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by AntigoneRising on May 24th, 2008
No, because she's 19. It would not be up to me to allow or disallow her to do anything. I'm not a control freak, and it would be entirely her decision and choice as an adult.
by Theby on May 24th, 2008
Yes I would. As long as she is a responsible girl. I left home at 17 and travelled to another country by myself to live and I was fine.
by Galeanda on May 25th, 2008
It's deemed okay for an 18 year old male to go off to war and kill people. I would think that a 19 year old female could decide for herself if she is ready for such a trip, after accepting some sound advice from older ones.
by iwnit on May 25th, 2008
If she is 19, it is up to her.
Of course, I could talk to her about it, but she can make her own decisions.
by Sheriff Raff -Answerhag on May 24th, 2008
At 18, she is considered an adult. If I had a kid I might not like it, might not pay for the trip but I could not stop her.
by AliCat ABBBBS is plus 1 hr GMT on May 24th, 2008
Well, at 19 she is an adult, so it really isn't a matter of you "allowing" her. A lot depends on how she will be traveling. If she is just going to board a plane, I think she'll be fine. If she's going to be driving that distance, I can see where you would be concerned. I traveled alone for the first time by plane when I was 13, 6000 miles, and I was just fine. When I was 19 I drove 3000 miles, from Italy to Budapest, Hungary with a couple of friends. I can empathize with your concern for your daughter's well being, but I honestly don't think you need to worry.
by LynfromNM on May 24th, 2008
It's not up to you to "allow" a 19 year old to do anything. The most you can do is help her prepare for a safe journey.
by judgebill on May 24th, 2008
First, in the eyes of the law she is an adult for most purposes. She is emancipated. Now, having said that, perhaps you haven't properly prepared her to deal with the world so it would be unwise for her to do this. Or, she may be overly naive and incapable of dealing with life because of personal limitations. But if you have done your job as a parent, 19 is old enough to marry, start a business, be bound by a contract, be a parent, vote in a federal election and much more. After all, if she's not prepared to do this at 19, what does she need to learn? Also, she can get into just as much trouble within 100 miles from home as within 1000 miles from home.
by science_geek on December 15th, 2008
At 19 she is an adult and able to do as she wishes. I would ask questions and give any pertinent advice, but the decision would be hers. I would never try to control an adult child of mine. I WANT my children to be independent, self sufficient adults.
by Ender is back.. And slightly confused. on July 29th, 2008
There is no "allow" when someone's 19 years old. There is only a choice between being supportive and unsupportive.
by killdrphil - reasonable for a madman on June 14th, 2008
Since she is 19 and an adult, the question is whether she would allow YOU to nag her about it.
by Kevisaurus is a Carnotaurus today on May 25th, 2008
She is an adult so she can do what she wants to so.
by Squirrel Face on May 25th, 2008
Yeah, probably. I would just be sure she had a cell phone so she could contact me if something went wrong.
by Jen-Jen on May 24th, 2008
My daughter would be an adult, and that would be her decision to make, and NOT mine.
by Tony in Brooklyn on December 15th, 2008
I would, simply because I have no legal right to tell another adult what they can, and can't do.
All I could do is hope I gave her the right guidance growing up, allowing her to make the best decisions in her own interest.
by devil is back on August 7th, 2008
Sure, why not?
by lizardqueen on July 29th, 2008
You shouldn't have to allow her, she's an adult.
by Blur79 on July 16th, 2008
Yes, she is an adult. Have confidence in yourself that you raised a responsible young lady.
by mistje on July 3rd, 2008
If you feel comfortable with how she behaves in the home and out with friends, and you trust that she has grown into a smart, wise young woman... then by all means have some faith in her and support her decision if this is what she really wants to do. I was 25 and I drove ALONE all the way from Wytheville, VA to Seattle, WA and loved every minute of the 11 days it took me to get there (I made it a very scenic, cross country trip LOL). I was smart... I stayed on highways (mostly... in California and Texas I took a few smaller scenic routes) and always made sure I had gas. I stopped when it started getting dark and I stopped at very busy intersections in cities I recognized by going over my trip beforehand. I called my mom every night, and she knew exactly the route I planned on taking.
