How do I put an arrogant, selfish, egotistical person in his place?

I think ignoring them is the best. Sometimes they can do you a favor. My selfish, egotisical ex-husband decided he didn't want to be with me. He was aided by his selfish egotistcal conniving sister who thought I was getting something she should have. Now they are with each other and I am free. Halleujah!!!!

Never act amused. All they want is to push people's buttons, see a reaction, get you out of your comfort zone; if you just keep yourself together and pretend (or really do) like they're so insignificant that they can run naked in front of you and you wont dare to blink, then they'll just go crazy, cause they cant accomplish what they wanted.

I'm sure you'll find plenty of people willing to help you with that. That leaves me free to be a dissenting voice: whatever your feelings about this person, your actions should be restrained and mature. There is much more to be gained in these situations by self-restraint than there is by getting even.

As long as they irritate you, and you respond with some correlated action, you are -- in effect -- their victim. If you succeed in "putting them in their place", all you've really done is given the wheel of ignorance another spin. The world is full of people in conflict, trying to dominate and avoid domination, be right and make others wrong, and prove themselves honorable and others vile.

Life is not enriched one bit by perpetuating this. What the world needs is more people who can listen to the arrogant, selfish, and egotistical among us and hear the frightened, disconnected, and rigid children obscured beneath that armor. Those people need wise but firm-handed friends, not a slap.

It has been my experience that selfish egotistical people, thrive on attention. If you totally ignore them, it will make them crazier than if you confront them with words, that gives them the last word, and why give them that kind of power?

dont act impressed at all. personally i absolutely HATE people like that. so my real answer would just be unappriciated

Auntie Em, you are the slick, silver-tongue leader of answerbag. are you really asking this question?

You should be giving an answer, to your own question.

Sadly some jerks out there will NEVER stop -- no matter how mature you are and how long you ignore them...this I know from personal experiance. Trust me in this -- ignoring may work on a non- sociopathic type person but really how many jerks are not at least slightly sociopathic. The only thing I've ever found to work (for me and several others with similar experiences to my own) is to dig REALLY deep into your soul and find (at least appear to be) as 'cool as a cucumber' and 'bark' louder and with less concern for what others may think of you at them...it REALLY sucks that there are so many 'cave people' out there...and it sucks he more that to get them to really stop one has to act a bigger jerk (but ONLY to the jerk and only after ALL other methods have been tried and have failed). It is REALLY inrealistic to tell people to 'just ignore' it as this DOES NOT apply to all situations at all...there are no simple answers...but if a person is emotionally abusing you with no sign of stopping then I say give as good as you've gotten and UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCES show that you give a crap at all about them while you're chewing them out. When I say this I mean only in the most desperate of situations where if you don't stand up you run the risk of becoming as full of pent up rage as they are only to bury it and release it at a later date. I know from much study and lots of life experience that some things only respond to the most basic social communication -- they live as though life is a really stupid 80's big hair song sung a bad falsetto about how like a 'tropical wilderness' life can be -- the biggest, toughest, meanest get to rule and have to maintain their 'rule' with any number of forms of what always amounts to a sort of localized terrorism. A sort of office/school yard dictatorship of sorts...and would Hitler or any other jerk have just gotten tired of being ignored and just slip away? I think not. Again...one must be certain in this -- little Hitlers are EVERYWHERE and there are no kind ways to deal with them...and if you're like me you hate hurting people but have been made to realize that in order for us 'good folks' to survive and thrive we must NEVER allow any of these monsters in sheep's clothing to abuse us and, sadly, in this very real world of ours, jerks mostly only understand, respond to, respect one thing -- namely cruelty in word or deed ..and even worse, in order to perserve oneself one must walk a razor thin line in which one can seperate oneself from the even-more-cruel-than-the-jerk tactics one must employ simply for self preservation and the true self one is and to not beat oneself up for 'being as bad as' because...it only takes one well thought out jugular attack on a bully to often times shut them down forever if not for a while. Think about it -- do we not arrest murderers and other criminals( that are just a more extreme manifestation of 'jerk-ness') or do we ignore them because that would just drive them crazy and of course, because no mean people in the world are tenacious/sociopathic they will just 'get tired and quit'. Any parents or others who tell people to 'just ignore it' AND who themselves have never been horrifically bullied for years at a time really need to step out the little collection of relatively benign experiances that make up the bubble they have the audacity/ignorance to call a 'real' life and try this horribly difficult (insert sarcasm) exercise and try to imagine how much more pain occurs to a person having to continually suffer due to the arrogant jerks and as we are not all alike may not have the constitution to just 'ignore it' except for on the surface...not every one can just let 'it roll of their back'

By ignoring them. They really hate that.

The next time he annoys you, tell him to go screw himself.

Leave them and don't have anything to do with them. They cant be arrogant and all that to no one paying attention to them.

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