ANSWERS: 28
  • I'd have to talk to them about it, and depending on how they reacted to that, I'd have to make the decision to still hang around them or not.
  • I don't remain "friends" with people who badmouth ANYONE!
  • I would not throw down a friend because they did not like one of my other friends. That is grade school. I would tell them that I do not want to listen to any negative stuff about my other friend and to keep it to themself or talk to someone who is not friends with that person who will take it to heart. Everyone has bad mouthed someone at some point in life. I do not care who you are.. we have all spoke out against someone whether what we said was right or not. I would not get rid of someone because they did something wrong. I would just ask them to stop in my presence.
  • I wouldn't! they might just have this badmouth back at me too later!
  • Yes, but I would try to talk to them about it, then tell them, we will not discuss the other person, unless it is positive.
  • Only if me friend deserves it... else not...
  • No. I don't play all sides in favor of being a diplomat. I won't put myself in the position of being between a rock and a hard place, so to speak. I pick the people I want to surround myself in, and I support them because we share values, integrity, and a sense of right and wrong. If my friends are having a problem, I trust there is a valid reason why.
  • No...I'd let it go if it was an isolated incident. But if it continued, they're either jealous or also badmouthing me as well.
  • Not necessarily. It would depend on a number of things... 1) ...If my other friend deserved it. If not, I would try to find out the circumstances, and try to resolve them. 2) ...If I heard the badmouthing first-hand or not. If not, and both had different versions of the same subject (the reason for the "badmouthing", I would tru to stay out of it, or again, try to resolve it. 3) ...If the issue involved just those two or more were involved. If the latter, I would try to stay out of their squabbles, and try to remain friends with both. We may never all party together, but... Now, if one "friend" were on the losing side of ANY or ALL of the above... I MIGHT consider dropping them. HOWEVER, it's funny you should ask, because it's apparently happened, recently... See http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/838322 If a third friend became involved, and told me that because I was friends with EITHER one in the disagreement, I couldn't be friends with THEM, any more, it would steel my resolve to remain friends with ALL parties involved. If they drop me as a friend, it's their loss. Good question, Doggie. ;-)
  • I don't really hang out with people who spend a lot of time badmouthing someone else, but I have had plenty of people who needed to vent about someone in a safe environment. Badmouthing carries a lot of drama. Too much, in fact.
  • In all honesty, that isn't my problem. As long as they're not dragging me into the situation, I am perfectly fine with it. I'm sure it would irritate me, but it's not grounds to close off a relationship. Just a simple "leave me out of this" works well enough for me, and if it escalates from there, I have no part in it and both parties know.
  • I don't think I could -- I have a short temper.
  • I'd have to weigh the facts and the situation at hand and take a logical approach and in a non-biased way weigh the facts and conclude the outcome without any bias and thence determine whether any malice was caused based upon concise remittance of the prurient facts at hand and then weigh them against all validated evidence and hearsay and hence validate the decision based upon a thoroughly adjudicated validation of all admissible evidence. Then a fair and unobstructed decision shall be rendered.
  • No. My interest in having the bad-mouther as a friend would die once I heard him / her talk trash. I'm loyal to my few close friends, even if I don't always get the same in return.
  • No. I don't hang out with gossipers. I'd politely ask them to cease the blabber and wouldn't consider them fun to be around.
  • It depends what you mean by badmouthing and it also depends on the person.
  • i did for a while. but those were the immature days of my life. but honestly, a friend that badmouths another friend is not a true friend. chances are they'll do the same to you with another friend. but one important thing i learnt is that at the end of the day, everyone is looking to be love and so in that way we are all equal. everyone has their own way of looking for that.
  • depends. I mean if two people dont like each other than thats not my problem. my sister doesnt like one of my friends and vice versa but I'm still friends with both... however if you can't put the Bad-Mouthing to rest for awhile then thats just in bad taste
  • If they trash-talk about someone in front of you, then you know they're trash-talking about you.
  • Not everyone can get along but I would tell them not to bad mouth a person in my presents or I could not be around them. I've been in that position and that's what worked for me. I told them that if it were the other way around that I wouldn't let them bad mouth you.
  • I do. Most of my friends hate each other. It keeps things very amusing. I personally dont give a shit about what anyone says. I did before I was married and had a child though. Now I figure everything out side of my immediate family is petty.
  • If it was the truth, yeah.
  • My two best friends do not get along with each other. One has quite a few reasons for not liking the other. And quite frankly, their differences do not involve me. I can hang out with both of them, just not at the same time. They both know that I am friends with the other party so they try to keep their badmouthing at a minimum. However, it does get hard at times because I can see both of their sides on why they don't get along. It's hard, but I've learned to balance it. I don't let them call each other bad names, but I allow them to vent if needed.
  • Yeah and I go through that almost everyday. I have about 6 good friends and none get alone with the other but I get alone with them all (CRAZY). It doesn't go on like it used to but I remain friend with them all none the less. My attitude is "who cares!" when they start in on the other... they shut up after I ignore them long enough :)
  • Good Question my friend. Yes I would. However. As a friend. I would sit them down and let them know that if they don't have anything nice to say about that person, then please don't say it in front of you. Let them know that you care about that person just as much as them and you would appreciate it if they kept thier comments about another to themselves.. Just my opinion.. Cody
  • no because that is being very disrespectful towards me. if she knows that I am close with her.. she has to respect that person when I am around.
  • It should depend on whom you have the greater loyalty to and whether there is validity to the criticisms.
  • Hmmm...Well Im in a situation kinda similar. I have friends who are not friends with each other, but we have the respect to not talk bad about the other person. I would tell them that you dont want to hear them say bad stuff about your other friend cause it puts u in an unfair situation.

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