Just be proud of your boyfriend, and be happy he's so accepting of your family... those are both very pleasant thoughts that should go a long way toward making it a much more enjoyable event for you... I hope it turns out very nice for the both of you... ;-)

Praise your man during the lunch, so he knows that if your grandparents are at all critical of him, that you are on his side. Don't forget to tell your gran how great she is looking, and your grandpa how his old car is (or whatever)? If complimenting and taking interesting in your grandparents is not what you normally do, that's OK. They'll think it's the influence from your man that's made you 'better', and see him in a good light. Good luck. Remember, everybody must leave from the meal happy to have seen each other.

Baby Don't worry about it. If you love your man and your man loves you that's all that matters who cares if family will like or accept him. Sure it does make life easier when family loves your potential husband and accepts him but even if they hate him that's their problem. Don't let it become yours. Let your man be himself and let the cards fall where they may. In the end if your grandparents hate him I am sure that's not going to change your feelings for him so does it really matter. Let me tell you a little story. I successfully avoided meeting my late fiancee's family until we became engaged. We had been dating for two years and never once did I have to meet them because they lived in another state and rarely came here to see their daughters. A little over a week after becoming engaged her parents threw us an engagement party and I met them for the first time. Her mom was very nice and went out of her way to be super nice to me. Her dad on the other hand acted like a real dick towards me as most dads probably do towards their future son in laws. He practially flipped out when he found out I was almost 43 and his little girl was just barely 28. He tried to make our love into something filthy and vulgar like most hispanic males do when it comes to their little girls. They all assume that all guys just want to get into their little girls panties. You think that was bad when the subject of religion came up and he found out I was Mormon he really flipped because he was a pastor in the Pentecostal church one of those so called Christian faiths that believe Mormonism is not a Christian Church but a religious Cult. He told me to get out of his home and told my fiancee that if she went through with the marriage she would be dead to him. She was upset of course but in the end chose me over her father and in all honesty I would not have cared if they liked me or not. I was going to marry her not her family.

Follow his lead. It sounds like he will be the one handling the situation.

I think your grandparents will behave in front of your boyfriend. They may be critical of you when you are by yourself, but I'm sure they will be nice. Don't worry. Anyway, I think your boyfriend would take up for you if they weren't nice. Your boyfriend sounds like he is very confident and that will show through . Have fun!

Sounds like your man has it in hand, just follow his lead. Personally, I would not bother having a meal with people who were extremely critical of me.