Of course.

First, in the eyes of the law she is an adult for most purposes. She is emancipated. Now, having said that, perhaps you haven't properly prepared her to deal with the world so it would be unwise for her to do this. Or, she may be overly naive and incapable of dealing with life because of personal limitations. But if you have done your job as a parent, 19 is old enough to marry, start a business, be bound by a contract, be a parent, vote in a federal election and much more. After all, if she's not prepared to do this at 19, what does she need to learn? Also, she can get into just as much trouble within 100 miles from home as within 1000 miles from home.

At 18, she is considered an adult. If I had a kid I might not like it, might not pay for the trip but I could not stop her.

Yes, when I was 19 I was "allowed" to do this, or rather I was "approved" to do this. I got a ticket to see a friend for Christmas, and my parents are very overprotective, even though I was an adult. I don't think you can really not allow your daughter to see this friend, since she is an adult.

defenitly, shes 19 dude most 19yr olds live in dorms or on there own

no' try an get someone to travel with her' theres crazy people in this world.

It's not up to you to "allow" a 19 year old to do anything. The most you can do is help her prepare for a safe journey.

I'd have no choice. However, if I don't agree it's the right thing to do, and she still makes my home her home, I may not allow her to continue to make this her residence. With adult decisions come adult responsibilities and consequences.

Well, at 19 she is an adult, so it really isn't a matter of you "allowing" her. A lot depends on how she will be traveling. If she is just going to board a plane, I think she'll be fine. If she's going to be driving that distance, I can see where you would be concerned. I traveled alone for the first time by plane when I was 13, 6000 miles, and I was just fine. When I was 19 I drove 3000 miles, from Italy to Budapest, Hungary with a couple of friends. I can empathize with your concern for your daughter's well being, but I honestly don't think you need to worry.

No, because she's 19. It would not be up to me to allow or disallow her to do anything. I'm not a control freak, and it would be entirely her decision and choice as an adult.

Over my dead body. It took me 3 months to decide whether my daughter could fly from Fl to NY to see her dad. I'm glad I did but I could have been taken back to court if I didn't

Well If i was in her luggage:):P

Only if she wanted me on her heels everystep of the way! My kids are worth the world to me and I'd much rather listen to them complain than not knowing where they are.

If she's 19 I don't think there is a damn thing I can do about it because she is an adult.

Maybe she could fly instead of drive, perhaps. It's less risky then, even if the flight might only be an hour or two, and would make more 'sense' to drive.

Yes, because she is over 18. She's an adult who can make her own choices.

My daughter would be an adult, and that would be her decision to make, and NOT mine.

Yes... at 16 my first time out of the country was me and my best friend.. yes i had someone with me... but your daughter will as soon as she arrives so it wont be so bad

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age has nothing to do w/ it...ask yourself.'is she responsible enough?"can she handle it? my daughter is 19 and i would have no trouble w/ her driving 1000 mi.i also know people i wouldnt trust driving around the block.

Allow? You really have no choice in the matter. She is legally an adult and can make her own decisions. If she wants to go you can't do anything to stop her.

i'm 19. i'd love to go 1000 miles alone, but i recently got invited perhaps to spain with a family and i doubt my mom is even going to let me do that. yes i'm legally an adult but since i still live in her house it's going to be hard if she still says no when i'm buying that plane ticket - that i will be able to afford, god willing. is she responsible? my mom knows i am, it's a matter of others being responsible. do you know this friend? that might help a lot. whatever you do i wish you and your daughter the best of luck

Yes I would. As long as she is a responsible girl. I left home at 17 and travelled to another country by myself to live and I was fine.

At 19 I wouldn't have the power to allow or disallow the trip.

My 19 year old daughter would be classified as an adult and as such, she would be within her right to make her own decisions. I would accept that and do whatever I could to support her in her adventure and see that she has every opportunity of remaining safe and well and happy :)

Traveling alone is always a risk. I would feel better if she was going with someone. But in today’s world of cell phones and Interstate freeways, it's not as scary. In the past, has she demonstrated an ability to make good decisions and avoid unnecessary dangers? If so, you have no need to worry.

At 19 years old my daughter-in-law was in the Air Force. I guess that traveling plans would have been beyond my control at that age.

I dont have a choice, they are adults and can do as they wish. I would make sure, she has a phone and money, a few basic mechanical instructions, and call her every 20 minutes or so......

Yes as long as she is intelligent enough to handle herself along the journey and at the foreign land.Its ok to be worried about her. You should contact her occasionally,just in case she might need your assistance.

If she is 19, it is up to her. Of course, I could talk to her about it, but she can make her own decisions.

