Umm...Leave him and never look back.

So much that you weren't even sure the child was "yours." What a discovery "during" childbirth!

dump him.

I would probably leave him. Part of me thinks that I would want to work it out for the kid, but, cheating is a deal-breaker for me. I don't think I'd be able to really ever get over it. I'd probably want to rip his eyes out, and that's not really healthy.

I hope he has a really good job. he is going to need all the money he can get, in order to pay for you and his child's future welfare. it is going to cost him dearly, considering the situation you have described. Find you a female divorce attorney. female attorneys are outstanding in divorce court. mainly, because most have been there before, themselves.

I would leave his arse so fast! Get yourself a good solicitor, the evidence, pack up the kid(s) and go!

While you were giving birth? Why, that's just terrible! But why throw out the baby with the bathwater? Let the child decide.

This has happened to me. We had only been married one month and I went from complete trust and a life time of happiness to no trust at all and getting up enough self confidence to leave. I believe that once the trust is gone, there is no going back. No matter how hard I try to forget, it is always in the back of my mind. I went from feeling like he thought I was beutiful to feeling insecure about every flaw I have. I also wondered if he brought home a disease and wondered how he could jepordize my health. I am not financially secure to leave at this time, but once I do, I will be leaving him. I can't see spending a life time feeling insecure and wondering when it will happen again.Some women stay because their self esteem has been shattered and they feel that no one else will want them. Some stay because they have children or their age makes them think they will never be able to find someone. Or, like myself, they can't leave due to financial reasons. A husband is suppose to love. respect and protect their wife. When a man cheats, or leads us to believe he did, we feel unloved, disrespected, and emotionally hurt by the one person who was to protect us. There's really nothing you can do..the trust has been shattered. No matter how you try to regain that trust, there will always be a part of you that never will. Remember you are beautiful. There's nothing you could have done to prevent it. Stop wondering if or when he'll do it again. It happened once and he got caught. No matter what you do, you can't stop it from happening again. Now is the time to take care of yourself. When that feeling comes over you because something he said just doesn't sound right or he's acting strange, instead of searching for something that will justify your suspicions, do something that makes you feel good. Start doing those exercises you've always been putting off, write in a journal all those feelings your having, go get a new outfit, paint your toe nails, take a hot bath with some candles, listen to that song that makes you feel strong and confident. I also suggest getting a safety deposit box and start saving some money, even if it is a little at a time. You don't want a saving account because at tax time they will be sending you a form for your dividends (which he'll see). Or, if a safety deposit box is too expensive, find a place he won't find to stash the money. Then start taking care of yourself, even if you start out slow. Start doing those exercises today you always say you'll start tomorrow. Make some doctors appontmants and get all necessary check-ups. Your health is very impotant. When we feel beutiful on the inside, we regain our self confidence. You should also take some classes at you local community college. Take something you've been passionate about or work toward that career. Develop some new skills that will help you in finding employment, advance you career, or help you change that job and do something you enjoy. This will also help you to make new friends and develop relationships outside your marriage. Feeling secure in all aspects of your life will give you the confidence you need to take on anything life throws your way. Then you can decide if your relationship is worth staying. And if you do decide to stay, you'll be staying because YOU want to, not because of any constraints you previously had. And always remember...You deserve to be happy!!!

I would leave him in a heartbeat. Why? Yeah, it's tough - you probably still love him and now that you have a child with him, you'll never be able to truly break ties with him; however, that being said - since you will be "in some kind of a relationship" with him due to the child, why not work on creating a better life for you and your child with someone that TRULY loves you and will be there to protect you and your child (even during a future pregnancy if you wish to have another child) and just make him be a true father for a change?

Tell his family what he's done. He'll be shunned by them and will get to know your emotional hurt through his own experience.

I'd be outta there without hesitation. He doesn't deserve you, and you don't deserve that crap.

I understand what you are saying - You were pregnant with his child and just before you gave birth you found out he was having an affair, which had been going on for over a year. Thats just really really low but no one needs to tell you that as you would already know. Not only did he fail the new born child but your marriage vows and any other children you may have. Now its time to tell yourself that its not your fault and regaining that self esteem you lost. Of course he would have blamed you for him wanting another women but dont listen to that, its just him trying to justify his actions and running away from his conscience. He probably tried to use the line that he would kill himself too just so you would feel sorry for him. But believe me they wont!! Unfortunatley you have 2 choices you can wallow in self pity and you certainly have grounds to do so. Or you can pick yourself back up and believe in yourself that you are a good person. Tell yourself bad people (ie your husband) are not going to make me into a bad person by taking acts of revenge. In any case the best revenge is to be happy and forget about him like he never existed (well once the court case is finished). You deserve better A lot of us make the wrong decision in choosing husbands, your not alone.

In Australia, use him for GATOR BAIT. You've gotten enough serious answers, and I think you've already decided, based on your other posts.

Wait until he fell asleep and then flatiron him with a frying pan. An affair that happens once I will excuse.. over a year and I will do the whole Exorcist head spin on his tail.

Cheating is cheating. This person cares nothing about you or himself, he would be an awful role model for children. He has major issues. There will be nothing to look forward to except more of what you've seen. Your childs furture is in your hands, is this the life you really want for yourself and your children? Use the good sense you were born with, you know what you need to do,DO IT. Good luck, and GET THE HELL OUT!

Uhm I would cry. And when I was done crying I would call my lawyer. I would not say anything to his family they will find out on there own.

I think I would either 1) Turn into Lorena Bobbitt or 2) Find the best divorce lawyer his money could buy and obtain a divorce based on the grounds of adultery. Most pregnancies only last 9 months, good for you for making it last longer.

I would consider he has absolutely no sense of honesty, decency or morals and it would be well beyond my comprehension as to how i would ever come to terms with it. I could not offer myself to him in body, mind or soul for another second, let alone the rest of my life. I would not wish for my child to be raised in a home with any person who didn't have anything but the absolute best of morals and if i walked out for no other reason, that would be my reason.

Well ... I'm NOT a woman ... BUT; here goes MY thoughts . I would wait until he was at WORK and any husband of mine WOULD have a J O B !! Then; I'd move ALL of the furniture and clothes out of the home except his own personal stuff ... IF we rented .... and let him come home to an empty house . However; IF we owned our own house ; then I'd take all of his stuff and set it out by the sidewalk ... where it would be waiting for him when he got home from his Job .... or wherever he'd been all day. The locks would be changed and I'd have a court Order of protection so he could NOT come within 50 feet of me or the house .... That would teach the SOB !!