When a woman, who is married, but separated and has moved on and is sleeping with another man should she divorce her husband?
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ANSWERS: 23
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Yes.
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She should have divorced BEFORE she started sleeping (having an affair) with anyone. Moving on in this case would be getting the divorce and then moving on not moving on and then getting the divorce. By law she is still married separated or not.
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It depends on the reason why you seperated in the first place - Was it to solve a specific problem and just give each other time? Remember that marriage is supposed to be sacred and I definatley think that if you atre serious about someone else that you should get a divorce first!
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I disagree. Sometimes couples need this other thing to happen to realize what they had. I think people should do a separation before they even contemplate divorce. If you sleep with someone and end up possibly back with your spouse, you should be honest about what you did and get a medical before sleeping together again. If you know you will never go back to your husband, start divorce proceedings, but no, you dont have to wait to be divorced to be with someone else.... unless its your religious belief... its your choice and you shouldnt be judged for it.
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I am usually not one to suggest divorce. I think that once you've made the decision to marry, you have made a promise. However, since you are already sleeping around, you should be considerate enough to let him move on too. Give him a divorce.
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Do want is right , what's ur gut telling you? If you are sleeping with someone and only seperated,then you have committed the biggest sin ever, and you will only answer too god, look ur children in the eye and do the right thing. You are being only for yourself!You probably have been doing this behind your former's back anyway,how disgusting.
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Uhm, yes...although the divorce should have taken place first. Separated or not, she is still married and is now totally annihilating her wedding vows to the poor man.
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The fact that she is sleeping with another man has only a little to in the question of divorce. There are many other factors, such as children, family, finances, the possibility of reconciliation. I believe that, in general, the parties should remain together in one home, with the children. That's what's best for the children and that's what counts.
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Of course divorce him, why keep the papers its only binding you legally.. MOVE on..
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No,no and no, you divorce when the time comes, but that is just something to do with you and your ex and nobody else
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Although reconciling may be the farthest thing on her mind, it first needs to be the consideration. Marriage always trumps the current affair. So if the current affair offers " a better deal", or "the one I should've met earlier", this is nonsense. She needs to tuck tail and ask her husband to forgive her, and then both work on reconciling the marriage. Don't believe the flesh, it won't take you where you want to go.
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Yes..why stayed married if you are with someone else :)
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I know someone who is married but seperated from his wife, not sure if he is seeing anyone but makes no plans to get divorced any time soon because financially he cant afford to right now, as long as you all are very clear that the marriage is in fact over and there are good reason as to why you are not getting a divorce right now and that you legally seperated and are living seperate lives then i see no reason why either party should have a problem. Yeah you are still married but it isnt cheating if both are well aware of the situation. kind of like having an open marriage right
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What is this "separated and moved on"? Who comes up with this stuff? She is still legally married.
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she should have divorced first! this is still adultery.ive been there. always told her if she wanted to do it divorce me first. but no she had to do it her way!she didnt want it done to her but i guess there is a double standard in her book.
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If she is already acting like she is single and is sleeping with someone else, she needs to get on with it and get the divorce.
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Maybe she should study and learn about Polyandry it might work out well for her.
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Moved on is moved on but until you are legally divorced I call it adultery when you are sleeping with someone who isn't your husband. Now that the marriage is over, finish it respectfully and get a divorce Then you can truly move on. The most important factor in moving on with your life is whether you can honestly say to yourself that you behaved honorable and have earned your self-respect and are able to begin your life with no regrets.
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let me put it like thus ... YES!!!
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She will have to do it if one of them want to marry again. The reason why people separate is that they don't want to divorce for some reason. If you want to start to build something new, it could be better to make a clear cut with the past.
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Yes, she should, but not everyone can afford a divorce.
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That would be up to her and him. If they are separated then I am guessing the husband knows the marriage is over and perhaps he is moving on with his life as well. Divorcing can be a huge financial burden and if there are no children involved then they are both adults and able to decide for themselves.
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Wait and see what happens. You may decide to reconcile.If not you can even wait until one of you wants to marry someone else.(although I don't recommend that either). Just wait and see you'll know when the time is right.
Veronica 
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