My 13 y/o son could easily pass for a girl. Right now we are the same size. I want to take him away for a weekend and have him be a girl the entire time. I think he would love this, I know I would. Should I even suggest it? Susan

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• +3 for you man...i dont even know why these freaks down rated you... jees the world turned to a sh1t....

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  by Anonymous on July 29th, 2008

• Yes, the world has gone to shit, because of people like the two of you. God forbid a mother supporting her child in something as hard as this.

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  by Caffenated llama of flourescent doom on July 29th, 2008

• Caffenated: you may have had trouble reading the question. The boy is 13, far too young to have made, or to make, any kind of serious sexual choices.
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  While the mother "thinks" that her son would like it. She "knows" that she would "love" it. Can't you see that she is pushing him, not supporting him. It's her dream, not necessarily his.
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  We must make these decisions ourselves without any pushing by mothers who have little idea of adolescent psychology. And this boy might be pre-adolescent.
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  No, a sensitive therapist is the right path at this time.

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  by Cubaneyes on July 29th, 2008

• I am glad you thought to ask this question. The answer is "no." Let him be until the time comes.

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  by Father Hood on July 29th, 2008

• Caffenated llama of flourescent doom or whatever your name is... the world gone shit because of people like me ? Are you trying to make me go mad ? THE BOY IS CONFUSED. He is 13, and he doesn't know about sex and culture ! GO AHEAD MAKE IT A WOMAN. he will kill you when he gets older and realise his life is ruined !

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  by Anonymous on July 30th, 2008

• I can just hear Mom telling her friends and any stranger at a bar who will listen: "And we wear the same size dress. Isn't that a hoot? Here's a picture of us together."

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  by Cubaneyes on August 6th, 2008

• It should be the boy's decision if he does not want to go. Not yours.

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  by Mania Marie wears a COAT of many colours on November 1st, 2008

• Well, shes asking if she should suggest it, not if she should make him do it.

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  by Caffenated llama of flourescent doom on November 1st, 2008

• Yes, and Anonomously said she is sick for even suggesting it to us.

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  by Mania Marie wears a COAT of many colours on November 2nd, 2008

• I don't think shes sick for suggesting it to us. She was asking our advice. she thinks her son might enjoy it and shes asking what we think she should do. Once again,s he wasn't asking if she should force her son to do it, she was asking, since her son seems to show signs of gender identity issues, if she should bother suggesting it to him.

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  by Caffenated llama of flourescent doom on November 2nd, 2008

• I know that already, but the user ANONYMOUSLY said that she is sick fro suggestion it. I never said you said that. I think ANONYMOUSLY is wrong for thinking that.

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  by Mania Marie wears a COAT of many colours on November 2nd, 2008

• Suggesting therapy does not have the pejorative connotations that saying that someone is "sick." The therapist might think that it is time to modify the boy's gender identification, or the therapist might might want to place the issues on the table for future discussion. What the mother should have recognized is that she should not take action willy-nilly without the guidance of professionals, and further that 13 is much too young to make life changing decisions without professional assistance.

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  by Cubaneyes on November 2nd, 2008

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• If you read the comments, you would have found under my answer that her she told me that her and her child talked about it, and her child wants it, and was happy that she asked.

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  by Caffenated llama of flourescent doom on July 30th, 2008

• I read all A's and all comments--thoughtfully.
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  The child is 13. He is not old enough to make such important, life changing, momentous decisions. And the mother should have been neutral, not encouraging.

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  by buster on August 6th, 2008

• Susan you have good common sense. Can I give triple points?

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  by pathfinder on August 6th, 2008

• I disagree

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  by Caffenated llama of flourescent doom on August 6th, 2008

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• At 13 most people know who they are attracted to and whether they feel different to others ask any homosexuals or trans gender people and you will find many of them knew at a very young age how different they were. The mother has already said that her son is interested, how many 13 year old boys do you know who would say they woudl love to dress as a girl unless they really did? I don't see her supporting him as pushing him.

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  by Gingerminx on July 29th, 2008

• She asked him, and he said he would like it.

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  by Caffenated llama of flourescent doom on July 29th, 2008

• And to support Gingerminx, i knew I was trans since I was fiveish.

