I am dating a single father of a 4 yr old son. It was a bitter divorce two years ago. He wants me to meet his son now, but it's been just a couple weeks. He's already told him about me but I'm wondering if it's too soon??
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SophieT
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To me it's too soon. He should take it very slow when it comes to his child, because ultimately if the child becomes attached to you, and the relationship does not work out, the little one will be hurt again. He should not be discussing his social life with a 4 year old child anyway, not cool. He is moving too fast in my opinion. Suggest he slow down and DONT meet his boy till you are on solid ground and serious..
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Way too soon. My son was 4 when I met my hubby. All my son knew was that he was going to spend xtra time with grandma & grandpa while mummy was out. He did see him on occasion & knew his name, but didn't know the purpose of his presence. It wasn't until I had a ring on my finger that he finally spent time with him. People like are using their kids to manipulate the relationship whether they know it or not.
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my guy, moved me, 'the stepmom' in after knowing me for just three months. situtation was i met him while he was working away from home. to stay with him, i had to move to his hometown. the kids didn't know me, but they had heard about me from their dad. they were just two and three years old at that time and that was eight years ago. Be careful. I've seen what multiple reltioinships can do to kids, they get hurt too, again and again, depending on the parent.
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It isn't a good idea to meet the kids until you know the relationship has a chance. You don't want to hurt teh kid. He'd get attached and you break up and he doesn't understand yet. He may think it was him. Wait unitl you know you like daddy, and daddy really likes you.
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its not too soon
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It IS too early. I have 3 stepsons myself and I can tell you meeting kids too soon is a mistake and will only hurt them in the long run. He should be protecting his child from further emotional pain and not exposing him further. I dated my (now) wife for 8 months before I met her sons and I would recommend nothing less. DO NOT meet his son until this relationship has the potential to develop into a marriage - nothing less. Otherwise, you are just another adult introduced into a 4-year old's life that will eventually be ripped away. Don't let Daddy corral you into playing part-time Mommy without the jewelry! Dad needs to be competent enough to take care of his son without floundering for a woman to assume his responsibilities. Protect yourself and protect the boy, even if Dad is less diligent about it.
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