours. This AM we laid out the outfit she will be in when I come home from work. The weekend is the real thing. She looks 110% female, that is the easy part. No puberty yet. Seeing how she interacts as a girl with me and others will be interesting. So, Yes, we will engage professional help. Good idea. But after she has a few weekends in his other self, and knows that this is what she really wants. Thanks to everyone.

I am positive you need some professional help, as will your son very soon. Instead of this little outing, why not call a therapist and get some help.

This is a very bad idea on many different levels

yeah, that's what you need to do -- go ahead and f*ck up your kid's sexuality real good before he even makes it to puberty. what the hell are you thinking to even CONSIDER this? I believe in being supportive of your kid, but as the adult, I think it is also your responsibility to protect said child from perversity and I don't see you doing that by dressing HIM in girl's clothes and pretending HE is a SHE. Nope, no way!

Based more on the answer you posted than the question itself. I would leave this up to your son. If he is ready to being exploring this aspect of himself, he is very lucky to have a mom who will support, rather than shun, him. I also suggest the he get into therapy, not because there is something wrong with how he feelings, but he is most likely doesn't have friend his own age who have these same feels as her does, and could benifit by having someone (other than his mom) who he can talk to. Also many people with gender issues, become depressed because they can be so misunderstood, and hated, just for who they are.

If you think he would enjoy it, then absolutely suggest it. It will be a weekend he'll never forget, and if he has any transgender tendencies at all (anywhere from mild crossdressing and beyond), he will appreciate more than anything that you are accepting and open to it. He'll also appreciate the opportunity to learn early on how to look pretty.

I think its her way of saying that she just really wanted a girl

do it

hi, susan, here's the deal this will scar your son and the society he comes in contact with for hundreds of years to come... yes even after his departure his next 8 generations will curse you for doing that please don't

Looks like my answer has been deleted from AB staff. Well what can I say. I'm sorry for thinking NORMALLY and tried to persuade her to have expert advice first. Go one people, nothing happened on more guy became a girl. I guess better, more chicks now for me ! I still don't think she is a mother. I think this is sick. You can downrate this answer as much as you want, let's see how down can you make it go.

At this age he is entering a whole new world of adolescence. Let him be. Just support him in the decisions he makes about his sexuality. Don't push him to be something you 'think' he wants. If he wants to dress like a girl or even be a girl then let him do it on his own. Just let him know that you love him and that you support him and this may give him the confidence he needs to express how he feels. He may not even want to dress as a girl or become a girl. He may just have more of the feminine qualities that society thinks belong to a girl and not a boy. Just because you would like your son to dress up like a girl doesn't necessarily mean that he wants to. If he wants to, he will. Like I said, don't push him. Just be a supportive parent for him.

You are a sicko, IMO.

Hey!!! If you wanted a girl, try having another kid! Although, from what you have just demonstrated, that may not be wise.

You're sick.

Before I answer properly: why would he love this? Because he likes acting? Because he likes bonding time? Because he likes blurring gender boundaries? Because he might like to be a girl, or at least pretend?

Susan......why couldn't I have been your son!?!?!?!?!? I love what you've done here. and would love to know how this is turning out so far

Woah :| I don't know about anyone else but that's really disturbing. I think you're a little sick in the head. Your son isn't going to turn out very well..... Maybe you should start sleeping with him too just to top things off??

i agree i would suggest therapy! You have a SON not a DAUGHTER! xx

He's 13 years old and just barely old enough to come into his own as a young man. Don't confuse him so early on.

I'm kinda shocked. Why do you think your son would love this? I have a 12 year old son and he would HATE this. This sound very abnormal. If your son has some gender issues, perhaps he should be in therapy to explore that in a professional environment.

Thats just funny - I'd love to see it . . .

You need severe and quick mental health care.

that is not even funny it is sick get help.seriously

I think it would be a great idea for the both of you to get away for a weekend. How bout the loony farm. Get some help

Um, no. No Way! Think about the problems it would give your kid! He'll think you love him more as a girl and would probably start acting and dressing like one after that! Down the road, maybe get a sex change and waay before that come out to you that hes gay. Please. Dont push the issue, thats not right.

NO NO NO NO NO! If he wants to dress as a girl, let him make up his own mind when he is older! Don't dress him up, you will only confuse the poor boy!

no unless your boy wished he was a girl too. Boys and girls can look similar in their teen years it doesnt mean they want to be the other sex, it just mean they have similar features. Let your son be who he is, do not interfere and mess up his head, if you want a daughter go have another child. although please don't, you sound screwed up!

Sure...if you want to completely mindf@$k your son! You can't turn your son into a girl just because you think it would be fun or cute. You honestly don't understand how damaging this could be to him?!

You are sick......the only place you should take him is to the social services and place him in their care as he is obviously in emotional and sexual danger from you who pertains to be his mother....Mothers DO NOT behave in this manner no matter how progressive, modern or well meaning, and at the risk of repeating myself you are a sick individual who needs help NOW before you destroy your child's life take the step your sons future depends on it.

I feel so sorry for you! Did you in fact WANT a girl? Why would you even think of messing with your sons mind? I personally think you're bordering on child abuse. Your entire question has left me feeling ill. I have two sons and at NO point in thier lives did I once wonder how good it would be if they dressed as girls and went away with me. You need professional help. Sorry to be so blundt.

Just because your son could "pass" for a girl doesn't mean he is. There are many "straight" guys who have gentle features. My husband is not what I would deem "macho" looking but is straight in every sense of the word. Give the kid a break; let him find himself whatever that may be---you're trying to be a "cool" mom when in fact you could damage him for life with your suggestions.

I genuinly think this would be mentally unhealthy for him dont do it its a little fucked up let him get older and then let him decide on his own, without your influence, if he would want to do that

You need help girl.. how you can even ask a question like this is beyond me.. im hoping this is a hoax and youre actually trying to provoke a reaction, or youre looking for attention. The flip side of that coin is you are actually serious, in which case i hope someone, somewhere who knows you notices something is seriously wrong and informs social services, and your son is taken away from you. Poor boy is all i can say..people like you dont deserve to be mothers.

I'll repeat my comments..Yaay for Susan. It seems she really did do the right thing and have an open and frank conversation with her son. Why shouldn't she.. he is old enough to have those feelings.. why push them away and ignore them? Why treat him like he has some kind of disease? He is who he is and should be loved and encouraged to be that person. And who better to do it than his own mother? Would it be better for him to be crushed by the rejection of the person who should love him unconditionally? As far as therapy goes.. why not. Not to cure him.. but maybe to help you both deal with the questions that may arise later on. Therapy is for the healthy too you know.

I don't see anything wrong with it. As long as you make sure you know his answer, and if it's "yes" that he is absolutely positive about it and will have a good time. And you can't be pushy about these sorts of things. So if you are going to give it a try, you can't expect him to give you an answer straight away. Be patient, respectful and considerate with him. Hope I helped. :)

Nope. Bad idea. You need intense professional help over a long period of time. At the very least the next five years. At least then he will be 18 and able to legally get away from your sickness.