How to deal with ignorant parents who take everything personally? i am a little irresponsible, but i get around. my parents are full of it, although they don't notice their own flaws. they aren't supportive and do mor damage than good. then they get angry

I think when you said "irresponsible" you pretty much describe every parents action of taking it personally. Parents take their kids actions personally because deep down they blame themselves for their child behavior... like maybe "we should have done this or that" of course they dont tell you that all you hear is the nagging. What they are trying to do is rectify it, they dont want you to do the same mistakes they might have done. For example, I had a baby at 17 years old and I really tried to get my daughter to understand that having a baby at that age is hard for a young woman, well she thought I was a hypocrite which is crazy because as the parent who had a hard time when she was 17 I was trying to help her avoid the scenario. She is a mother now at 23, and she now gets it as she knows she couldnt have possibly dont it at 17.

It takes time to see what our parents are really about. Right now you see them as stifling, controlling etc... but they love you, if they didnt they wouldnt care what you did, they would let you run wild, pretend you arent even in the home and just do their own thing. They care enough to confront you knowing you wont like it. And parents know their flaws, there are probably lots of things going on between your parents that you dont see.. I am sure their relationship with you is now straining theirs..... remember when you were a helpless baby, your parents fed, clothed and cuddle you... your mom cried the first day you went to school... they did the best they could with the tools they had... dont fault them for trying to steer you in the direction they feel is right.. try to put yourself in their shoes... its hard I know, your young.. but you will realize it when your older.

try to sit them down and make it clear what there doing. if they try to defend them selves when your talking. pause them and say its my turn to speak. try to make them understand. even give them an example, such as act out what they say to you and make them promise to be better. Show them what you feel inside. Theres not much more else i can say at this point but dont give up. make them listen and dont let them defend them selves during your time to speak. good luck