We caught our 12 yr old in a small lie. We discussed about being trustworthy and that re-earning trust is harder that earning it. And how admitting to a wrongdoing or mistake can make one more trustworthy. Within 30 min he told another. Any advice?
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I say cut out his tongue and that should solve the problem.
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Tell him you are having his favourite dessert after supper. Then when it comes time for dessert, tell him that it was a small lie. There is no dessert tonight. Afterwards, ask him how that made him feel, and if he can now see why lying can be upsetting to others. . This is kind of mean and may not be suitable to many parents, but it is a suggestion.
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One thing I believe I was good at when raising my children was teaching them about NOT lying. When they are caught in a lie, they are in double trouble. I take things away from them for a week, nag them to no end and then when things calmed down... I explained to them how if they simply told the truth, I would be upset and have a talk with them about the situation, but the trouble wouldn't have been as severe. Each time after if I felt they could be lying... I'd remind them... "Remember, we can get passed this if you only tell the truth and all will go away faster". They now are the most honest children I know (2 teens, one grown).
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