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  by Caffenated llama of flourescent doom on July 29th, 2008

• Thank you Caffenated. I don't really like defining myself by my sexuality, I hate limits lol, but I am straight and knew I was from an early age even if I didn't know what straight meant. I also have a few gay and trans gender friends and they knew from an early age what they were. Sexuality is something we are born with it doesn't just happen when we hit puberty, that is just when changes take place making us ready to reproduce. teenagers know how to say no, I asked my son if he wanted to get a tattoo or dye his hair when he was around 13, 14, and he said NO, laughs.

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  by Gingerminx on July 30th, 2008

• *wipes tears from her eyes*
  Beautiful, intelligent empathetic people like you are very hard to come by nowadays.

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  by Caffenated llama of flourescent doom on July 30th, 2008

• Well thank you. Smiles.

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  by Gingerminx on July 30th, 2008

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• +3 for you man...i dont even know why these freaks down rated you... jees the world turned to a sh1t....

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  by Anonymous on July 29th, 2008

• I like a brief to the point answer. Yes, what the hell is wrong with her?

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  by Anonymously on July 29th, 2008

• +points - for thinking EXACTLY what I was thinking!!

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  by Smart2 is back! Did you miss me? on July 30th, 2008

• Panties or not -- that isn;t the point. the boy must have a chance to grow up on his own without his mother or other transgendered or cross dressers encouraging him. When the time comes he can decide on his or her own without any help from a suffocating mom. .

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  by MaryWebb on August 1st, 2008

• Pure sickness...

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  by Anonymous on August 5th, 2008

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• D/R'd again ... +6

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  by Jen-Jen on July 29th, 2008

• LOL, I pissed someone off, LMAO!!!!!

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  by Sweet T on July 29th, 2008

• Thanks Jen!!!

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  by Sweet T on July 29th, 2008

• When I saw that you were D/R'd ... I immediately went to your page, and looked .... And your welcome.

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  by Jen-Jen on July 29th, 2008

• They arent going to bother me, it doesnt do anything, anyway.

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  by Sweet T on July 29th, 2008

• I like STOMPING on trolls though ... LoL

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  by Jen-Jen on July 29th, 2008

• Hahaha!!!! There are plenty out there, stomp away. You can make Troll Whine, LOL

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  by Sweet T on July 29th, 2008

• What are you trying to do kill me? ... LoL

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  by Jen-Jen on July 29th, 2008

• Maybe I should ask how to make troll whine? LMAO!!!!!

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  by Sweet T on July 29th, 2008

• I dare you, and I got your back ... lamo

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  by Jen-Jen on July 29th, 2008

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• i agree with the greek lol she needs SERIOUS HELP!

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  by LuckyLefty on August 5th, 2008

• You go Greek! She is very ill.

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  by mariag on September 23rd, 2008

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• -2 for you

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  by Anonymous on July 29th, 2008

• +6 for you! Well, I would if I could.

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  by The Special One on July 29th, 2008

• i know you would. I tried sending you my bra, did you not get it yet?

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  by Jane on July 29th, 2008

• Man .. can you believe these people ? I thought this question was a joke.. Am i wrong because im getting a bit crazy watching these answers

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  by Anonymous on July 29th, 2008

• Hey, Sara. I think you only live about 10 miles from the Chino quake. Apparently all is OK with you.

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  by Brian on July 29th, 2008

• ... It isn't about humor...

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  by Caffenated llama of flourescent doom on July 29th, 2008

• It would be funny??????? Read your Bible!

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  by Sally-The Redhead on July 29th, 2008

• You know Sally, just because you take the Bible as the word of God, does not mean everyone else does.

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  by Caffenated llama of flourescent doom on July 30th, 2008

• Read my bible? ok, my bile is the Torah.
  AND to Brian, yes Chino is the city right next to me. I didnt feel it because I was driving. RATS. Seems like it would have been fun to feel. No one was hurt so its all good.

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  by Jane on July 30th, 2008

• That was YOURS? Man, I thought I stole that from the laundry room (I spent the better part of a day trying to figure out a good response, that's the best I can come up with)
  
  Also, pretty sure the Torah (and the rest of the Western religious texts) has no qualms with dressing up a young boy as a girl. Historically they did that all the freaking time. So, read YOUR bible.
  ZING!