If she's walking, no. If she'd flying, of course. You didn't mention the mode of transport.

Yeah, probably. I would just be sure she had a cell phone so she could contact me if something went wrong.

It's deemed okay for an 18 year old male to go off to war and kill people. I would think that a 19 year old female could decide for herself if she is ready for such a trip, after accepting some sound advice from older ones.

She is an adult so she can do what she wants to so.

You know, to be perfectly honest (and this will sound harsh as), if she, at 19, is coming to you to ask for PERMISSION to go on a road trip, you've failed the 'letting your baby fly free' part of parenting. Flunked it entirely. Where is she going to get ANY independence from if she needs to ak you about everything she does for the rest of her life? This situation is just stupid. Here is Aus, about 50,000 18-year-olds from ALL OVER Aus gather in Surfers Paradise in Queensland for schoolies, where rape and drugging rates reach the highest they reach all year, and parents STILL pay for their kids to get there because it's THIER decision. We went interstate when we were 18 for schoolies, and we had a ball, AND we drove the whole way. I'm sorry, but a 19-year-old asking for permission to go 1000 K's away is unheard of. If she had serious responsibilities, kids, uni course, maybe you could HINT to her not to go, but as it stands it seems that she doesn't, she only really needs to look out for herself at the moment, and you should let her do that. Let her go, dude.

Well I'm still a child but if I was an adult an had a 19 year old daughter I would let her go because officially she's already an "adult" and should be free to make her own decisions.

As a parent I would be very anxious no doubt but I also remember the fuss I created when as a 19 year old I was barred from going on a trip with only another girl for company. I think I would let her go but would request her to keep me posted about her itinerary .

When I was 19, I was hired as a flight attendant and traveling all over the WORLD! I'd let her go. After all, she is a legal adult.

Yes! But only if she researched how to be safe and smart while travelling. www.youth-travel-guide.com

Legally you have no right to stop her.

Both my parents were dead when I was 20, I did lots of things by myself. Kids go off to college at 18, and war. Yes, she should be aloud. If you don't let her experience things, she'll end up stupid, and will marry the first idiot who asks her to.

HELL NO..but hey..there nothing you can do.

She is adult, so how could you stop her? Not give her the money?

she's 18, she should be able to go if she wants to.

If she wants to drive because it is to expensive to fly, why don't you offer to buy her a ticket.

hell no not for a friend she can see him/her another time...

You can try to stop her, but she's of age and she'll do what she wants.

Allow may not be the right word… because she is legally of age to due as she pleases… So the question then becomes… would you “approve”. I think that would be a one of those questions that would need more info… such as transportation mode…. Where is she going? Is it safe? Also does she live at home with you, where she needs to abide by your rules? Is she responsible? There are many factors that I personally would have to address… If it was my daughter going off on her own for a trip that far away I would be worried sick and she is going on 21 and doesn’t even live with me…. But I have learned that us parents have to eventually let them grow up and make there own decisions and sadly mistakes. If she lives with you then obviously you have a right to dictate how she lives her life and the choices she makes. I guess it all boils down to trust… and fear…of letting go. Only you know your child. But who knows given a chance maybe she will surprise you… mine has. Still and all… it doesn’t mean that I still don’t worry. She will always be my little girl.

Oh gosh this is scary...it reminds me of the reality that one day my two sons will be 19 and they will probably want to do something that I would not like to approve...however, i guess this is a matter of how much you know your child and the people your child associates with...it's a matter of letting go and trusting...geez, it's so hard to be a parent...

Oh gosh this is scary...it reminds me of the reality that one day my two sons will be 19 and they will probably want to do something that I would not like to approve...however, i guess this is a matter of how much you know your child and the people your child associates with...it's a matter of letting go and trusting...geez, it's so hard to be a parent...

Since she is 19 and an adult, the question is whether she would allow YOU to nag her about it.

In my case,19 is enough to do everything that she wants. I am a Chinese girl who is studying in oversea,i remember that i left hometown when i was 18,at the moment,i am 20 years old,how interesting it is!

As someone mentioned above, I would probably advise against it and not give my approval, but as far as "allow" it? If my daughter was 19, I would not be in a position to prevent it. In my country, 18 is the age of majority (adulthood).

19, yes ... 9, no. For a 19 year old daughter, I would only want her to TELL me where she is going, and to call or email me a few times while she is there, just so I know she is OK, but the trip would be her decision, not mine.

if shes 19 she should be able to make her own decision.. shes an adult already.. however i will definately gt some more information of where/how she met this friend.. was it an online friend? or someone she met in real life beh4 but later on just moved away from her.. i will definately get the phone number of the friend shes going to visit.. if anything bad happens at least i know who she visited or was with.. or suppose to be with. yep. but afterall, it is her decision.

