Long-term relationships need a lot of what? Laughter, compromise, sex, or respect?

Thanks, I think with respect there will be compromise:-)

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by Galeanda on July 1st, 2008

YES.

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by AndieCatastrophe on July 1st, 2008

i think so too

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by FoxyBrown on July 24th, 2008

WoW sometimes 2 or 3 times a night Thanks greekgod..COAT of Kilts

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by Mrs.Newton the cookie lady on August 2nd, 2008

Absolooootely!

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by Marky Mark on November 15th, 2008

100% agree.

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by mehraban on December 16th, 2008

Romance and caring about what your partner likes is a non-negotiable! People forget this and get too wrapped up in what they want for themselves.

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by Frangipani on September 30th, 2009

Thanks a lot:-)

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by Galeanda on July 1st, 2008

Laughing is always good:-)
Thanks.

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by Galeanda on July 1st, 2008

Pleasure is all mine =)

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by Ben is a bit bored with the Internet on July 1st, 2008

Yep. +6

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by Mrs.Dufresne on July 1st, 2008

Thank you:-)

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by Galeanda on July 1st, 2008

Communication over anything else

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by tonyj81 on October 16th, 2008

I totally agree with you.

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by real talk on January 20th, 2009

Thank you:-)

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by Galeanda on July 1st, 2008

Thank you:-)

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by Galeanda on July 1st, 2008

Respect is very important. Thank you

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by Galeanda on July 1st, 2008

R-E-S-P-E-C-T find out what it means to me...LALALALALALLAA

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by Liev4life38 on August 11th, 2008

LOL! Okay, thanks

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by Galeanda on July 1st, 2008

Thank you, logybren:-)

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by Galeanda on July 1st, 2008

I believe respect and compromise are FIRST and foremost..... but they're all important.

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by Tex on July 1st, 2008

Thanks Tex!

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by LoggyBren on July 1st, 2008

I personally think compromise doesn't have to be there ALL THE TIME, just most of the time. Sometimes i think its good to not compromise and do your own thing for a while by yourself and come back to ur loved one feeling refreshed. But I think respect and laughter are equal parts for a good relationship...

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by Liev4life38 on August 11th, 2008

That's a good thought! Thank you Liev4life38.:)

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by LoggyBren on August 11th, 2008

Thank you:-)

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by Galeanda on September 29th, 2008

Thanks:-)

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by Galeanda on July 29th, 2008

You're welcome.

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by Anonymous on July 29th, 2008

Thanks.

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by Galeanda on July 7th, 2008

Many thanks:-)

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by Galeanda on July 1st, 2008

your welcome.

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by what on July 1st, 2008

Yes, I love appreciation. When you lose respect and appreciation for each other, the love has nothing to stand on. Thank you:-)

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by Galeanda on July 1st, 2008

Thank you.

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by Galeanda on July 1st, 2008

you know Galeanda, you don't need to thank me for every answer I give you ;)

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by GreenFreak on July 1st, 2008

Well, I come visiting anyway and you never know if I might say something else. It's my way of attending to each answer. I don't went anyone to feel left out and unwanted. My mom taught me well:-)

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by Galeanda on July 1st, 2008

okay.. well, it's just that I still get a bit excited when I see I've received a comment, and then it turns out to just be a "thanks you." :(
;)

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by GreenFreak on July 1st, 2008

I like the thank you's. I know that the person who wrote the question is reading the answers and appreciates them (or not). Yes, your mom did teach you well, Galeanda. :)

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by starrrgazer on August 19th, 2008

And thank you as well:-) I should let my mom know that it wasn't all in vain LOL!!!

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by Galeanda on August 19th, 2008

Thanks a lot:-)

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by Galeanda on August 15th, 2008

Thanks, though I can see understanding happening and a relationship still ending. But it is a good addition:-)

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by Galeanda on August 1st, 2008

LOL! You are enthusiastic:-) Thank you very much!

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by Galeanda on August 1st, 2008

Thanks.

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by Galeanda on July 1st, 2008

Thank you:-)

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by Galeanda on July 1st, 2008

No worries :)

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by Kal-El on July 1st, 2008

Thank you.

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by Galeanda on July 1st, 2008

no problemmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm.

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by ... on July 1st, 2008

Ehhhhhhhhhhhhhh not always.