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  by The Special One on July 30th, 2008

• ZING. I love you, funny. did you get my email? Check my profile for my new blue eyes.

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  by Jane on July 30th, 2008

• the world gone shit because of people like me ? Are you trying to make me go mad ? THE BOY IS CONFUSED. He is 13, and he doesn't know about sex and culture ! GO AHEAD MAKE IT A WOMAN. he will kill you when he gets older and realise his life is ruined !

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  by Anonymous on July 30th, 2008

• ...if the her child really is trans, trust me, he knows by now. I'm really sick of saying this, but don't speak about matters you know NOTHING about.

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  by Caffenated llama of flourescent doom on July 30th, 2008

• Ok mister/miss pro. If you are so expert go to hospitals and suggest parents to turn their babies in trans. You should be able to tell by just looking at them since you are so expert ! GOD DAMIT THE KID IS 13. Let him play with other kids and enjoy his best years ! Dont F*CK him from now !

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  by Anonymous on July 30th, 2008

• Lee, you have no idea what you're talking about.
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  Sara, I would have loved the chance to do that at 13. It would have been a great time.

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  by Skirtsnhose on July 30th, 2008

• ...One does not become transgendered. One is BORN transgendered, if her child is, then they will be happier playing with friends as a girl, they're best years will become better.
  And its miss, thank you very much.

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  by Caffenated llama of flourescent doom on July 30th, 2008

• see Lee Skirts and hose wishes he could have dressed like a girl at 13 and he's striaght.

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  by Jane on July 30th, 2008

• Totally straight. Married and everything. To a girl, even.

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  by Skirtsnhose on July 30th, 2008

• :) and we love ya just the way you are....hose and all.

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  by Jane on July 30th, 2008

• I'm telling ya, I'm the life of the party when I show up in a cute skirt and heels. Lee doesn't know what he's missing. He should probably go get himself a cute little dress to help him unwind.

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  by Skirtsnhose on July 30th, 2008

• I wont continue this twisted and perverted conversation anymore. I'm sick of this. Do whatever you want with your lives. I figured its not worth trying to make you see the truth here... at least for you.

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  by Anonymous on July 30th, 2008

• Thanks for rejoining the conversation to announce that you were leaving the conversation that had carried on without you. Don't let the virtual door hit you in your blockheaded ass on the way out, sunshine.

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  by Skirtsnhose on July 30th, 2008

• It wont. There is no virtual door and im not stuck to the tradition. I accept gay people but this sick behaviour is just too much. Good luck with your life "sunshine".

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  by Anonymous on July 30th, 2008

• Totally sick and disgusting, I agree. I bet you think George Washington was a complete perverted freak because he wore silk stockings, high heels, makeup and a wig, right? Go home and put a bear skin on, because I guess in your world, fashion standards never evolve.

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  by Skirtsnhose on July 30th, 2008

• You really missed the point here. Im sick of hearing defending a mom who will make his 13-old boy trans. Im not against gay people. And im proud that fashion never evolves in "our" world. That shows that we dont need new clothes to experience love.

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  by Anonymous on July 30th, 2008

• You're missing two points. One, she's not "making" her son trans. He already is. To what degree remains to be seen. You really do not understand what you're talking about in this case.
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  Two, You completely missed the point that fashion is evolving all the time in "our" world. You think I made that crap up about George Washington? He certainly didn't wear "pants" as we know them today, so in his family, no one wore the pants. You should be thankful that fashion standard have evolved, or otherwise YOU would be wearing high heels and silk stockings, too.

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  by Skirtsnhose on July 30th, 2008

• 1) The boy is confused yet, he hasnt got a clear idea about sex or generally the adult world. Dont ruin the boys life. Maybe he hasn't got any idea what change he is about to make.
  
  2) I dont care about a president. And if all men wore high heels i would wear too. Its just a shoe. If men wore it from the beggining it wouldnt look strange. Maybe wearing tuxedoes and boots would be gay for men...

