If men disrespect their mothers, does that mean they'll disrespect every woman they meet?
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Not necassarily, but it can be the case sometimes. That tends to be a man with a problem with all women though. Most who disrespect their mothers probably just have an issue with the mother, and not women in general, though it is known for a problem with the mother to develop into a problem with women in general. It all depends on the circumstances, the problem, and the person
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There are exceptions to any rule. But you can say that in general a man will treat his wife/girlfriend the same way he treats his mother.
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Not all girls no. Perhaps only the ones in serious relationships with him that have to endure adversities with him. Seeing a young man disrespect his mother is problematic and should certainly send up a red flag. A person can be very nice with you on a one to one basis, but when others are around, they are often put into an unexpected situation. A mother might say something to your partner that he might not like. Now you get to see how he reacts under pressure. Will he tell his mother off or be sarcastic?” Being around each other’s friends and family during a courtship can help tremendously in judging if a boyfriend would make a suitable marrige mate.
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Yes. a man who disrespects his mother is never likely to respect himself or other women. most men love their mothers, so this man would be in the minority. Find a man, that has a picture of his mother in his billfold and you will find a man that respects his mother and other women.
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No, but I think it's a great measure -- look at how a person treats the people they have in their life -- and it's probably a good indication of how that person could treat you one day.
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I don't have any pictures in my billfold. But I do live on a level of mutual respect with my mom(long story, with parents divorce and sneakiness), and I treat my girlfriend like the Goddess she is.
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I have been with two husbands that respect their mothers so much they wouldn't do much for me!!!
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Generally. But the same can be true of men who positively ADORE their mothers to the point that no other woman will ever measure up. And if he has reason to snub her, say she really is an abusive you-know-what, then he may be more likely to see other women in the same light. All we'd have to do is, for example, use a word that's in Mama's vocabulary, and he'll launch into, "You're just like my mother! You women are all alike!"
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I disrespect my mother, only because she abused me when i was a child. Other women i respect entirely, always have nd always will.
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It usually is the case. If their mothers abused them chances are they will abuse women. My ex was mentally and physically abusive towards me, especially when he got drunk. One night he let his guard down and admitted some of the things she did and said to him. I'm sure that with plenty of GOOD counseling men can get out of the abuse trap. I think a lot of mothers ruin their boys and never saw it coming.
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No question in my mind - I have been in those situation's and it's not good - Be careful - Lot's of Luck
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I dont think they will treat every woman like that, just the ones he gets involved with.
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Not necessarily, but I teach children and I have found that if it's in their cultural norms (especially), it can be a repeated pattern.
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Most likely - If this behavior is ongoing and not just an isolated incident. They won't treat all women this way - just the ones they get involved with seriously. Another red flag to watch for would be if he talks and/or treats his former mates disrespectfully - you can count on being treated exactly the same way by him eventually. Have you ever heard the old saying, "You marry your mother"? We all on an unconcious level tend to find potential partners who have fundamental similarities to our parents, especially those characteristics that we experienced as painful, frustrating, upsetting, disapointing or otherwise undesirable. We do this in order to 'make it right' or 'undo wrongs' [unresolved childhood issues]. If you find this to be a common trait in the men you choose for partners - it might be a clue for you to further examine your own unresolved issues from childhood. A good book I've read on the subject is "Irratating the ones you love" by Dr. Jeff Auerbach.
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Some mothers don't deserve respect. Think of all the abusive, neglectful and abandoning mothers. I don't think you can assume a man who doesn't respect his mother will disrespect all women. On the flip side, I think a man who respects his mother will generally treat women well.
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Yes in most situations there is exeption's
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no a man may disrespect his mother for a completely oposite reason that has nothing to do with other girls...the only way would be if the guy was a sextist...other than that no to make that kind of judgement before hand is out of the question and beyond anyones power
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Not necessarily. Maybe he had a horrible Mother and terrible childhood. I know people who don't get along with their Mother/Father but have a wonderful relationship with their spouse. I am sure this might be true for some men, but I wouldn't put all of them in that basket.
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There will always be the exceptions to every rule, but I think there's a good chance.
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Count on it.
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A man can disrespect his Mother and still love his mother to a degree, no matter how bad the mother might be, a man should never disrespect her, it may show imaturity on his part. If a woman sees a man disrespect his mother, it should send a red flag saying there might be a problem somewhere in their relationship.
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Prolly.
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my husband(soon to be ex) talks rudly to his mom. Says stuff like "I'll piss on her grave," lend her money then talk badly about her when she took too long to give it back.(and when he borrowed money or when she paid to bail him out of jail, he took years to pay her bk... i still don't know if he completly paid her back) Well his baby momma before me was talked about harshly, cursed out... and he did it to me on many occasions. He tells me he doesn't talk bad about me to his new girlfriend... yeah right. He calls woman the b word all the time when they make him mad in the stores and where ever he encounters a situation he is not pleased with. His new girlfriend told me just because he is rude to his mother(which by the way is a good woman, no one is perfect) doesn't mean he will disrespect her.
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my mom's first question is, "does he like his mother?"
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More than likely.
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I have dumped 3 boyfriends for treating their mothers disrespectfully. It's definitely a sign of bad character.
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First of all, i cannot understand any many disrespecting his mother. i know it happens. i see it everyday. I have answered calls that involved this same situation. i cannot tell you, on Answerbag, what the end results were. but, i can say this, before leaving, respect was bountiful and no more calls to this address. Yes, i have seen men disrespect their mother and their girlfriend at the same time. it was so bad, that both the mother and girlfriend kicked the husband out of the house. they made a great team.
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Not a hard and fast rule but it does show he is very capable of disrespecting anyone, women in particular. I think that even if a mother is a horrible person, it is still possible to respect her position as his mother. He doesn't have to listen to her or agree but he should show respect to her as someone who is his parent, as an older person and as someone who did have authority over him when he was younger. It's a good barometer of how he handles difficult situations. I would hate to be his S/O and when things get tough he disrespects me and isn't capable of listening and solving problems between us.
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