And yes, of course technically you can't make her stay, but you can definitely give her good advice for the road and I am sure you guys can work out a plan for when she can call to check in, etc. Also, if it will make you feel more comfortable, ask her to give you the contact information for the friend and contact info for the hotels she plans on staying at on the way.
by Takei-Shihan on June 28th, 2008
19, yes ... 9, no.
For a 19 year old daughter, I would only want her to TELL me where she is going, and to call or email me a few times while she is there, just so I know she is OK, but the trip would be her decision, not mine.
by Anonymous on June 28th, 2008
In my case,19 is enough to do everything that she wants.
I am a Chinese girl who is studying in oversea,i remember that i left hometown when i was 18,at the moment,i am 20 years old,how interesting it is!
by Wise Latina on June 9th, 2008
Both my parents were dead when I was 20, I did lots of things by myself.
Kids go off to college at 18, and war.
Yes, she should be aloud. If you don't let her experience things, she'll end up stupid, and will marry the first idiot who asks her to.
by youth-travel-guide on June 8th, 2008
Yes!
But only if she researched how to be safe and smart while travelling.
www.youth-travel-guide.com
by ENigma on May 26th, 2008
As a parent I would be very anxious no doubt but I also remember the fuss I created when as a 19 year old I was barred from going on a trip with only another girl for company.
I think I would let her go but would request her to keep me posted about her itinerary .
by Annon on May 25th, 2008
You know, to be perfectly honest (and this will sound harsh as), if she, at 19, is coming to you to ask for PERMISSION to go on a road trip, you've failed the 'letting your baby fly free' part of parenting. Flunked it entirely. Where is she going to get ANY independence from if she needs to ak you about everything she does for the rest of her life?
This situation is just stupid. Here is Aus, about 50,000 18-year-olds from ALL OVER Aus gather in Surfers Paradise in Queensland for schoolies, where rape and drugging rates reach the highest they reach all year, and parents STILL pay for their kids to get there because it's THIER decision. We went interstate when we were 18 for schoolies, and we had a ball, AND we drove the whole way.
I'm sorry, but a 19-year-old asking for permission to go 1000 K's away is unheard of. If she had serious responsibilities, kids, uni course, maybe you could HINT to her not to go, but as it stands it seems that she doesn't, she only really needs to look out for herself at the moment, and you should let her do that. Let her go, dude.
by kelana on May 25th, 2008
Yes as long as she is intelligent enough to handle herself along the journey and at the foreign land.Its ok to be worried about her. You should contact her occasionally,just in case she might need your assistance.
by Sweet T on May 25th, 2008
I dont have a choice, they are adults and can do as they wish. I would make sure, she has a phone and money, a few basic mechanical instructions, and call her every 20 minutes or so......
by Merfish on May 25th, 2008
At 19 years old my daughter-in-law was in the Air Force. I guess that traveling plans would have been beyond my control at that age.
by Nathan Explosion on May 24th, 2008
Allow? You really have no choice in the matter. She is legally an adult and can make her own decisions. If she wants to go you can't do anything to stop her.
by Mr DominQuez Is Gone From AB on May 24th, 2008
Yes, because she is over 18. She's an adult who can make her own choices.
by Vampyre Bat on May 24th, 2008
If she's 19 I don't think there is a damn thing I can do about it because she is an adult.
by sloppywet on May 24th, 2008
no' try an get someone to travel with her' theres crazy people in this world.
by Done. never again. on May 24th, 2008
Yes, when I was 19 I was "allowed" to do this, or rather I was "approved" to do this. I got a ticket to see a friend for Christmas, and my parents are very overprotective, even though I was an adult. I don't think you can really not allow your daughter to see this friend, since she is an adult.
by ABnormally HappyVTguy moves to NH on May 24th, 2008
Of course.
by FiddlerontheRoof on November 19th, 2009
Yes, becuase it would teach her responsibility, it might be scary to let your girl out on her own at first, but it will teach her many things about adulthood.
by thinker2005 on October 25th, 2009
Well if she's very sexy. Has long kinky hair or even blonde. Anything to attract attention.