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  by Anonymous on July 30th, 2008

• But you're still missing the god damned point, if you are transgendered, you know!! It would not be fucking up the child life if the child wants it. Stick that into your thick, adamantium skull!! Please do not try to inform people of matters you are not informed about!!

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  by Caffenated llama of flourescent doom on July 30th, 2008

• On (2): I'm glad to see we've made progress from "sick and perverted" to "violating social norms" which is nowhere close to the same thing.

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  by Skirtsnhose on July 30th, 2008

• On (1): What makes you think the boy is confused? Everyone with personal experience on this point has told you otherwise. I knew what I was (at a very basic level) at 3 years old. By 13, I knew exactly what I wanted. I could only dream of the opportunity that this boy may get when I was 13. His mother isn't going to "make" him transgender of any stripe. He already is. You may not like it (and I respect that), but you simply do not understand that this is not a matter of flipping a switch or making a conscious decision for this to be a part of his life. It's real, and it's permanent. The only relevant question is: How does he deal with it?

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  by Skirtsnhose on July 30th, 2008

• I have heard many gay who did surgery and after some time they regretted it. I think consult an expert is the best solution. The mother says "the boy could easily PASS for a girl" that means he looks like one but are you sure he is gay ? Maybe he is sensitive and his kind nature is written along his famine-like face.

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  by Anonymous on July 30th, 2008

• BEING GAY DOES NOT MEAN YOU WANT TO CHANGE YOUR GENITALIA!! IT MEANS YOU ARE ATTRACTED TO THE SAME SEX, YOU IGNORANT FUCKER!!
  Once again, Gay: Being attracted to the same sex
  Cross-dresser: Enjoying taking on the garb of the opposite sex
  Trans-gendered: Feeling trapped in the body of the opposite sex
  Yes, there have been documented cases of TRANS-GENDERED people who have regretted the surgery, and you must be dumber than I thought you were if you think doctors didn't realize this. Because of said cases, there are now strict requirements one must meet in order to qualify for the surgery, and they must be evaluated by two different psychiatrists (yes, I mean psychiatrist). One is also required to live as their "desired" gender for a year full time during hormone therapy, and must be seeing a psychologist for three to six months before starting hormone therapy. The process can take years.
  If you had paid attention to other answers, you'd have noticed she said her kid wants to do it.

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  by Caffenated llama of flourescent doom on July 30th, 2008

• Listen to me you asshole. I don't give a shit about you or the races of gay. Don't fucking swear me like you know me because you don't know a shit about me. I wont answer in ANY other comment posted on this answer, in fact i will unsubscribe for comments. All i was trying to do was to make that woman hear me and don't make her son a daughter. I didn't gave a shit about you or the other here but i kept answering just to make that woman hear what's better. I will repeat my self for another time DON'T MAKE ANY DECISIONS BEFORE CONSULT AN EXPERT. I don't fucking care anymore if you want to make that boy a trans so badly THEN GO AHEAD DO IT. I'm tired to conflict the whole gay population here.
  Do whatever you please...

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  by Anonymous on July 30th, 2008

• Why should anyone hear you, when you won't hear anyone else?

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  by Skirtsnhose on July 30th, 2008

• I hate people like him, not that I'm any better for flipping out.. but GAH

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  by Caffenated llama of flourescent doom on July 30th, 2008

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• The idea was to ask and find out, not to force the issue. If it is something he wants, I dont need threapy. Those idiots who suggest therapy for me are the kind who drive kids to suicide by making them into something they are not.
  
  Im a single mom. We did talk about it. He was very happy that I was supportive. Susan

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  by susanj on July 29th, 2008

• Thats good, I'm really happy you're so supportive.

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  by Caffenated llama of flourescent doom on July 29th, 2008

• I cant believe you people are actually talking about changing a boy to a girl... get therapy.. seriously...

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  by Anonymous on July 29th, 2008

• ... you have no idea what you're talking about. I'm a trans-woman myself, and if her child is too, this is needed. As Susan has said, doing not allowing the child to be themselves will lead them into a deep depression that could lead to suicide.
  Do some research before you talk, and accuse people of being crazy, thanks.

