My Mother In Law hates the idea of my husband and I homeschooling my children. It's been an on going thing for some time now, how do I handle her?
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pgray1229
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Tell her that the public schools are home to evolution, homosexuality, atheism, and much violence, and since the teachers are not even respected any more, every one is a sitting duck in hunting season.
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It can be very hard for relatives who are used to the public school system to believe the homeschooled children are getting a better education. I homeschooled by two sons and three grandsons, but none of my relatives objected. You could point out that at home they receive an entire hour of attention for every hour of school, and at the public school they receive at the very most 1/30 th of every hour in a class of 30, which means two minutes. Most of the quiet children receive zero attention, because the teacher has to deal with the unruly troublemakers.
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Well I would first of all remind her that your children have to pass state mandated testing to continue to be home school. That the law does not allow parents to just keep their children home, out of school for no reason. Maybe you can do some research to show her the benefits of your children being home schooled. But lastly... I would ask her... why she doesnt trust you and your husband with your children. Why she has such a problem with it...I dont know your mother and law so I can not offer anymore than what I have said but...remember the proof is in the pudding.
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Tell her you appreciate her advice and interest and that you will take it under advisement and that you are your husband will make a decision based upon all the good advice you get and upon what you ultimately feel is best for your children. Then reiterate your appreciation and affection and change the subject. Since she is not on the panel that makes these decisions it is not necessary to present all of your arguments, deliberations, and information to her. Just smile at her, thank her, and move on. Keep doing this until she finally gives up. It may take years.
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These are your children therefor you can have your opinions but your way and your husbands way is final. There is nothing wrong with what you are doing. Show her, her place which is grandma. I think the older generations will never be satisfied with the way the newer generations handle things, like the kids. Like i said they are your kids, she raised hers her way and you and your hubby will raise yours your way, if you need to tell her to mind her place and business, make sure that you and your hubby are ib the same page or it could back fire. You two need to work as a team and stick up for each other otherwise mother in law will see right threw it.
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I would hate the idea too, myself, in her position. I really think that homeschooling is a way to isolate children from their peers and often deprives them of a full education. Even so, even if it were me who was the children's grandmother, I would still have no say ultimately in how they are raised. That part is up to the parents and you have no obligation to explain your reasoning. You know why this path is right for your children and that's what matters. If you wanted to soothe her criticisms, perhaps involving the children in some sort of community activity such as camp or after-school groups would dispel some concerns about the children learning social skills and understanding how other people live. Otherwise, you can only allow her to view the results for herself - seeing the children frequently enough to know how educated and well-adjusted they are. If she can still argue with you after that, there is probably no convincing her.
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While I side with her, because I believe it is key to a child growing up, to have that kind of social interaction with other kids their age, I still believe that no one should tell you how to raise your children. Tell her you can appreciate her concern, but they're your children, and you've decided to do things differently.
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Tell her you appreciate her advice but that you enjoy homschooling your children and that at this point it is not her dession to make only you can deside what is best fore your children and i think you are doing the right thing homschooled children dont have to deal with all the stress school has to offer so as a parent to homeschool your children you are doing a wonderfull thing for your children plus homschooling can be great for you and your children you will no what your child is learning plus the best part is that you will have more time to spend with them and thats the best thing you could ever offer a child
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well i think your doing the right thing homschooling is a great way to no your children are safe you mite want to remind your mother that every day over 3000 children go missing from there school yards and the most of never see there parents again the other ones get raped or beat PLUS THERES BULLYING
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What makes you think you and your husband are the least bit qualified as educators, much less qualified to help children with the necessary social adaptation?
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