Wow I hear ya hun. I have mine satisfied by my Dom but I don't know what I'd do without him lol for my need to be spanked. Wow 5 years?? That sucks. Do you do anything for him that you don't particulary care for? If so, you should say that to him because it's all about give and take. If he won't budge, maybe you'll have to look for a Dom of some kind to spank you (which I don't think is cheating because we're not talking about intercourse). I know cheating is subjective but you should let him know your intentions if you're thinking about going to someone else for it. It's like if you refused to give him blowjobs and he said 'Well babe if you don't, I'm gonna have to find a girl who will give them to me'. It's a need you have and he should be open to fulfilling it for you.

Which side of it are you on? Do you want to be spanked or do you want to spank him? The answer to that question is critical to anyone wanting to help you. If you want to spank him, I can understand why he wouldn't want to. On the same token, he might think it's never okay to hit a woman. But since he hasn't budged in five years, I would consider talking about it first (especially if you do something for him that you don't necessarily like) giving him a choice of either indulge you or lose you. If he still won't budge, leave.

Often reluctance is based on society's views of abuse and fear of hurting the partner/loved one. Let him know that there are erotic spankings and discipline/punishment spankings and let him know what you crave. Show him that if you get what you need that things can get even better for him. Start the dialogue and keep it going.

I struggled with my boyfriend for a whole year, but he was hesitant. But the following worked for me. First I explained that it was for my pleasure and because of my adoring love for him. I bought a paddle, a whip, and straps to bind me to the bed, so I showed I was serious. We agreed on a secret password that signals "end of game" if I really felt bad. I have never needed to use it yet, as he is very carefull and caring. Then I negotiated with him on what he likes best! Bob loves me to pleasure him orally while I massage his prostate, and we are both crazy about anal sex, which gives me long mindblowing orgasms. That night he wanted his anal sex, so I told him he had to pleasure me first. He became immediately excited. He scolded me for my bad behaviour, tied me face down on the bed, put a pillow under my hips to lift my butock, and the spanking began! After just 8 lashes we were both so hot we could hardly breath, and he went for his prize, the anal, without untying me. When he finished he was so hot that he gave me oral sex, which I love, even though I was on the first, heavy day of my period. That was a first time for him, and I adorod him for being so intimate and adoring. It was the best sex we ever had, and he now loves disciplining me as much as I do. Our relationship has become fantastic, our sex is much better and we get to talk openly and explore new pleasures and experiences. It might work for you too! Cecily

I would love to spank you and help you out with your spanking urges :)