ANSWERS: 8
  • If you can't leave your baby with your husband for 1.5 hours something is seriously wrong with your relationship. If you feel fat and jiggly since you haven't gotten rid of your baby weight yet and don't want the massage therapist seeing you like this, just tell your husband the truth and schedule the time when you feel better naked.
  • It sounds like he really wants to pamper you! Is he able to watch the baby while you get some relaxation time in? Are grandparents available if the hubby isn't? Taking time to relax and pamper yourself allows you to reduce stress and be more at ease as a wife and mommy. Find out how long the gift certificate is good for, you may need it further down the road if you choose not to use it now...see how long the spa will honor the certificate. Also, Congrats on the baby!
  • Your husband gave you this gift, a lot of husbands wouldn't care how you wee feeling after giving birth. Maybe there is a place ther like a waiting room and you can have your Hubby stay there with the baby. This gift is from his heart because he knows what you've been through, you won't be sorry you went. They'll be fine together. Congradulations on the baby:)
  • It's not that I don't love the gift. I do love the gift and I know how blessed and lucky I truly am to have such a great husband, I just have way too much on my plate right now and I don't want to hurt his feelings but I really don't see how I can leave our two month old daughter whom I am breast feeding with him for two and half hours. I just don't want him to think he did something wrong or that I don't appreciate his gift.
  • He is the baby's daddy! Let him have some alone time with the baby. Take your cell phone with you and if any problems arise, I'm sure he'll call you. Take the break that he has offered you. I'm sure you'll be glad you did. :)
  • I read in your comment that you also have other young children. If he is not capable of caring for them for a couple of hours, he should not be producing them. A nice massage would be good for you..you could also leave them with a sitter or have someone come in to help him. He will probably be fine and he needs to be able to care for them on his own...what if you were sick and had to be hospitalized? The ability to care for one's children should not fall upon one, but should be something that both parents can handle with confidence and you SHOULD not have to think twice about leaving them with him.
  • Dear JellyBelly23 I have read your answers and explanations. If I understand it correctly, the reason that you haven't used your Spa-certificate yet is NOT because you don't trust your husband with three children. It is that there are so many other issues on your mind right now that you think that using it will not relief any stress, but only add to it. I think there is only one main solution to this, and that is to talk to your husband about this. Especially since the certificate was obviously meant for you because you have so much on your plate right now. Basically you can do three things: - Solve all (practical) issues you have, and simply go (if only for an hour). - Try to 'extend' the use of the certificate (talk to Spa, sell it to someone, try to get it refunded) - Acknowledge the intentions f the gift, and decide not to use it. (But if you would like to receive something similar in the future => Say so).
  • Call the massage place - speak to the manager, and explain the situation as depressingly as possible. Ask for a 1 or 2 month extension. They should be perfectly fine with it. 2nd: get used to the idea of upsetting your kids for things like this. They will most certainly survive a few hours without you, and suffer no damage. Good luck!

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