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  by Caffenated llama of flourescent doom on July 29th, 2008

• It's not a matter of "allowing." The mother wants to guide her son into cross-dressing. A mistake at the age. 13 is way too young. Therapy for both.
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  Take note: the mother is calling people names who don;t agree with her point of view. Sadly, she can't even see that there might be another side to this very controversial issue. She"doen't need therapy. People who suggest it are "idiots."
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  Mom, if you have real love for your son, take heed, get professional advice.
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  Being a tranny, or a cross-dresser isn't easy. If it's going to be then let it come out naturally. Don't force it. Don't make it your little project. He's your son -- not your toy doll.

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  by buster on July 29th, 2008

• Maybe the kid is just confused because he is a teen. Dont make that fatal mistake. Try to persuade it as much as you can.

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  by Anonymous on July 30th, 2008

• She said its what her child wanted. The kid would know by now if they were trans-gendered, its just something one is always in tune with.

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  by Caffenated llama of flourescent doom on July 30th, 2008

• Um, good for you??

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  by Caffenated llama of flourescent doom on July 31st, 2008

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• I think she wants a daughter.... I can't help wondering why he gets mistaken for a girl and if she has anything to do with that part.

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  by Nibble nibble bite nibble on July 29th, 2008

• I'm thinking the same. Either that or her son has feminine tendencies that we haven't been told about.

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  by Algernon.NZ - Dirrty on July 29th, 2008

• if mother brought this upon the child is that abuse?

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  by cosmo10 on July 29th, 2008

• I think so. But if it is the child that wants this and is trying to identify with their sexuality then as a parent I believe I would support them in whatever way I could.

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  by Algernon.NZ - Dirrty on July 29th, 2008

• I commented her and she said her child wanted it. If so, her child wouldn't be acting like someone their not.

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  by Caffenated llama of flourescent doom on July 29th, 2008

• Cheers Caffenated llama of flourescent doom
  Well if it is the child that wants this then I would support them.

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  by Algernon.NZ - Dirrty on July 29th, 2008

• **She commented my answer and told me**
  
  Sorry, It was late last night lol
  Anyway, Good ^_^, +4

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  by Caffenated llama of flourescent doom on July 29th, 2008

• I get it if he's wanting to do that, and wanted to without her talking him into it. If he wants it, go for it, but she shouldn't make him do it just because he looks fem. Since he wants it, it's good that she's supportive. ha

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  by Nibble nibble bite nibble on July 29th, 2008

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• Wow, that was fast. -5 without commentary, eh? What's the matter? Too afraid to reveal your ignorance?

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  by Skirtsnhose on July 30th, 2008

• Wow, another -4. Keep bringing it, folks. Why can't you tell me why you're posting negatives? Don't want to reveal your ignorance? Come on now.

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  by Skirtsnhose on July 30th, 2008

• sorry, thats really lame
  plus.... 6 i think
  i dont know how these point things work, i just press the plus button :P

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  by Kierafaye on November 1st, 2008

• Thanks. :-)

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  by Skirtsnhose on November 1st, 2008

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• please keep in mind that he/she is only 13.

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  by Hyacinth is not a Shrinking Violet on July 29th, 2008

• If her child is Trans, it wouldn't be playing a girl, she would be a girl.

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  by Caffenated llama of flourescent doom on July 29th, 2008

• but the woman said SHE wanted to
  it doesnt sound like any of it was HIS idea
  all of these should be his own ideas and desires without her influence what so ever

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  by Kierafaye on November 1st, 2008

• I've come across a few of her other questions where she hinted at him giving the impression that he might like it.

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  by Caffenated llama of flourescent doom on November 1st, 2008

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• The boy is 13, far too young to have made, or to make, any kind of serious sexual choices.
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  While the mother "thinks" that her son would like it. She "knows" that she would "love" it. Can't you see that she is pushing him, not supporting him. It's her dream, not necessarily his.
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  We must make these decisions ourselves without any pushing by mothers who have little idea of adolescent psychology. And this boy might be pre-adolescent.
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  No, a sensitive therapist is the right path at this time.

