What is the precise definition of "cheating." If cheating is both physical and psychological, where do we draw the line? Does my casually looking at other women in the street constitute cheating?
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There's emotional cheating and then there's physically cheating. If you're talking to another woman about problems that you should be talking to me about, then that's emotional. Of course everyone know what cheating physically is. And no, looking at another female is not cheating... I look at other men, so my boyfriend can look at other females. I look at other females also. I can appreciate beauty. But that doesn't mean I want to act on it.
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The precise definition is being unfaithful/deceitful to your partner. So "cheating" can vary from one person to the next. I've met couples who felt that oral sex isn't cheating and to them, it's really not because neither were hiding it from each other. I know another couple that thinks cheating is when you feel emotional closeness to another person other than each other and don't say anything to the partner. Some say having lunch with another person is cheating. I think for the most part, you looking at other women does not constitute cheating because we all have eyes and we all appreciate beautiful things. But if you're taking it as far as undressing the women, imagining them doing all freaky, nasty things to you or you to them, then it is kinda like cheating. I call that mental rape. However, I do not think it's cheating if a man "occasionally" fantasizes about another woman, as long as the other woman isn't someone he "could" have...like a real person...a coworker, a friend, an ex, etc.
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Men and women are naturally drawn to beauty. Sometimes it can be in competition, appreciativeness, jealousy, or even lust. So it really does depend on how you look at other women. Are you lusting over them? Or are you appreciating their beauty? Lusting over a woman isn't neccessarily cheating physically, but it sure is emotionally/psychologically. A person shouldn't be lusting over another person if they are involved in a relationship. Why? Because their other should be all that matters. They shouldn't need someone else to want love from. So cheating comes in all sorts of forms. It isn't always physical and psychological. So this goes all the way back to the beginning, how are you looking at other women? In what way? It all depends.
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If you are looking at someone and thinking about having sex with that person, yes, it's being unfaithful to your S/O. If it's something you wouldn't do openly in front of the other person or freely tell them about it without any guilt feelings and they might find any hurt in it, it's cheating and disloyalty, again. Admiring how someone looks doesn't have to include sex, but thinking on it, letting it dwell in your hart is the first step towards it being physical. You don't do anything unless you think about it first in some way.
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No, it doesn't. It's males innate nature to look at a woman and think certain sexual thoughts.... As long as you know you wouldn't actually do that, then you should be in the clear, but everyone's conscious determines their own individual level of guilt, so, while it's only natural for a man to look, and think for a split second about that woman, it's up to that particular man to decide just how wrong or okay it is for him to do that.
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Cheating does not need to be "both" physical and psychological - it can be either one. Perfectly normal (as so many others have said) for you to casually look at another woman. Men are very visual and are visually stimulated. It is part of your make-up. LEERINg at a woman or constantly looking at other women to the degree that it is noticable and distracting or disturbing is a problem.
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Would you mind if i was your girlfriend and i was looking at other men exactly the same way? Or your wife would you get jealous?
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