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by Anonymous on June 21st, 2008

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I feel like im cursed. i suck at keeping friends. im way too nice i go out of my way for everyone and i feel like im never a priority in anyones life or like.. wanted around? I have no problem making friends its just im always the one left out.

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  • by stardust on June 21st, 2008

    stardust

    hey-i feel the same way. i feel as though people just simply disregard others feelings-whats wrong with thinking or laughing, and living with love in your heart. nothing. i dont see it around much anymore and i feel like so many people cant be trusted. i work at a hospital and even in a "care-giving" environment people forget to do just that. i witness people being friendly with someone and then will go talk with so and so and make fun of them and swear and all this and that. im in college as well and these are grown woman that do this-and even the other college people that i work with do it-its everywhere its everyone. i feel as though you are blessed because in my opinion you look at life a little differently than most. as you state you remember peoples birthdays and im sure your concious of their feelings and you would think that would make them want you around. im sure they want you around, however, misery likes company. so when the inconsiderate ones get together they can be all similar together and you being kind reminds them of 'kindness' but they choose to disregard it from their own personalities-unfortunatly. now, im not dissing these folks but i just wanted to add a comment because ive seen and experienced what you mentioned. as others commented-just be happy you and stay true to yourself and in time people will flock and see your confidence with who you are and the things that you like to do-the right friends will come along. i think all of us need to stand up for ourselves a bit more as well. [not in a crude way]

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  • by Miki10 on September 1st, 2008

    Miki10

    I feel the same way! This girl who was supposed to be my friend even told me that she hated my personality. That I laugh and smile at the world too much and she thought that was crazy. It's like I can't even live and be helpful and kind to people without being accused of being fake b/c I smile too much. I don't gossip or talk about people and I stand up for people but I feel betrayed when they don't for me or when I find out they were being fake all along. I never knew their were people out here just like me out though! I'm feel much better. We should all be friends :]]

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  • by Spirit of the Nomad on June 21st, 2008

    Spirit of the Nomad

    I was having these same horrible feelings and I realized that I spent way too much time trying so desperately to make friends by going out of my way for others who wouldn't even give me a second thought unless they needed something and then I realized that my problem was that I didn't come across as someone even I would want to hang out with, I tried way to hard and I didn't give people a chance to respect me for who I was I practically introduced myself as a doormat. Take some time to discover who you are...cultivate interest, take a couple of classes, listen to new types of music, try and find out who you truly are and you will meet all sorts of people who won't use you for your generosity and who will appreciate you for the interesting person you are.

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  • by Dmitri on June 21st, 2008

    Dmitri

    It is easy to be used when you are really considerate and helpful. I would say that you should stop being the errand boy/girl, and let someone else do it, even if it means that it might not be done at all, or the right way. Also, try making your ties with your friends deeper, and maybe get a s/o, and things should look up for you! 3 stars!

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  • by katydid15 on September 2nd, 2008

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    It sounds like you are trying way too hard to be nice and so people are just walking all over you.

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  • by koshish on September 2nd, 2008

    koshish

    When you become too much of a doormat people stop thinking of as some one important & start taking you as doormat.

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  • by UneFille on March 11th, 2009

    UneFille

    Have you ever thought maybe they just don't fit you?

    Like begets like. If you are kind and they ignore you, then they are not like you.

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  • by CaRbOnPrOdUcK is Baccuss on March 11th, 2009

    CaRbOnPrOdUcK is Baccuss

    And your question is?

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  • by Meg on June 21st, 2008

    Meg

    I have the exact same problem. It seems like even my close friends "forget" me sometimes. I'm also nice (I remember birthdays, I care, etc), but I don't let people walk on me or anything. I'm just not really a priority to anyone. It was even hard with my ex (when we were dating) because he didn't treat me like I was important! let's be friends :)

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  • by theguyfrom1981 on April 17th, 2012

    theguyfrom1981

    wow, so interesting that everyone here is feeling like I do... it is re assuring thanks for making me feel not alone.

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  • by Turkey on June 21st, 2008

    Turkey

    I have the same problem even the people who claim to be my "best friends"(not all of them) forget about me...

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  • by Jane on June 21st, 2008

    Jane

    I think we all feel left out at some point in our lives. If you have no problem making friends than that is in your favor. But what are you doing to keep them? Are you too nice?
    I hate to say this but no one wants to be around someone who bends over backwards for them. People just don't respect others who do that. It looks needy and desperate.
    You can be friendly, happy, and a fun person without becoming a doormat. It takes practice to find an acceptable balance so don't give up.

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  • by jennyxuane on March 11th, 2009

    jennyxuane

    hey? really? me too even its not a friend a stranger im too nice to give what i can give huhu i cant help it bt i just keep it as its beeter to giv than to receive

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  • by Anonymous on November 8th, 2011

    Anonymous

    The people around you are not worthy of you. Be respectful of yourself, and do not be too nice. As for these people throw them away in the garbage they are worthless people.

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