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  by Cubaneyes on July 29th, 2008

• At 13 most people know who they are attracted to and how they feel. Many homosexuals and trans gender people will tell you they knew from very early on that they were different. Just because she would love to share that with him doesn't mean she is pushing him into doing it.

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  by Gingerminx on July 29th, 2008

• I agree with you, Ginger. At 13 I knew I was a girl, and that is how I was supposed to be. Trangendered kids are often told that they don't know what they are or want. Which is a load of shit.

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  by Wickels on July 30th, 2008

• Agreed.

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  by Gingerminx on July 30th, 2008

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• Homosexuality, cross dressing, and transgenderism have nothing to do with one another. Know what you're talking about before you speak.
  Even if they did cause the other, I don't see why it should matter anyway.

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  by Caffenated llama of flourescent doom on July 29th, 2008

• -3 For being a bad person

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  by Caffenated llama of flourescent doom on July 29th, 2008

• he's 13! do you really think HE knows and understands they have nothing to do with one another????
  
  I'm not a bad person. I'm just saying it how i see it and how it is..

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  by prisoner on July 29th, 2008

• Silkylegs, I'm sorry.. but I can't comprehend your comment.. Can you re-word it?

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  by prisoner on July 29th, 2008

• That could be.. and that ALSO be more reasons why there are homosexuals.. Bad Fathering.. or even no father at all..

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  by prisoner on July 29th, 2008

• Are you claiming to be gay?

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  by prisoner on July 29th, 2008

• For the record I know I was transgendered at the age of five, and it didn't matter that I knew the difference between the three categories, i knew in my heart and soul that it was who I am. I was merely stating the difference because you didn't seem to know.
  
  Also, homosexuals aren't created by lack of fathers, effeminate qualities, maybe, but not homosexuality.

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  by Caffenated llama of flourescent doom on July 29th, 2008

• I'm not saying its the cause of ALL cases. But it could be a factor. one of many...
  Abuse, neglect, improper parenting, dysfunctional parents and families, single parent homes, ect.. are all examples of causes that can lead to homosexuality..
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  and no. At the age of five you have no idea and con not comprehend what the word "transgendered" even is; nor what a "soul" is for that matter..
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  You're "merely stating the difference" of what?? and I don't seem to know what??

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  by prisoner on July 29th, 2008

• The difference between homosexuality and transexuality.
  And I'm sorry, do you know me, can you tell me, knowingly, that I didn't know when I was five? No you can't, do you know why? Because you are not transgendered, you have no idea what its like. I had no idea what the word transgender was, true, but I knew that I was a girl. I've know for as long as I can remember, as most trans-people will tell you.
  
  Homosexuality isn't a learned behavior.

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  by Caffenated llama of flourescent doom on July 30th, 2008

• yes it is.
  i'm sorry about your childhood.

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  by prisoner on July 30th, 2008

• Ignorance is bliss, it truly is.

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  by Caffenated llama of flourescent doom on July 30th, 2008

• prisoner, did you know that you were a boy when you were 5? I'm pretty sure you were not only aware, but content with that. Some people do not have it so easy.
  Also, bad fathers, transexuals, or anything else is not a "reason" there are gay people. People are gay because that is the way they were born. When did you know you liked girls? Was there a time when you were thinking about liking boys, but decided to like girls? Doubtful, unless you are in the closet. People who think being gay is a choice forget that most (my only exception being bisexuals, who can choose as they like) do not choose at all.

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  by Wickels on July 30th, 2008

• Here here!!

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  by Caffenated llama of flourescent doom on July 30th, 2008

• Actually I did know I was a boy. I knew there was a difference between boys and girls.. Granted I probably didn't understand it fully, but I knew I was not a girl. I was raised knowing boys were boys, and girls were girls.
  I knew I was not meant to like boys because I was raised correctly and I had parents who loved me and cared for me.
  It's pretty ignorant and naive to think it's "human nature" to be born "gay". If you were meant to be born gay, youd be able to reproduce with the same sex. it's biology. pretty simple.
  And not ALL gays are an outcome of bad fathering, transexuals or whatever..
  like I said,
  Abuse, neglect, improper parenting, dysfunctional parents and families, single parent homes, ect.. are all examples of causes that can lead to homosexuality..