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by AndieCatastrophe on July 1st, 2008

okay well if it is love...
then usually.

but you are right. not
always.
people fall out of love.
get divorces.
murder their spouses.

ha.

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by ... on July 1st, 2008

Since I trusted my husband, and he had an affair, I totally disagree that everything else falls into place should trust be there. Sure, he trusted me... to not find out. I trusted him... to be faithful. We've rebuilt our marriage over the last three years which included rebuilding trust. However, it was not the one thing that made all else fall into place. Honesty and communication were.

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by starrrgazer on August 19th, 2008

I should add that we did have laughter, love, compassion, and many of the other attributes in a marriage mentioned in prior answers. We did not have honesty.

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by starrrgazer on August 19th, 2008

Thank you :-)

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by Galeanda on June 15th, 2009

Ok!!

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by Stick it!! on March 10th, 2009

yup , thats what i think :)

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by AIR_INDIA_says_Wass_Up on March 10th, 2009

I have Love, laughter, care, affection and passion and want to make it work. Patience has been difficult because many times I'm not even sure 100% who I'm sharing with, sometimes, and don't want to imagine anything that isn't.....just because I feel that way and want it to be so.

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by Stick it!! on March 10th, 2009

From hw many years u have been long term relationship ?

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by AIR_INDIA_says_Wass_Up on March 10th, 2009

7 months.

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by Stick it!! on March 10th, 2009

7 months is starting , u better tight ur seat belt b'cos the ride is long and there is a long way to go and Best of the very best for both of you :)

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by AIR_INDIA_says_Wass_Up on March 10th, 2009

Patience has never been a problem between us as we have loads of it, I think from having great respect for each other. I've been married for nearly 36 years to the best husband in the world:-) We laugh all the time and I don't think we ever have to use compromise either since it just doesn't come up as we just want to do whatever makes the other person happy. Thanks :-)

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by Galeanda on March 11th, 2009

Well iam glad to see u together for so many years :) hope the bonds get more and more strong and strong :)

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by AIR_INDIA_says_Wass_Up on March 11th, 2009

I think trust is lurking under deep respect, possibly:-)
Thank you.

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by Galeanda on March 6th, 2009

Thank you.

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by Galeanda on February 6th, 2009

Thanks a lot:-)

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by Galeanda on November 22nd, 2008

Thank you:-)

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by Galeanda on October 5th, 2008

Exactly what I've found. If each makes the other's interests their goal then both are fulfilled and satisfied:-) Thanks!

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by Galeanda on October 5th, 2008

No problem.

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by Anonymous on October 5th, 2008

Thank you:-) My husband and I love cooking together. When I was sick, before we were married, he'd surprise my mom by bringing food, including dessert and make dinner for my family. I'll say it made a wonderful impression:-)

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by Galeanda on October 2nd, 2008

Thanks a lot:-)

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by Galeanda on September 23rd, 2008

My husband and I have been married 35 years and hardly a day goes by that he doesn't have me laughing most of it with him. I dearly respect him and always have, especially because of our courtship since I was a mere child of 14 and he was nearly 19 when we met. But he made it possible for us to always be 'chaperoned' and still get to know each other to form a life long friendship:-) Thank you!!!

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by Galeanda on September 23rd, 2008

You were only 14? Wow, do you answer the questions here about the teens who are in love? I would like to know more.

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by Yarnlady is happy every day on October 2nd, 2008

Yes, very often. I don't think it's fair for them to think that it's not possible to love someone at that age for real, but I also feel I have to tell them just how slow and careful we went about it. especially because he was so much older than me. He didn't mean to fall in love with someone that young as I did look much older but I never lied about it, plus my parents weren't thrilled that a guy liked me already at that age lol!

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by Galeanda on October 5th, 2008

My grandparents were a similar age difference, she 15 and he 21. They married after she was 18.

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by Yarnlady is happy every day on October 5th, 2008

I wanted to wait until I was at least 18, just had to be 'grown up' lol! I think at times it was probably hard for him to wait for me to grow up bu the tells me it was worth it. I still had a wonderful childhood where I acted like a kid, nobody rushed me and then I left home and became a wife:-) Were your grandparents from this country? Sometimes I feel maybe it was because I was raised a bit differently by European parents, that things worked out this way. But I don't know.

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by Galeanda on October 5th, 2008

My grandparents were Americans, but they were Mormons, so not like everybody else.