I don't think so. However, I traveled nearly one thousand miles to see a "friend" once, and I was only seventeen, so if she knew that story, she probably wouldn't take me too seriously.

If you feel comfortable with how she behaves in the home and out with friends, and you trust that she has grown into a smart, wise young woman... then by all means have some faith in her and support her decision if this is what she really wants to do. I was 25 and I drove ALONE all the way from Wytheville, VA to Seattle, WA and loved every minute of the 11 days it took me to get there (I made it a very scenic, cross country trip LOL). I was smart... I stayed on highways (mostly... in California and Texas I took a few smaller scenic routes) and always made sure I had gas. I stopped when it started getting dark and I stopped at very busy intersections in cities I recognized by going over my trip beforehand. I called my mom every night, and she knew exactly the route I planned on taking. And yes, of course technically you can't make her stay, but you can definitely give her good advice for the road and I am sure you guys can work out a plan for when she can call to check in, etc. Also, if it will make you feel more comfortable, ask her to give you the contact information for the friend and contact info for the hotels she plans on staying at on the way.

She is 19 and can make her own choices.

She's around that age already. I would allow her.

Yes, she is an adult. Have confidence in yourself that you raised a responsible young lady.

No way, not with current high criminal rates.

she is 19, i think she can legally go when she is 18 without your permission but im not too sure about the rules.

I think I may be a bit late in answering for your question but it may be helpful to others who are wondering the same thing. I'm an 18-year-old female, and I am going on a 1700 mile trip by myself accross country to see my boyfriend. My parents are not happy about it, but they realize that I am 18, and they hope they have taught me all I need to know in order to survive and make the correct decisions. Say you want her to do something for you before leaving: like, "before you leave, you need to clean your room spotless or I will clean it and there will only be what you need."... That is what my mom said. So I cleaned my room spotless. And now she's okay with me going because now my room will stay clean for a week (which is a miricle). Plus it's a learning experience. You wouldn't want your child to hate you becuase they could have learned something about his/her self. And if you don't think he/she is ready at the age of 18 to go out on their own, you never will. It's time to cut the "mommy leash" as I call it.

As a 20 year old girl I'm biased, but having said that definitely see where you're coming from being worried, especially if it's a road trip. Since it's your car I think you're well within your paternal (maternal?) bounds to make sure she can get out of tricky situations before she goes. i.e. teach her to change a tire, check the oil, etc. Better to prepare her that way than to just worry about her inexperience.

My daughter has been in Uni since thta age. She lives 230 miles away permanently. So my answer would be yes. When my son was 7 he travelled to Britain on his own.

Yes, she is an adult. Would I pay for it... maybe not.

There is no "allow" when someone's 19 years old. There is only a choice between being supportive and unsupportive.

That would depend on who she's going to see and how she'd get there. My daughter is now 30, but she's been traveling with me all her life. She certainly could travel 1000 miles to see a friend if she was just jumping on a plane and her friend would be there to pick her up, but the question in the friend. Is that person responsible enough to want your daughter to be 1000 miles away from home, with mainly that 'friend' to depend on? If so - tally ho.

You shouldn't have to allow her, she's an adult.

I left home in the middle of the night when I was 18 years told to visit my boyfriend out of state. I did this because I had been refused "permission" to go. I know it hurt my family to do it, but that was what finally made my mother stop treating me like just her daughter and start treating me as a fellow adult. My point is that your daughter may choose to go anyway, since she is of legal age to do it, and wouldn't you much rather have her going with your knowledge and (hopefully) blessing?

Of course I would, she's 19. My 15 year old son is flying home by himself after visiting his dad 1000 miles away and we are all fine with it.

She is 19 she could go backpacking alone for years on end. I met a few as young as 17/18.

She is 19 years old. Cut the umbilical cord already - she's old enough that, legally, she doesn't need your permission to do so. If you're worried about her, that's natural, but she is an adult now and you need to let her get out and do things on her own.

Who she's going to see and how responsible both the daughter and the friend are are far more important than whether she's getting on a plane or how far she's traveling.

Yes. She is an adult and therefore capable of all adult activities.

I am a 19-year-old myself, I moved out and started caring for myself two years ago. I own a condo now and have traveled that far for both business and pleasure. As many have said, "allow" might be a bit harsh, but even if you meant "approve of" I'd have to say "yes."

Sure, why not?

When I was 19 I travelled more than 4000 miles by airplane alone just to visit my friend.

I guess I would have no choice,she would be over 18.This would be out of my control.

