What are your hobbies? Go for it.Or you can engage yourself with social activities. Spend time with young kids, you will love the questions they ask for which there is no answer.

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See a counselor and try to date people that act, talk, laugh and think totally different than the "stupid man". Take your time and you will eventually find someone that won't hurt you. They are out there.

You need to learn from your past experiences and move on-- Think more positive. When you start thinking negative thoughts, try your hardest to think positive. Because you're the only one who can fix this. Besides, it's not fair to torture someone for something that someone did to YOU before hand.

You just have to realize that not everyone is the same. Think of those girls whose first relationship was with an abuser, and what THEY have to "get past" before they can trust others. What about the girls whose first relationship simply worked it to get into their pants? Of course, many of them HAVE found new and loving relationships. If neither of those were your situation, then realize that you could have had it worse. Again, you HAVE to realize that not everyone is the same. I had to reassure my wife that I was not like her ex a number of times. She had pushed through enough to fall in love with me, but still had doubts now and then. Even if your next is a jerk, don't believe that ALL men are that way. You should be able to see that by many movies, TV shows, etc... Some of the guys on the shows are jerks, and some are not. The same is true in real life. Before you go out with a new guy, RUN that imaginary future in your mind, but concentrate on a GOOD future... You know... Nice house in the suburbs, pickett fence, a couple of kids, great extended family. Block out the BAD thoughts with them. Believe me... There are a LOT of nice guys out there. I was one (and still am... Just married now!)... I should know. ;-)

Stupid man? isn't he your dream guy? have you had your priorities set right?

Getting some insight into what led you to get involved with someone like your ex and then stay in the r/ship where you were being mistreated - could help you to understand yourself more and understand also what was the pay off for you then being with an abusive person? Self knowledge can empower you. And help give you the confidence to have faith that you *can* choose a healthy r/ship, that will be positive for you. Because you'll know yourself better - and from your past experience also, know especially who/what isn't good for you! It make take time, but a bit a caution before getting too involved with someone too quickly, can be to your advantage! Kind regards :)

You just have to try and trust people. It's unfair of you to treat every new guy you meet as if he is a clone of the one who mistreated you. When you find yourself running one of those bad scenarios in your head, try imagining the exact opposite. Its equally likely to happen, since you're just speculating. You will never know for certain what someone is or isn't going to do from day to day. It's out of your control. Just be more cautious than you were in the past and keep looking foreward to better things to come.

It takes time to heal from a bad relationship and it's important to let yourself not rush right into another. You don't have to be alone with a guy right now and if it makes you uncomfortable, you definitely should not. Be kind to yourself first. Worry about your next relationship later.