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  by prisoner on July 30th, 2008

• "Ignorance is bliss.."
  
  Caffenated, maybe that's why you are "gay"....

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  by prisoner on July 30th, 2008

• ... excuse me?? I'm a trans-woman because I'm ignorant?? Explain to me how that works??

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  by Caffenated llama of flourescent doom on July 30th, 2008

• You really are a moron.

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  by Caffenated llama of flourescent doom on July 30th, 2008

• Can you have babies? do you produce sperm or eggs?

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  by prisoner on July 30th, 2008

• I plan on saving my sperm so that me me and my fiance can have children.

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  by Caffenated llama of flourescent doom on July 30th, 2008

• If you can produce sperm, and not eggs, and you can not hold an embryo in your fetus, then you are a man. Not a female..

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  by prisoner on July 30th, 2008

• It isn't all about whats between your legs. Its about who you are inside. Eventually, I will get that nuisance out of the way however, as it causes severe depression.

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  by Caffenated llama of flourescent doom on July 30th, 2008

• lol.. nooo.. depression is what has caused all of your problems in the first place...
  
  But it IS about what's inside of you.. and what's not.. you don't have ovaries inside of you... You have testicles on the outside...

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  by prisoner on July 30th, 2008

• See the way it works for trans-people (and this has been pretty much proven) is that due to some screw up with developmental hormones, our bodies form into the gender thats represented between our legs, while our brains develop as the opposite. So For all intensive purposes, we are the gender we're changing into, hormones just got screwed up and resulted in the formation of the wrong genitalia.

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  by Caffenated llama of flourescent doom on July 30th, 2008

• Please, do not tell me I am what I am not. You have no idea what we as trans-people go through, so don't pretend to be an expert on the subject.

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  by Caffenated llama of flourescent doom on July 30th, 2008

• There are medications for certain hormones.. but you should match it up with the genitalia you were born with..

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  by prisoner on July 30th, 2008

• People have tried that, and the common problem is that their bodies become more like the gender it is, while the mind goes into agony being the gender it is.
  The scientists have thought of all of these things dear, you'll just have to accept that not everything in this world matches up to what you think it should be.

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  by Caffenated llama of flourescent doom on July 30th, 2008

• Well stated, caff. Not being trans, I could not have put that into words as well. It must be difficult for you. Best of Luck!!

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  by Wickels on July 31st, 2008

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• You can make a good case oout of that theory.

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  by Cubaneyes on August 2nd, 2008

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• This is sick

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  by Anonymous on August 5th, 2008

• Lee, why is it so important to you that boys and girls act in completely different ways?

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  by Blar on August 12th, 2008

• Because that's how nature and God made us.......

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  by Anonymous on August 12th, 2008

• Erm, no. Humans are (usually) born male or female - physical difference. The social differences that come along with that are culturally imposed, and they are different in different places and in different times. Look at different cultures. They will usually have two social categories - one for those born with a penis, and one for those born with a vulva. The SOCIAL FUNCTIONS associated with these BIOLOGICAL differences are not the same across societies. There are macho hunters north of Australia who spend hours grooming their hair and putting on makeup. That is considered 'masculine'.

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  by Blar on August 14th, 2008

• FIne but they don't go with men...

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  by Anonymous on August 14th, 2008

• Susanj has never said anything about her son 'going with men', so how is that relevant to your objections that him passing for a (typical Western) girl would be 'sick' and 'against nature'?

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  by Blar on August 14th, 2008

• Look i'm tired of this conversation in this thread. I'm not going to lose my life anymore talking about this thread. Whatever she wants to do with her son/daughter is fine it's her child.

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  by Anonymous on August 15th, 2008

• Yours is a sick fantasy, Susuaj ... and coaching your son in this manner is even more damaging.
  Please seek help for the both of you. He has been scared by this perversity that you so fervently encourage.

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  by Scott D - ex-QnA on September 23rd, 2008

• im in NO way agaisnt homosexuality or gender identity disorder but was this HIS idea from the start????? its not fai to him to be pushed into it
  he should be able to make his own decisions without being influenced

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  by Kierafaye on November 1st, 2008

• The boy is way too young to be asked or encouraged to make such a decision. Get thee and he to a decent therapist.

