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by Louisa on July 19th, 2008

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Ok my boy and i have been dating for 2 months now. when we first started dating he would always send me sweet messages all the time (usually a morning n night message) and hed always say sweet things to me, over msn or in person. more info in comments.

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  • by Athrael on July 19th, 2008

    Athrael

    Love is not hard hot passion forever. It usually starts dimming after the first kiss and about 3 years after the marriage (or living together) it is just a warm sometimes fuzzy glow that you might notice during the quiet moments between peaks in your daily workload.

    Males tend to not be so mushy for as long as females. Males usually 'cool off' quicker, their show of their love to you is being there. If he is around, he loves you.

    As for nothing to say - that usually comes much later in the relationship, however its not too uncommon for it to take place earlier.

    See most likely you too have spend 'too much' time with each other, and now you need space - individual space and time to do 'me' things (both of you) instead of 'us' things.

    I'm certain there are things to talk about - IF you both are living your lives - meaning you still keep your friends, still pursue your hobbies and interests. If you two haven't then you both must start interacting with other people and start living your lives again.

    Yes you will be part of an 'us' however you both are still 'me' - meaning you both have individual interests, needs, wants that make 'you' you.

    Lastly, don't come crying to us here. You are in a relationship - relations survive with communication between partners.

    You are asking us what is going on in his head - we are the wrong people to ask, because just like you we can not read his mind. Yeah, sure we can point at possibilities and make theories and point out the most common 'reasons' but in the end we really have no idea why he stopped texting you or why he is 'cooled' like he has.

    This is a problem in your relationship - his actions are affecting you, and you 'don't know' what he is thinking because you can't read his mind.

    What you need to do is sit there and talk - not about the weather or what you all did that day - you need to say 'Hey, used to be you would send me messages and tell me_______ all the time, I miss that. What happened?'

    Failure to communicate and find out the real 'why' behind what is happening instead of guessing will lead to tears, which will turn into resentments, then one day he will say one word off and you end up breaking it off - not really because he said that one word off, but because your inability to talk to him about this has lead to you thinking a lot of thoughts and building up a ton of resentment which allows you to see one word off color as being a 'good reason' to break it off.

    So now you should know of something to talk about.

    Honestly if you can talk about this issue and communicate both ways, you will find that the next topic for conversation will come a little easier.

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  • by Anonymous on January 28th, 2009

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    well maybe u should confront him. no tlike umm how come you dont tell im pretty just be like ohhh ummm do you still like me like that b/c i like you and if ya don tthats okay. just make him feel comfortable to tell you how he feels

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  • by Mr.LiAr . . . . . AwAy on July 19th, 2008

    Mr.LiAr . . . . . AwAy

    one more chick
    one more donkey
    one more fool
    one more story

    take a chill pill n enjoy

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  • by Louisa on July 19th, 2008

    Louisa

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    but now he never does it any more. its like hes not even interested, i understand that sending me that many messages cost alot of money, but what about everything else. i hav no idea what to talk to him about anymore and i like hi ALOT and dont wanna loose him. it makes me cry thinking about this and i would really appriciate some help and advice.

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