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by Yarnlady is happy every day on October 5th, 2008

True, might be that 'old country' family values lol! And the importance of family. My parents always acted like family was everything and that they were such a strong couple. We'd go around as a fun threesome and always encouraged me to think about consequences and solutions and what was best for the family.

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by Galeanda on October 5th, 2008

Thanks:-)

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by Galeanda on September 12th, 2008

Well, I don't think you're going to see much long term love, but if that makes you happy, that's okay. Thank you:-)

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by Galeanda on September 12th, 2008

Thanks:-)

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by Galeanda on September 12th, 2008

I found that laughter tempered with respect makes everything else come easier. Thank you:-)

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by Galeanda on September 11th, 2008

Yes, but don't sell the power of the pussy short.

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by Zhitbag on September 20th, 2008

Thanks:-)

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by Galeanda on August 15th, 2008

Thanks:-)

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by Galeanda on August 15th, 2008

Thanks so much:-)

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by Galeanda on August 15th, 2008

THank you:-)

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by Galeanda on August 15th, 2008

Thanks:-)

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by Galeanda on August 15th, 2008

I'm so big on respect. I see it lacking in so many relationships and it's very sad to see how some treat each other. Thank you:-)

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by Galeanda on August 15th, 2008

I totally agree, thank you :)

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by Firebrand on August 15th, 2008

Thank you:-)

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by Galeanda on August 15th, 2008

Thanks so much, SWP:-)

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by Galeanda on August 15th, 2008

Yes, I agree, they do go hand in hand as without respect how could someone make that commitment worth something and without commitment, they wouldn't have respect for you. Thanks:-)

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by Galeanda on August 6th, 2008

Thanks:-) I'm a big fan of respect

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by Galeanda on August 6th, 2008

Good for you.

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by Dharma on August 6th, 2008

Thanks a lot. I haven't found them to be much hard work. I don't know if my husband and I are just different or if what we do, I just don't think of it as work. We do laugh a lot and have oodles of respect for each other. We don't seem to need to compromise as we feel so much in tune to the other. We've been married 35 years and I'm still wondering about all that hard work:-)

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by Galeanda on August 6th, 2008

Well, that really wasn't what I was curious about. I don't think that most relationships end because of staleness. That is now what I've seen happen around me. I was asking more of a 'foundational' question, like which of those might be a good firm base for a "lasting" relationship, as opposed to what most people seem to only think about, having their immediate needs met relationship. I, personally have a terrific 35 year long marriage that has always been based on deep respect and lots of humor. We find the compromising seems to just happen by itself and sex just happens from our happiness in each other.

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by Galeanda on August 1st, 2008

I think you answered your own question then...all of those traits are very important. Unfortunately I see so few relationship on AB as strong as yours so I assumed you were in trouble. You broke the code on happiness and I think each of those characteristics are invaluable. Knowing when to mix it up is the secret. Don't you agree? If you want a preference though, laughter seems to have cured most ailments in troubled relationships.

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by Pete Parker on August 1st, 2008

It's very hard to be upset with anyone you really care about if you're laughing. But that genuine caring has to already be there for it to work or else those laughs can turn to tears as I've seen it happen in a friend's marriage. they stopped appreciating each other, I think, hard to know when you're not in their place. Personally I'm all for what you call 'mixing it up'. I love spontaneity and freedom to have fun, whether in a relationship or in life in general:-)

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by Galeanda on August 1st, 2008

So true. It's also very difficult to continue genuine feelings when love fades over time. It takes a strong committment and great communication to share these thoughts between couples. What's happening lately is couples are seeking outside advice instead of commuicating with their spouses or love ones. That's too bad because the answers they only hear the answers they want to hear which tend to be negative. No one said life or marriage was easy but it takes hard work and mixing it up with new ideas, adventure, and fun things to do. Too many spouses do cry inside or alone because of denial or fear to express their emotions to their spouses. Unfortunately that's what they're supposed to do.

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by Pete Parker on August 4th, 2008

Thank you very much

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by Galeanda on July 29th, 2008

your welcome :)

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by - Katelyn is a party animal - on July 29th, 2008

Once you have respect then you know they won't be laughing at you, either:-) Thanks!!

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by Galeanda on July 29th, 2008

Thanks

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by Galeanda on July 29th, 2008