ANSWERS: 4
  • Even as an adult I concede that when someone says "I love you" before I am ready, it puts a huge amount of pressure onto me to reply in kind, even if it's not true (or just not true yet). There is a good Seinfeld episode about this; the so-called "I love you return". If you simply enjoy the other person's company, are fond of them and like them a little, you don't want to crush them. The urge to "bend the truth" and just reply "I love you" can be very strong. I suspect the boy in question did something similar, though I cannot vouch for his motives. Being a teenager, love is a frightening thing and perhaps inadvertently your own admission of love made him realize that he didn't love you (despite saying it); made him compare your relationship with his previous one, perhaps where he did feel love. This is just speculation off the information you've given me, but your confrontation should be simple: Ask him what is going on. Be honest about how you feel without turning it into an all out argument.
  • honey you got to put your heart under lock and key and don't let a guy have the key till your both ready...it seems like you are but he isn't.
  • Did he go out with her all those times after you told him you loved him? If so, I think he's a bit of a cad. I don't know if it's worth confronting him because he probably isn't the most truthful person in the world.
  • Um, she might not be as much of an "ex" as he led you to believe.

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