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  by Cubaneyes on November 1st, 2008

• Yaay for Susan. It seems she really did do the right thing and have an open and frank conversation with her son. Why shouldn't she.. he is old enough to have those feelings.. why push them away and ignore them? Why treat him like he has some kind of disease? He is who he is and should be loved and encouraged to be that person. And who better to do it than his own mother? Would it be better for him to be crushed by the rejection of the person who should love him unconditionally? As far as therapy goes.. why not. Not to cure him.. but maybe to help you both deal with the questions that may arise later on. Therapy is for the healthy too you know.

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  by Chacha on February 2nd, 2009

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• + four for paying attention

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  by Caffenated llama of flourescent doom on July 29th, 2008

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• Yes, but if it was what the kid wanted, they would be willing to put up with it.

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  by Caffenated llama of flourescent doom on July 29th, 2008

• I speak out of experiance

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  by Caffenated llama of flourescent doom on July 29th, 2008

• It would prolly get out to people that are not friends and there moght be problems with other kids or even parents. BEcause I am sure somebody would go to their parents and say so and so's mother made him dress in girls clothes. I personally dont think theirs THAT much wrong with it I just see it causing problems

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  by csimme01s ninja apprentice on July 29th, 2008

• Once again though, if the child wants it, its worth it

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  by Caffenated llama of flourescent doom on July 29th, 2008

• ...sport...??

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  by Caffenated llama of flourescent doom on August 2nd, 2008

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• You're aewsome

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  by Caffenated llama of flourescent doom on July 29th, 2008

• You people are unbelievable. Can't you get hold of yourselves ?

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  by Anonymous on August 5th, 2008

• I thought you left asshole??

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  by Caffenated llama of flourescent doom on August 5th, 2008

• ...yeah, troll or not silky legs, you're probably one of the most annoying people I've met on AB.

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  by Caffenated llama of flourescent doom on August 11th, 2008

• Caffenated you son of a bitch don't you ever say anything about me again because you dont know me you pervert.

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  by Anonymous on August 12th, 2008

• I know you enough to know you're an asshole.

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  by Caffenated llama of flourescent doom on August 12th, 2008

• I don;t know you at all but i still can see you are a sick pervert.

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  by Anonymous on August 12th, 2008

• Well, sick pervert or not, you're not going to stop me or anyone like me. In fact by calling me a sick pervert, you're just giving me more reason to, one, see you as an asshole, and two, to continue defending those like me, and supporters of those like me. People like you aren't going to win, just thought you should know, your cause is pretty much boned dear.

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  by Caffenated llama of flourescent doom on August 12th, 2008

• ... and yes silky legs... you're totally right, I wish I were just like you...

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  by Caffenated llama of flourescent doom on August 12th, 2008

• I wish you would use proper grammar and be less obnoxious.

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  by Caffenated llama of flourescent doom on August 12th, 2008

• Why yes, yes I would.

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  by Caffenated llama of flourescent doom on August 12th, 2008

• Oh i will never stop you. Go on make a fool of youself more, you make me laugh, why would i stop ?

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  by Anonymous on August 14th, 2008

• You're a disgrace to humanity, you and everyone like you.

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  by Caffenated llama of flourescent doom on August 14th, 2008

• YOU are the disgrace to the humanity, a "failure" of nature a freak. You are not only a freak on the outside but in the inside as well with that horrible attitude of yours. I hope you will never adopt a child because he will be very sad with you as a parent and another freak too, and I feel terribly sorry for YOUR parents, who saw their son become a daughter.

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  by Anonymous on August 14th, 2008

• Yup, I'm the failure. Not you, because calling another person (whom you've never even seen, let alone met) a disgrace and a freak of nature because of a superficial aspect that society has deemed disgusting.
  Yup, you're not a shit stain on mankind at all.

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  by Caffenated llama of flourescent doom on August 14th, 2008

• You started swearing me you ass

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  by Anonymous on August 14th, 2008

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• See.. take it from one who knows Susan.. your son is not an aberration.. he is a 13-year old child who is trying to find his way.

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  by Chacha on February 2nd, 2009

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