I have the same problem with my boyfriend. And he's worried as am I... what can we do differently? I'm his first girlfriend, but not the first girl he's slept with...

it's called delayed ejaculation and it's actually a disorder that can stem from many different things such as masturbating too frequently. If he has gotten accustomed to the way that he pleasures himself then unless you mimick the way that he does it he will not ejaculate. Your vagina will never give him the same tight fit as his hand does and your hand probably wont either. Some suggestions that I have not tried out because this is not a problem for me and my guy are having him hold off on masturbating for a week or so and having him watch porn and sort of build up this sexual desire so that when you come around he is ready to ejaculate and has a certain need for it. You should really talk to your boyfriend and see how much of an actual problem this is. If you guys can have sex or you can give him head and he can just hold off on ejaculating for when he can do it himself then you can just enjoy eachother minus the ejaculation and you can benefit from not having a "minute man" so to speak and he can just receive pleasure from seeing you pleasured. Many people figure that the male ejaculation signals the end of intercourse but it does not necessarily have to. Hope this helps! and remember that it is not your fault and you are not doing anything wrong.

okay so I've been messing around on and off with this guy and the first time I gave him head and the first time we had sex I had to call it off on both occasions because he could sit there all day without ejaculating and I would be close to gagging when I gave him head and after about an hour into sex I would just be plain old tired and begininng to get bored with the whole thing so I was always the one to stop things because I had multiple orgasms while he was not even halfway there. We have a very open sex life and are completely comfortable talking about sex and have come to the conclusion that although he would enjoy coming to me as long as I was enjoying myself he was too and he could ejaculate by himself some other time when I was not around. To him, it is not a big deal and he still enjoys sex with me even though we both know he isn't going to ejaculate. It used to frustrate me because I thought I was doing something wrong but it's not us it's them. I've read up on it and

This is probably more common then we think. My girl has gone down on me for like 45 minutes, gotten me close but never to the point. I'm addicted to porn and this is probably a problem. I can't friggin stop though. She's awesome though and I try and show her where I'm sensitive, and she even watches me jack off to see how I do it. I read on another forum about a guy who quit beating off and then he came. I'll try and do the same but its just too fucking easy when there's a billion zillion porn stars flaunting their stuff on the web.

I agree with what the others have said about him not pleasuring himself. No girl is ever going to be as tight as his hand. He needs to retrain himself to need a lighter touch. I would also suggest that he apply some kind of skin lotion to his penis each day to help the head become more sensitive. If he has to masterbate, then have him take a condom, put some lube in it, and gently and slowly slide it up and down. This will be more like having sex with you. It will also teach him how to last longer when he is having sex with you. Men who are not circumcised do the same thing with their foreskin when they masterbate.

It does sound like he has become very used to cumming by hand, especially if he can do this within just minutes. He will need to stop masturbating and save it for you. However, men are very visual creatures and perhaps having those senses stimulated during sex, like putting on a porn flick, will help the cause. But if he has always been like that, maybe he has some sort of underlying emotional issues from his past that he has not dealt with. ( just a thought ) You could perhaps dig deep and find out what his sexual fantasies and preferences are and work that into the bedroom too. Play on all senses, sight, taste, touch smell and so on. good luck

Thats the thing, he doesn't masterbate often. Well so he says, it just makes me feel really insecure. The other day I was just at work feeling slightly horny. I text him saying "I want sex" and he text back saying "um we need to talk". When I asked what it was he said nothing. I just feel really un sexy now. We used to have sex regularly, we used to call it porn sex. We experimented, feel comfortable around eachother and now we barly have any. Once a month if I'm lucky. When I bring up the subject he tells me that sex isn't everything in a relationship, to me it is something... :(

He's masturbating too much. His penis is too familiar with cuming bu his hand and so he needs to re-learn how to reach. What he needs to do is to not masturbate for a week, then he should cum normally when he is inside you. If you have sex everyday or more than once a day, he might not reach.

You could also just do mutual masturbation, that way he can reach as regularly as he desires, possibly more than once a day and you are involved.