Long sexy legs? Works even better.
by leeks5229 on October 20th, 2009
No, I would not. I would if she travels with friends.
by brg1978 on October 20th, 2009
yes! she is an adult
by aero_panda on October 12th, 2009
i really would not like for her to go but i cant stop her she is 19 and will do what ever she wants but it would be a big no for me unless i really knew the friend and family
by Jane on September 27th, 2009
yes
by AnonymousGirl on September 27th, 2009
I'm a 19 year old and I think that it should be up to me because I am legally an adult. However, I think it'd be wise for my parents to give me advice at the same time and tell me what things to think about and to decide if I actually want to do this. I'd also think it'd be awesome for them to want to know where I'd be staying in case something went wrong. I don't think it would be very wise of me to just go off somewhere on my own without a solid backup plan should things go terribly wrong. Maybe when I'm a parent (if I ever end up being one), I'll have the same attitude towards this.
by Hayzen on September 12th, 2009
She's an adult now.
If you're against it, you can help her take the necessary precautions to keep her safe while she is on her trip.
by B-fish on September 12th, 2009
I wouldn't have a say in it. Since she's 19 you can't really stop her from going.
by Artemis on September 9th, 2009
Of course i mean she is an adult...
even if i would not let her she could go without asking my permission...
no offence to you but you remind me my cousin who would say to me that she would like to move alone when she bacame 20 but her parents wouldn't let her until she goes 24!I mean i travel by myself since my 12!And a lot of times alone to see a friend or a family member who was in brazil for holidays and etc...
Once i travelled to Russia when i was 13 to see my best friend who has moved...
I mean even if you don't want to let her she can go..
by Anonymous on August 18th, 2009
19 is an adult. How do you "allow" her to do anything?
by abby_thats my name.18 on August 4th, 2009
it wouldnt be my decision to make. Shes an adult she can make her own decisions without my input.
by Beavis - the other white meat on August 4th, 2009
I might discourage her from going, but I couldn't stop her, especially if she were my daughter.
by Anonymous on August 4th, 2009
She is 19 if u tell her what to do she won't be able to make her decisions.She has to make her on decisions to be able to make her on mistakes to learn from them and to teach her children from her experiance you can't take that away from her.Or she'll just be clueless.When you die u want to know that u tought her all u could.U want to know that she made her own problems and got out them by herself.Thats when u know ur job is complete.
by need2no on August 4th, 2009
plane yes, car no.
by fred flintstone on July 1st, 2009
"Allow" - what century / country are you living in?
Have you ever made a pilgrimage? to where?
by DA BEN DAN yanggui zi on May 25th, 2011
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What is the longest distance you've ever driven in one day?
by Cotton 201 on July 21st, 2011
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For long road trips, do you prefer to drive at night? What impact does the closing of rest stops have on your trip?
by GibsonGuy on August 22nd, 2011
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GPS, roadmap or mapquest?
by Bornabrit on May 24th, 2011
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Traveler(s) are on a road trip and they stop by to ask you directions, what do you do/what do you say?
by Mr.Wolf aka Nicholas_1007 is back! =D on May 27th, 2011
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Wait you think its being a control freak if I would say she cant go ??? I am just curious !!
Thanks for answering :)
by loveschimps on May 24th, 2008
Yes, I do. She's 19, and it is her decision. You have no right, nor any authority, to say she can't go. You need to let go.
by AntigoneRising on May 24th, 2008
thanks for your input, I appreciate your honesty...
by loveschimps on May 25th, 2008
XD Oh no.
No matter how old a person is, their parent always has an authority over their them. This is a simple matter of respect that has been overseen for centuries and that is becoming forgotten and erased.
She has every right and authority, although it is the child's decision, now that they are over age, to obey.
I myself would let her go, I think at her age she can fend for herself. :)
by dark ink. on June 3rd, 2009