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by 89bravo on September 28th, 2006

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My boyfriend of 7 months just proposed to me. I really dont know how to anwser his qeustion. Hes going into the army and i really dont find army drones very appealing. As much as i can say i love him i dont like the army life. What should i say?

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  • by Deonymous on February 12th, 2008

    Deonymous

    A simple "No" will do.

    It won't work. It doesn't light your fire, or make heaven move for you.
    Be kind to both of you, and let both move on.

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  • by yoho05 reminds you to DYOH on September 28th, 2006

    yoho05 reminds you to DYOH

    Tell him exactly what you have told us, that in the long term, his life goals and yours are not compatible. And don't let him pressure you into doing something that you don't feel right doing just because he's going into a dangerous line of work. That is his decision and he has no right to involve you against your will.

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  • by Account Closed on October 16th, 2007

    Account Closed

    A marriage is all about acceptance, not so much compromise. I think you answered your own question, in the fact that your love isn't strong enough, to accept what he feels is his duty. Of course this is merely my own opinion. I just don't feel you are ready for this type of relationship with this man.

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  • by Koz - Passion Perseverance Patience on July 5th, 2007

    Koz - Passion Perseverance Patience

    7 months might be too early to find out if you are compatible enough to marry. Many GIs fear loosing their wifes or girlfriends when they leave for a tour of duty. This could be a heartbreak that will really be difficult for him to overcome when is away from home. You might want to hold off and see how you feel when he is away to determine your true feelings.

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  • by Someone on July 5th, 2007

    Someone

    Say you aren't ready. If you were, you wouldn't have to ask random people on the internet. Since you have, be honest with him about your feelings. If you do love him, and he loves you, you two can talk it out and discuss more about marriage before you jump into such commitment. Maybe after his term in the army you two can reconsider, for now, I'd say hold off.

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  • by Cubaneyes on February 11th, 2008

    Cubaneyes

    Tell the truth. Don't lead him on.

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  • by Scifisuz on October 16th, 2007

    Scifisuz

    Tell me that you love him but don't find the prospect of army life attractive.

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  • by Brian I on July 5th, 2007

    Brian I

    You obviously have doubts, so the only sensible answer is, "No".

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  • by buxtonite ..slowly losing my mind on March 25th, 2008

    buxtonite ..slowly losing my mind

    very easy ...no!.. tell him you would rather wait for him to come back home then ask you again..tell him your just not ready to take that step just yet

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  • by m4dm4nsgirl on March 25th, 2008

    m4dm4nsgirl

    You need to be honest with him! I think that he and you both deserve that...honesty is the best answer!! Good Luck!

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  • by Viv on March 25th, 2008

    Viv

    well be honest... tell him you're not sure because he's in the army & if he really loves you he'll understand that you're confused & need time.

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  • by shayla on December 4th, 2007

    shayla

    gurl you been with him for 7 month things is not that strong you doesnt know yet everything about him what you need to tll him is ITS TO EARLY THAT YOU DOESNT THINK THAT YALL READY YET!!!!!!!!!!!!

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  • by Chaysgirl24 on October 16th, 2007

    Chaysgirl24

    Ezactly what you were just saying in the question you asked!

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  • by Glenn Blaylock on September 28th, 2006

    Glenn Blaylock

    Military life is not for avery one and I can respect someone who doesn't want that. However, your contempt for those that defend your freedom is obvious from your choice of words (army drones indeed >:-( ). So, do your boyfriend a favor and break it off now. You don't respect his choice or the people with whom he will serve. So, don't torture him with your complaining and disdain.

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    "yohoho05: pretty harsh, Glenn - 'army brats' is a term that children of military members call themselves and they don't mean it contemptuously. There are many self-deprecatory terms in many areas of society - it doesn't mean that they 'loat"

    Note, at the time that I wrote this answer, Washu-chan had not yet identified herself as the child of a military man. What I was objecting to was her use of the term "army drones". This is a term of contempt used by those who don't respect the military to indicate that members of the military are brainless automatons who are incapable of thinking for themselves. It is not a term of endearment the way army brat can be. Therefore, I don't have much respect for those that use it.

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  • by moose888 on June 20th, 2010

    moose888

    Im thinking that if the answer doesnt come to you immediately then maybe its not meant to be. If you knew in your heart that you loved him and that he would make you happy for the rest of your life then you would have immediately said yes.

    Let him down easy, and make him know that it was a difficult decision for you x

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  • by darksidehascookiesxD on December 18th, 2010

    darksidehascookiesxD

    get alone time with him and tell him how you feel about this whole army thing....."honesty is the best policy"

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  • by Anonymous on October 16th, 2007

    Anonymous

    I think you should tell your boyfriend exactly how you feel. If you are truly in love with him, I don't think his career should matter. This is one problem that i think you and your boyfriend should solve together.

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  • by fly32407 on February 3rd, 2010

    fly32407

    Talk to him..open up...and be open to what he has to say.

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