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by itsonlywhoweare on July 1st, 2008

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I recently had a birthday & graduation party, around 40 people RSVP'd and only 20 people showed up. To make it worse, only 11 people gave me gifts.Is it okay to say something to the people who didn't show up or give me a gift?

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  • by AndieCatastrophe on July 1st, 2008

    AndieCatastrophe

    NEVER ask for a gift.
    It's rude.

    If they RSVP'd, I'd ask them what happened and why they didn't come- and they might feel bad and give you something....

    But don't ask for a gift.
    You just don't do that.

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  • by CincinnatiDrummer on July 1st, 2008

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    I really don't think you should ask or even mention it. I guess you could MENTION, "Hey, I missed you guys at my grad party!" but the gift aspect if should be NOWHERE near coming out of your mouth. Both the gift and the party itself are completely optional, so be careful

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  • by Wide Awake @ has closing date woo hoo on July 1st, 2008

    Wide Awake @ has closing date woo hoo

    If you really want to take this to an interesting level, call the 20 people who didn't show up and ask them if they are OK. Should they reply blankly, you can say "Well, you had RSVP'd to my party, but then didn't arrive, so I'm sure you had some sort of emergency. Are you OK now?"
    The gracious will apologize, whether they had an emergency or not.

    Under no circumstances should you mention the gifts. You throw a party to see your well-wishers, not to cash in.

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  • by lianaface on July 1st, 2008

    lianaface

    I would not say anything to the people who didn't give gifts, it would have been nice if they had, but they are not required to (unless you said to). Maybe you could ask those that RSVPd but didn't show if they are okay or something.

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  • by Jane on July 1st, 2008

    Jane

    Dont say anything to the people who didn't give you a gift. They dont have to give a gift to come to a party but I would say something to the 20 people who RSVP(ed) and didnt show up.

    Also if you invited a bunch of kids your age they probably didnt know about etiquette and that they should get you a gift anyhow. If they were adults they should know better

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  • by Tamilze on July 1st, 2008

    Tamilze

    Just don't send them a thank you card. That's all you have to do.

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  • by DudeLer on July 1st, 2008

    DudeLer

    i see getting gifts is related to getting points is related to find a job. lots of people are graduating, so it is difficult to give gifts to everyone. lots of people cant afford to give a gift what with the economy going berserk. could you afford to give a gift to one of your friends who graduated???? probably not. consider yourself lucky to get a fifty percent return on your invites and twenty five percent return on your gifts.

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