by 23Skidoo on May 26th, 2008

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We caught our 12 yr old in a small lie. We discussed about being trustworthy and that re-earning trust is harder that earning it. And how admitting to a wrongdoing or mistake can make one more trustworthy. Within 30 min he told another. Any advice?

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by Sheriff Raff -Answerhag on May 26th, 2008
I say cut out his tongue and that should solve the problem.
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- extreme, but possibly a deterrant! where you ever in th S.A.S Raff?
  
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  by Mr n Mrs M... on May 26th, 2008
- I hope everyone knows this is a joke... I am the comic relief here.
  
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  by Sheriff Raff -Answerhag on May 26th, 2008
- that is gross! nice find!!!
  
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  by Mr n Mrs M... on May 26th, 2008
- Nothing personal but - not helpful. -2 from me.
  
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  by 23Skidoo on May 26th, 2008
- this is why i don't have children
  
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  by Sheriff Raff -Answerhag on May 26th, 2008
- if you did have children your whole attitude on kids would change. But I must say that did make me laugh.
  
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  by Mandie on May 29th, 2008
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by Shay37 on May 26th, 2008
One thing I believe I was good at when raising my children was teaching them about NOT lying. When they are caught in a lie, they are in double trouble. I take things away from them for a week, nag them to no end and then when things calmed down... I explained to them how if they simply told the truth, I would be upset and have a talk with them about the situation, but the trouble wouldn't have been as severe. Each time after if I felt they could be lying... I'd remind them... "Remember, we can get passed this if you only tell the truth and all will go away faster". They now are the most honest children I know (2 teens, one grown).
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- They hate it! :-) It's a part of the torture... To remember not having to hear it along with the rest of the trouble they get into the next time they think about lying.
  
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  by Shay37 on May 26th, 2008
- It's not hating on them.. It's tough love. Do you think they are going to go out in this world, lie to people and handle certain reactions if we don't teach them first? I have you know.. that I have 3 children who are VERY close to me, that are honest, loving and not into the bad things offered in life.
  
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  by Shay37 on May 26th, 2008
- No one is torturing their kids. There is humor in there. You'd truly have to be a parent to "get it". Not just a child once. Everyone who is grown was a child once.
  
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  by Shay37 on May 26th, 2008
- Shay, thanks. I hear ya. Even the comment about torture. Obviously it's in fun. And - punishment, when necessary, is in finding what kids hate the most.
  
  And when mine asks why we torture him by not giving unlimited mobile phone rights, I tell him because I enjoy it.
  
  +3 fro me. Thanks
  
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  by 23Skidoo on May 26th, 2008
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by Anonymous on May 26th, 2008
Tell him you are having his favourite dessert after supper. Then when it comes time for dessert, tell him that it was a small lie. There is no dessert tonight. Afterwards, ask him how that made him feel, and if he can now see why lying can be upsetting to others.
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This is kind of mean and may not be suitable to many parents, but it is a suggestion.
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- Sometimes we understand things better by seeing them from a different perspective. Like when the perpetrator becomes the victim.
  
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  by Anonymous on May 26th, 2008
- It is only a suggestion. Perhaps it is a bit harsh for a first-time offense.
  
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  by Anonymous on May 26th, 2008
- He's a bit old for this one but I'll save it for later. :-)
  
  I think letting kids kn ow what it feels like to be hurt - in harmless ways - is one of the better ways of raising them.
  
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  by 23Skidoo on May 26th, 2008
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