I guess its not so much as allowing, unless youre still supporting her and housing her under your roof. If she can pay for it, I say its perfectly fine. I'm 18, (haha so im not even one to talk) but Ive been taking trips alone, to Japan(family), Taiwan(family), Switzerland(boyfriend), UK(touring around and checking out colleges)and Germany(for fun) for the past 3 years and I think that all it has done for me is broaden my horizons an my capability to be independent :)

I would allow her to travel 1,000 miles to visit friends only if I didn't care if she was safe or value her life. Of course there is no way I would allow her to travel alone no matter where, when, how or who she was visiting. When I was 19 I lived in Tennessee and decided on the spur of the moment to return to my home in Michigan at 9:pm. I shudder when I think back on that now. No one stopped me from going. That's when I knew that neither my parents or anyone else was concerned about my safty or my life. I changed the way I related to everyone after that. No matter where I showed up, someone would say, "Oh no. She's back here again".(that is a true story). She may not understand now, but in the future she will come to realize that someone really loved her and cared about her life and safty. She will love you for it.

She's an adult. When my kids were at that age, they made those choices for themselves. One was living across the country. It's what they are supposed to be doing at that age!

Yes!

When I was 19 I travelled over 5000 miles alone to a third world country to work with health workers treating AIDS patients for two months. My family were not best pleased with my plans but they had an itinerary of my trip, contact information and I phoned regularly. I understood their anxiety so I kept them involved with my trip and they were much happier about it by the time i left.

Sure. A) She's an adult B) I'd want to think I taught her how to take care of herself as an adult.

Personally, I think you should. But I am a 19-year-old girl, so I am probably a bit biased in this case. The important thing is that she has the trip well planned before she goes. I'm assuming that the drive will take all day, but she won't have to stay anywhere overnight on the way. Make sure she has important things such as a map, directions, cell phone and charger, list of important phone numbers, and a credit card for emergencies. I'm sure you'll talk to her before she leaves to give her advice for a safe road trip. And of course, have her call you when she gets there. (But if you call her during the trip and she doesn't answer, it may just be that there's music on in the car, so don't worry too soon). I hope that helps :-)

Depends. Whos the friend? Have you met them? Personally I would say yes, as long as you are completely sure that she will be safe. Make sure she has a cell phone and knows what numbers to call if in an emergency. I am only sixteen, and my mother is letting me go on a 12 hour road trip to see a friend. The friend is rather important to me, and it will proabably be the last time I see him because he is being deployed over seas soon. You should give her a chance, trust her.

yes, she's old enough and it would be good for her.

Perhaps yes. If she wants to travel a 1000 miles to meet a friend, then the friend must be special, right?

Of course. Hopefully you've raised her to be responsible and smart enough to know the dangers of traveling alone and she will make smart choices. If she's traveling alone by car, make sure she has a cell phone and AAA, and keep in touch while she's on the road. If by air/transport, make sure she knows to keep with reputable companies, and again, a cell phone is a must.

Well where is she going? If I were you I would let her go as long as i know where and who is she going with. Just trust her and remind her to be responsible with her actions.

At 19 she is an adult and able to do as she wishes. I would ask questions and give any pertinent advice, but the decision would be hers. I would never try to control an adult child of mine. I WANT my children to be independent, self sufficient adults.

I would, simply because I have no legal right to tell another adult what they can, and can't do. All I could do is hope I gave her the right guidance growing up, allowing her to make the best decisions in her own interest.

Yes

Would I worry? You bet. Would I allow? Wouldn't legally have the right to "allow or not allow". But trust me, I would advise and warn her about everything and anything that could go wrong or harm her, let her know how much I love her and how much I would miss her. And then I would tell her to please be safe and always be responsible...and then I would say "I really do hope you will have a good time." And then last but not least I would make her give me every phone number of every person she might visit..and tell her to have her cell on at all times : )

Sure, unless she's hitch hicking or stowing away yo...

Yes. At 19 she should know how to take care of herself or else I am a failure in educating her.

My daughter? Yes. Your daughter? No.

I agree with mozt of the people above, at the end of the day it is her decision, you can't really stop her from going, however, you could tell her you are worried and would feel better if there was someone else who could go with her. And if she plans to go by plane, Airport security is pretty tight these days and there is a name on every ticket as opposed to getting a bus etc. If she is flying, make sure there will be someone there to meet her at the other end and go see her off yourself.

Yes. She is 19 and considered an adult, you're just going to have to let go. You'll always be her parent but it's time for her to take that trip and start her journey where she makes adult decisions and uses everything you've taught her and applies it to the real world. Good luck!