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Boyfriend is crazy his name is on the lease, i am single mom of four year old, this weekend he attempted sucide and i am really scared for me and my child to be around him, he will not leave and landlord is saying too bad, not her problem, help

By pastie Asked Oct 16 2006 7:56PM
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by Darryl61 on Oct 16, 2006 at 8:02 pm Permalink

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You need to leave. NOW! Forget the lease. Take your child and get to a women's shelter or other safe house. The legal ramifications of breaking a lease aren't worth risking your life.
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Avatar JUSTNORMAL Oct, 16 2006 at 08:20 PM
Great answer, and you are correct, he is obviously unstable.

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by Mini_kilt on Oct 16, 2006 at 8:25 pm Permalink

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You are a mother before you are anything else, your best intrest should always lie with your children. There are many places you can go and be taken care of, if you need help finding one, post where you live and I'm sure we can help. Do this FIRST, and then if it consumes you, call a crisis line and ask them how you can help your boyfriend.
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Avatar pastie Oct, 16 2006 at 08:54 PM
another problem is my credit is so screwed up now, i don't even know who will even rent to me and i put up a first and last month deposit of $2300 and we have only been there 3 months, i wish there was a way to get him out.
Avatar JUSTNORMAL Oct, 16 2006 at 09:37 PM
You can go to a shelter, or anything. You should take care of your daughter and her safety. Who cares about money, do whats best for you and your little girl..Moms have to protect their children, first and foremost..
Avatar zazzy_one Nov, 19 2006 at 06:19 PM
Your credit won't matter in the worst case "you stay" scenario. There is always someone to go to for help. You need to find out who that is in your community. Start with Catholic Community Services.

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by POLICE...A FORTRESS OF SOLITUDE on Jun 24, 2009 at 11:10 am Permalink

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Have him picked by the authorities for attempted suicide-he should be held for 72 hrs observation which bys you time to file a restraining order.
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by Anonymous on Oct 16, 2006 at 9:11 pm Permalink

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Run, do not walk, to your suitcases and begin packing. you apparently have been living with a suicidal person for a while. if he is not on medication and not under the supervision of a physciatrist, you and your child could be in danger.

Let him deal with the lease. you and your child's safety comes first, period.

Move to a safe place, a friend, family or someone else you can trust. you may have to hide from him for a while, until he seeks help.

Write him off your list and find someone else.
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Avatar zazzy_one Nov, 19 2006 at 06:22 PM
"Someone else" should be the last thing she's thinking about right now. If she is having this kind of problem, her picker might be broken. She needs to heal and figure out why she chose this fellow and how to love herself first before she can do a better job of picking the next one.

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by Stableboy on Oct 16, 2006 at 9:00 pm Permalink

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If you talk to your county Department of Social Services they should be able to offer a shelter for you. That's what they're paid to deal with: families in trouble.
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by pastie on Oct 16, 2006 at 9:43 pm Permalink

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so what happens if the reality company sues me, i know he will not pay the rent, he has lost his job, all i want is him to go...i am going to turn the utilites off since they are in my name and hope this will discourage him, my parents came and got my son and i am staying with friends.
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Avatar JUSTNORMAL Oct, 16 2006 at 10:16 PM
GOOD, and all I can say is, if you fear for your life, get a restraining order and then he has to leave.
Avatar Darryl61 Oct, 16 2006 at 11:10 PM
Let them sue. At least you will be alive to fight it in court. (And you just may win based on the circumstances).

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by Legend In Your Own Mind on Jun 24, 2009 at 11:14 am Permalink

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Why does it scare you if he is suicidal? I would be trying to get him help first. Running away won't solve any problems and if he does die how will you feel when he's gone? Wonderful? If that's the case then leave, but only worrying about yourself alone seems a bit shallow.
You really need to give more details because the fact someone is suicidal doesn't always mean homicidal. I've been suicidal much of my life and have never even given thought to taking others out with me.
Suicide is usually about the person who wants to die and not about homicide. if it's homicide then call police.
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by Sharona someone has to do it on Jun 24, 2009 at 11:06 am Permalink

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Just get out of there. If you give me an excuse, you are not ready to leave, period. Life is hard, living there is the hardest choice you can make. Find a shelter if there is no other alternative, start anew and learn from this. By the way, it is NOT her problem, it is your problem.
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by branciforte3241 on Nov 19, 2006 at 6:35 pm Permalink

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Regardless of what the actual danger is, if you are scared then you should leave. You can check the phone book for shelters, or you can just ask the next cop you see.

At any rate, the $2300. That's a lot of money for someone in your position. I assume there was an understanding that you would contribute the deposit in exchange for the right to live there. You shouldn't have any trouble convincing a small-claims court judge to award the money to you. If at all possible, it is best for you to discuss this directly with your boyfriend before you do so.
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by serinity on Nov 19, 2006 at 6:24 pm Permalink

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this is what i think you should do call the police and GET OUT!! but, there is nowhere to go so find a family member or friend and ask to stay with them. find a job save some money and get out. change the locks or file harrasment . get him into a mental home tell the police he is a threat to society. they will definaly have to responed. your daughter should be the most you worry about because she does not need to be tainted about this. find some way to avoid her hereing the arguments with music.learn self defense in case he tryes to hurt you or your child.
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