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To a certain degree your marriage and your feelings about your husband are personal and separate from your daughter and her feelings about her father. I don't see that it's in anyone's best interest to 'convince' anyone about your feelings towards your husband/marriage/divorce - least of all your daughter. Except from the standpoint of you being her mother and he, your daughter's father. That's the angle that I see as relevent when dealing with her, hearing her out and helping her cope with how *she* feels. .
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When I wanted my parents to stay apart because it was so volatile when they were together . . . I hated hearing or seeing my mother indicate in any way that she cared about him. I didn't want them to be together because it could be too scary.
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Tell your daughter that you say what you believe, what is in your heart and therefore it is not up to her to program what you say/do just as it is not up to you to program what she says/does. If she has a problem with her dad, you can listen. But if she is trying to manipulate you into badmouthing your ex, explain patiently the facts of life to her..badmouthing anyone, especially an "ex" is counterproductive, ill-conceived and immature. It reflects badly on the person who does it. She is very young..you need to set her straight! :)
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really be carfull , my mum went into a marriage and hes a total twat and seh always speaks ill of my dad and i cant stand it but dear i speak ill of my step dad, ive just seen my dad for the 1st time in 9 months and i hate my mum and step dad so much becuase becuase they always try and turn me against him, well theyve succseded with my brother (mild asburguss syndrom , very very very very lite form of autism can do everything normal, just a bit slow and fucking anouying:P) but its easy to convince him, back to the point best thing to do is not to speak about it at all. and why is she affraid hell hurt u?and how old is ur duaghter, she cud just be a bit jelouse if shes young but just dont talk about it to her, if shes older its not really anything to do with her but if shes really upset by it, dnt rub it in her face. hope i helped :)
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